2006-08-11 17:11:10 · 14 answers · asked by gigglestp76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess it depends on whether or not you consider yourself a Christian.
If you are not a Christian, then the world says, whenever you want for any or no reason.
However if you consider yourself a Christian, then the parameters are totally different. According to the Bible, the only justified reason for divorce is physical adultery, you can't judge anothers heart so :(Mat 5:28 KJVA) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.: doesn't apply. Only God can judge the heart, and He will on judgment day.
2006-08-11 17:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Back Porch Willy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce should be the result of exhausting all other options. Bear in mind that marriage is not a fairy tale and both people in the relationship have to put forth tremendous effort in order for the union to last. There must be some key elements:
COMMITTMENT
COMMUNICATION
COMPROMISE
HONESTY
TRUST
If the relationship is lacking in these areas it's up to both parties to decide if they want to build these factors in the situation. Lots of people think that love is an emotion (a feeling) and that is all it takes to make the relationship work, however true love in action is endurance, tolerance, and patience. The biblical definition of love can be found in I Corinthians 13 in the bible and it involves so much more than a feeling. Again divorce should be a last resort option after you have done all that you can to make the situation work and there is no progress then it's time to let it go and move on because life is too short to live to get to the end of your life and discover that you spent the majority of it in misery and get caught up in the shoulda woulda coulda mentality.
2006-08-11 17:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a divorce when your spouse cheats or when you are thinking of cheating and not attracted to your spouse anymore. Second reason would be if you can't express yourself fully to your spouse (Any way of expression). Thirdly when their is no intimacy left and you try to bring it back and the other doesn't take any inititive towards it. I'm not saying get a divorce at the drop of a feather but if you two can't fix the major problems, then you can't be one. Plus if one is not letting the other be expressive in any way then their is problems.
2006-08-11 17:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by joyell222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, you should never have to get a divorce...
But unfortunatley things happen..i think the time is when the other party has commited gross misconduct like having a baby with someone else, or when they refuse to work with you on the marriage.
If you are just having "doubts" you are wrong for ever having considered getting married.
2006-08-11 17:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you tried and failed at all the other options available to you and you start asking strangers on yahoo for advice. Honey, that answer is going to be different for everyone. You know, and only you will know, when it's time for you to file for divorce. Don't let anyone else tell you different.
2006-08-11 17:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....when you have exhausted all the sources to save your marriage, when you have tried counseling and didn't work, when you try any couples therapy and didn't work, when you have done all things possible to rescue what is missing in your relationship....when there is no interest in both parts on trying to repair your marriage and the most important thing WHEN THERE IS NO MORE LOVE, then....just then ..you should get a divorce.
2006-08-11 17:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my answer: When being alone looks better to you than being in the relationship anymore. I've been there: I got a divorce.
2006-08-11 17:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by writer272002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people need to try harder and fight for their marriages instead of taking the easy way out. To me though if he or she breaks any of the major vows i think your free to divorce because God know they broke their promise and i don't think he will blame you especially in the case of adultery not only biblically be smart they could bring home a disease or in the case of domestice violence because you can get seriously hurt that way to love others as YOURSELF to many people forget to love themselves and eat to much crap. Life is to short to put up with abuse and to me adultery and violence is abuse and worth leaving for even if it's not that bad because it usually gets worst. Godbless
2006-08-11 17:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right after you ask this question because by then you have already given up, your heart is already broken and so is the trust in your Marriage
2006-08-11 21:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the other has breeched the marriage vows so badly that theres no turning back, and when there is physical harm to you or children involved..
2006-08-11 17:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋