I have a crush on my friend.?

Question

Okay I have a crush on my best friend.But he is currently dating.Now in this couple they kiss,hug,and crap that 2 kids in "love" do.But we are in a VERY flirty relationship.And I care for him.But he thinks I like his buddy.And we once almost kissed.WE DIDN'T!!!but if we did it would have been great still he thinks were just some moments that ment nothing.I guess my point is how do I tell him I love him,I need him,and I want him?HELP!!!

Answer 1

Please approach this situation with extreme caution. These situations are very difficult/confusing so try not to be rash, since there is a possibility it may potentially cause havoc and/or jeopardize your friendship.I most humbly ask since your best friend is in a relationship, whether passionate or trivial, the most sound thing may be not to interject especially if the girlfriend may be possessive. While on the other hand if you believe that it may ignite the most passionate relationship you could have imagined, "go get your man, girl !" To help make better make your decision ask yourself this question: "Which proceeds 'my love' or 'our friendship' ?" answering this question will ultimately guide you to the route best for you, and only you! And these actions will hopefully lead you in the direction of your objective.

...Still cant make a decision
Then wait it out until your heart decides which is best for you.


...Pursuing him but you are nervous
You should probably try speaking with him in privacy that way you will be able to speak to him in confidence.


Regardless your decision, I wish you luck and making the best decision for your situation.

Answer 2

I've been through this before.
I think you might be confused about this friend. How often do you two hang out together? Does your heart actually beat faster when he's around you, or do you just feel a certain fondness for him? Do you get jealous when he's with his current partner?
If you do, the jealousy could be just because you don't feel like sharing your best friend to another woman, because this would mean his spending less time with you. It's perfectly normal for a woman to want a guy to shower all his attention on her, even if she doesn't have THAT kind of feeling for him.
If he's already in a relationship and you two still almost kissed, it means he's cheating on his current girlfriend. Confront him about it. He sounds like he's confused between the two of you too. Ask him to make a choice, and when he does, respect his decision.

Answer 3

This may sound stupid but l think you already have him.The point i m trying to convey here is guys go for their bestfriends when the choice is given.So I think you should remain friends .As for you alone you can love him without expecting anything in return (try it out if you are really in love this must feel good ).If you get too jealous and in a state where you cant take it any more just tell your fren what you have on mind.Hopefully he will understand and appreciate the fact about you and all the things you went through. Good luck.

Answer 4

Apparently you have no idea about what friendship is, as well as what real love is. Little girl you are in heat, you are feeling all of these feelings because he is not available.He does not want you as a girlfriend, because if he did he would have asked you by now.Do not waste your time spooning over a guy whom only thinks of you as a little sister.Back off and look further afield for a boyfriend. Save your dignity, keep your mouth shut and be happy for your friend.

Answer 5

you know, you call your friend a "kid", doesn't that consider you a kid to? my point is, we, at this age in our lives, being young, don't know what the heck love is. You might really like him though. Everyone knows that if you get really close with your best friend of the opposite sex, you are bound to like them. It's happened to me, and it has happened to a lot of my friends. I told my friend the truth, that I couldn't stand seeing him with another girl, and that it tore my up inside, he actually felt the same way about me. To this day we have been together for 10 and a half months! He's my best friend. Tell him the truth, it isn't easy, but you would feel so much better getting it off your chest, and he would apprecaite knowing how you felt. heop this helps. One more thing though, if he is happy with his girlfriend, that is one thing you don't want to do. Don't sabatoge their relationship for yourself, in the end of that, the only thing that could come out of that is pain for both of them.... and don't you want him to be happy? Good luck.

Answer 6

Email him your question from here. I would just tell him that if he ever finds himself seperated from his current girlfriend that you would like it if he would consider seeing if your relationship can have any more to it. But do not come in the middle of his current relationship or you may find out that you don't have a best friend anymore

Answer 7

you can tell him how you feel, but there's a chance he's not romantically interested in you if he's already dating someone else. And you might end up loosing a good friend if things become akward afterwards. But if you like him that much, I say go for it.

Answer 8

You should keep him as friend because best friends are really rare but guys you can have bad relationships with are plentiful.

Answer 9

okay i would just talk to him and say i know me and you have been friends along time but some where in the time we where friends i fell in love with you and i have been ever since that is what i would say

Answer 10

First thing to do is make sure he knows you have no interest in his friend. Then, be more obvious in the flirting, I think