If your husband told you after you were married that he had a child on the way would you stay. Then he brings home a photo with him, child and mom to hang in the house what would you do? Then says it's his baby if you dont like it leave do you stay? Then says they'll gonna have another child in a year what would you do?
Personally I would leave but my friend is in this situation and wants answers so i post them to you.She got married in dec. was told about the pregnancy in Jan and baby born in june. She's 40 and he is 28.The baby mother is 35 and turned down his proposal in nov. He then asked her who had no idea that he'd asked the other. Again what would you do?
2006-08-11 17:05:50 · 17 answers · asked by tastyflow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She tried in vitro back in may and it didn't take. I told that that was wrong but she got involved with him knowing he was with the other woman. Basically she's getting what she deserves.The other woman was pregnant when she started calling him.They had dated for 6yrs and apart for 3yrs.she wont have sex with him at all.He spent their honeymoon with the other girl who also didn't know about her.And she and he want to be together but my friend wont get a divorce or anulled she doesnt want another failed marriage. The sad part is she calling the other woman's home telling her to stay away from her husband.She got the number from his cell phone.His family is telling her to mind her bussiness. This is nuts and she's his supervisor at work found out today he's looking for another job.Found out from her supervisor.He's trying to leave she's stupid for keeping him.My opinion.
2006-08-11 17:27:18 · update #1
Tell your friend that her husband has been totally dishonest, decietful, and disrespectful to her and it seems as she is just a fill in for the one he truly wants to be with. Tell her to leave him because the marriage was based on a lie from the beginning. Nobody wants to be in a relationship that is based on lies. She can do SOOOOOO much better - even if she decides to stay single after this fiasco she will be doing much better. People only treat us the way we allow them to - tell her to gather her courage and walk away.
2006-08-11 17:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kids involved between the two of them ur friend and him that is??? if not, leave.. the marriage was based on a lie.. and she has every right at this point to have it annuled.. so i would leave.. let him deal with his "family" the x and the child.. if he not only has one child already and then the mere fact of saying that he wants to have another with her in the future, thats not a marriage, he breeched their vows and he's planning on breeching them again , get out now, its a new marriage, alot easier to leave now then 5 to 10 years down the road..
2006-08-12 00:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt have any children by him, she should seek a divorce and take his nasty azz to the cleaners
If she does have kids, she should probably think about it a little
I would kick the broad and the baby out of my crib...how the hell is that dude going to bring someone else in to the house, what the hell is that, she needs to put her foot down.
Many, many years ago my dad tried to pull some BS like that with his "son"...my mom laid down the law once and for all, and has never had problems with that again.
2006-08-12 00:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would understand a baby picture, because the baby is his. But why the need to have pictures of the other woman?? That is just mean. 1) HE CHEATED 2) HE HAS A BABY WITH HER 3) HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS. 4) HE IS HAVING ANOTHER CHILD WITH THE OTHER WOMAN Your friend needs to leave. She also needs professional help to get her self esteem up.
2006-08-12 00:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well definitely would try by any means to avoid such situation in life. 28 and 40! very very crazy.
if the guy accepts both of them as wife they can stay together. if not suggest your friend to terminate and leave this relationship immediately.
2006-08-12 00:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to leave and get her own life.. not be in the midst of someone elses soap opera. She will never get any peace and quiet. Good Luck.
2006-08-12 00:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was playing them both. I would have the marriage annulled. it would be like it never happened. I couldn't trust him after this,and a marriage is based on trust. Tell her to leave him.
2006-08-12 00:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by jess_brenda_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez DUMP him ! What's wrong with her?
Doesn't she think she deserves better ? What's she doing with a 28 yr old anyway? He's obviously immature.
2006-08-12 00:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has lied from day 1. He will continue to lie forever.
2006-08-12 01:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by dtammyus♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to muster up what little dignity she has left and leave. the guy doesn't love her. he is busy having kids with someone else. she is just going to be miserable.
2006-08-12 00:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋