i rareely go to clubs coz im afraid of going alone, donno y, well im shy.i dont have alot of friends, the only friends i got are friends that i talk to once in a while,just to catch up and thats it.alot of chics approach me coz i think they are fascinated by my looks but once they talk to me and they see how i am (shy and not too interestin),some of them loose interest.in other words,im trying to find a way of being more courageous and approaching people easily without worrying about what they thinkin of me.any ideas???please dont tell me just to walk up to people and kick-start a conversation coz thats easier said than done in my situation.
2006-08-11 16:57:38 · 13 answers · asked by mykall306 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i used to be extremely shy i would never do anything that would make people see me, but know when i start to feel like that i just think to my self and say "there is probably people around me thinking the same thing, and when will i ever see these people again and even if i do i they were probably to drunk to remember everything. then i basically scream in my head WHO CARES!!"
hope this will help
2006-08-11 17:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by AJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of that u are unique and there is something about you a talent or anything, that no one el´se in the world can do as you do
Feel the uniqueness
Then even the mistakes u make by approaching someone become precious
U cant be friends with everyone
be your friend first
then friends come along
Dont push
2006-08-11 17:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by T.B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are a conceited little man, so how is it that you are so shy? And secondly proper use of the english language might impress the girls more that the slang that you have used to ask this question. Try reading some papers or internet articles and use these as a way to break the ice with the women rather than the teenage rap boy impression.
2006-08-11 17:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everybody feels fear... even the ones who don't show it. Your fear is that you're not interesting. What are you interested in? Look for that...make an effort to pursue your own interests...whatever they are....investigate your mind, your fascinations....it won't necessarily get you laid... but it might get you into a good conversation with someone...and it sounds like your smart enough to know that a good conversation makes a far better night than staring at a nice butt while feeling lonely!
2006-08-11 17:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by markus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think a littel like. dont get personal. hows the wather with a knowing smile could be a start if shes smart. its the ice braker.hay i said knowing not a lear. dont expect any thing. when thay aproch you play ther game. thay will give you what you need. how thay act and what thay say will let you know. how you doing is kind of low brow. i dont like it.hi can i buy you a drink is very commen.would you like to dance not a slow one yet.
2006-08-11 17:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by brakedown61301 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're looking in the wrong place...
...people who are going to clubs are mostly just looking for one night stands.
...everyone's different, but personally speaking, being a girl and all, i have to be friends with the person first. if i talked to someone with the intent on finding a boyfriend, i wouldn't know what to think. i just can't do that. maybe you should try meeting people elsewhere?
...unless, of course, you're just looking for a one-night stand.
oh, and, you sound sweet. don't believe that old saying that girls only like bad guys. that's ridiculous. what girls are really looking for are guys with character; who know who they are and are comfortable with themselves.
2006-08-11 17:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man my life is the same exact story. i am 16. a lot of people approach me at school to become freinds and stuff but when they get to know me they realize that i m not that funny or interseting. i dont know what to do either.
2006-08-11 18:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is exactly the same way, good looking but 21 and never dated. The first thing is why go to a club? Try church, Jesus can help you and who knows you may find the girl for you.
2006-08-11 17:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The drug Paxil helps some people. Talk to your doctor.
2006-08-11 17:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..mayb u just think u r attractive..lol. uh..j.k hmm..say if a girl comes up to you instead of the old 'hi hows it goin' say 'hi, wanna get goin, I like it rough.' heheheh. No, u will most likely be slapped, ummm...sry u got me puzzled. I guess tht would work for a particularly fiesty girl...but mayb not. Don't sue me if u get shot...
2006-08-11 17:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋