Half the time I make it up or have sex with my husband to shut him up.
I just dont have much interest in sex and NO im not gay I like men but I really wish mine had a brain and not just a penis.
We have a kid together as well.
I have never had much interst in sex, not even before him.
I always wanted to do things and go places, not just sit around the house watching tv and having sex before bed.
I am also not attracted to my husband, his attitude and negativity have just gotten to me.
And the few times he's physically assualted me.
I have told him this and he just acts like its no big deal and get over it.
Iam becoming very depressed about this.
I am a SAHM, Im not ugly, Im not fat and I feel like life is wasting away.
I dont work because any time I even mentioned I wanted a job he said whose gonna look after the kid and then he'll accuse me of going to cheat on him with someone at work, like his ex did to him. I dont know what to do????
2006-08-11 16:51:01 · 15 answers · asked by Sheena H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and I have a lot in common, except I don't have any children. Forget about the sex, try and find a way out, that's what I'm trying to do.I love sex, but I have no desire to have it with my husband, he's a macho mexican and I'm tired of him controlling me. I'm beautiful, but have weight issues because food is easier to deal with than my husband.My husband never takes me anywhere, watches t.v. with his brother and then wants to have sex with me before bed. We have been going to counseling for 6 months and nothing has happened to help us. Get out. Find a way out, look for a job, go to school on line, find a friend to help you, or find a shelter. I'm not sure of your area, but there are a lot of shelters that will take you and your child. We need to set boundaries in our lives, believe in ourselves, and love ourselves.
2006-08-11 17:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what is a SAHM?
Second, how long have you dated this guy before you married him?
Third, why did you accept his marriage proposal? Out of need?
Sounds like you two talked about anything but the important things during your dating days/months. People don't suddenly "change" after marriage, that's a myth. It's us who choose to ignore the warning signs. I'm speaking from personal experience (I'm divorced).
2006-08-11 17:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? He physically assaults you and you're not attracted to him? Imagine that. There's no way you have to stay with this control freak. Your sex drive is the least of your problems, sister. Get away from him before he does real damage to you and/or your child. Your life IS wasting away and will continue to do so until you take control. So, take care of yourself and then tackle the libido problem.
2006-08-11 17:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by huztuno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like resentment over control issues
you seem to be in a relationship in a downward spiral
hope you can pull the nose up and put the landing
gear down before the crash ---- violance and arguing
not the answer neither is living an arrangement --
it only becomes bitter good luck
2006-08-11 17:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by oddbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to go see a doctor.. but i can tell u this, my best friend, her sex drive went to almost non exsistent right before she hit her peak which then she couldnt get enough so that could be what your going through but just in case id go see a doctor
2006-08-11 16:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not attracted to him,then why don't you leave him? he hit you. do you want your child to grow up with a violent temper? Think about your baby,put his needs first right now. You need to get out before things get way ot of hand. Good luck and if you ever need someone to talk to I'll listen.
2006-08-11 16:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by jess_brenda_04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My intercourse stress has remained consistent after 30. regardless of if, whilst the spirit is keen the physique is many times vulnerable. so some distance as i know, a guy's intercourse stress maintains to be till the distant is pried out of his ineffective hands.
2016-10-01 23:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people are different as far as sex drive. Mine gets lowered when I have alot going on or if i am tired. Talk to your doctor or get proffessional help/
2006-08-11 17:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be time to think about leaving him. If he has assulted you, then you aren't in a healthy relationship. Do you really want your child to grow up in a household with negativity and abuse? You need to get your priorities straight.
2006-08-11 17:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your Dr. about your feelings of being low. And also with parents and/or friends to give you the support you are going to need!!!! This may end in a divorce, but I hope he can change!!
2006-08-11 16:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋