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My wife gets to stay at home with the kids. 8 years and she has only worked 8 months of that. I am still very attracted to her I am always grabing her but and trying to kiss her. Sex is only convineient when she is ready and that is not much. It has been that way for the entire 8 years we have been married. I dont know what to do I am only conerned with pleasing my wife in any way and I mean any way!! But she cannot touch me unless it is time in her mind. I am to a point I almost cannot take it anymore. I know we have kids and I love them. But we need our time to keep our relationship strong. I am pretty sure she has not cheated but some times I wonder. I feal like she is not attracted to me at all. I feal I am a decent looking guy I am in no way a brad pitt but I am not ugly. At this time we only have sex about 1 time every 2 weeks. I am around 6 inches but she has a min of 3 orgasms and up to 7 each time we do it. Well I think she does. I am just confused and wondering

Answer 1

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Answer 2

You will not believe how much energy children can take out of you. Being a stay at home mom is more than a full time job. I think it would be a good idea for you to talk to her about the way you feel. Let her know how much you love and desire her. However, you shouldn't make her feel pressured for sex at that moment. Also, let her know that because you love her, you understand how much her day pulls energy from her. Offer to rub her feet, draw a nice bubble bath, light a few candles.

Only you know your wife. We don't. However, as a woman and single working mother, I would have given "almost" anything to have someone pick up half the slack. Now that my children are adults, I don't know what to do with myself from timet to time.

Sweetheart, you need to stop counting the months and the years and be more understanding. She will definitely come around. I'm sure you guys will be able to re-kindle the fire once she feels appreciated and reminded that she is your woman first. We all like to feel special and sexy. All you have to do is remind her.

Answer 3

First off "My wife gets to say home" She gets to!! Sometimes for some thats not a good thing!!!! Make sure thats really waht she wants and not what she thinks should be done, she may need to work for her own good. I very much tend to be the same way as your wif, infact I had to wonder if you were him!!!!. I have to say i love my husband very much, we have been to some marriage counceling, and the counceler say 2-3x per week is average. Average mind you comes from the people who have sex 2-3x's per day and the 2-3x's per week. So that dosent make your sex life wrong, but the feeling you feel do, your hurt and reaching elsewhere and I know you know I wont even go there. But marriage counceling was hard but really made me look into my heart of hearts.

Sounds like your wife may be faking a bit, thats a bit much for whats going on! Good luck!!!

ALso make sure you all are checked for depression, I know I have that issue!!!

Answer 4

You are so fine. It is not you. I am going through the same thing with my husband. I think being at home all day shifts you into MOM mode. Mom mode makes you feel so unsexy. Brad Pitt could come in the room and all you would want him to do is help out. Staying at home maybe the best for the kids or maybe most affordable because of daycare costs. But it drains a mother, You are at work and out and about. Your wife probally has given up on her self. It is all for the kid and house work. Its not that your not sexy or please her to the fullest. That isnt what a women wants. Get Men are from mars and women are from venus. We are truly different. She needs to get an outlet to feel sexy, that is why it seems as it is up to her all the time. Perhaps counciling would help. But Men are from mars and Women are from venus comes on audio. My friend loaned it to me. I thought it was weird until I listened to it.

Answer 5

You need to talk to her about this. Tell her how it makes you feel. She probably doesn't realize you feel so badly about this. I am a stay at home mom and know from experience that after taking care of kids all day, housework, running errands etc... sex can just seem like an extra chore at the end of the day. I like some time to relax. If my husband gives me time to myself in the evening (ie: he bathes the baby, does dishes) I find myself more likely to want sex. Women need time to unwind. You guys work from x time to x time but us.... well we are never finished. I also like it when my husband talks to me in the evening. Talk about our days, the kids, anything really. I get more turned on if I think he actually cares about what I do during the day instead of just about how his work was. I also like it when he does subtle things like rubbing my back, massaging my shoulders, kissing my neck. He is a butt grabber too and sometimes after being hung on by the baby all day I just don't feel like being touched, let alone grabbed at so these subtle things work better. Hope this helps some.

Answer 6

Perhaps she does not feel sexy any more. If she is not liking herself/body, it will put a strain in the bedroom. Don't act as if you are a hungry wolf though ready to devour it's prey either. Take some time to talk to her as you kiss and love her. I had an ex that gave me only time for sex and nothing more and it made me feel cheap and unloved, so try more time with her as well. A guy interested in every way is not easily passed by. (If you get my hint) Good luck

Answer 7

I don't know how old you both are but here's my $.02. Have you had a talk with her about this? If not, it's probably a good time to start. Also, some women have naturally low sex drive due to their hormones. I don't know if there's a fix for this but you can try to find out. Last, maybe she's not feeling too good about herself. Is she going through some problems or stress? Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all.

Answer 8

It don't sound like she is cheating on you it sound like you two need to get away to a different place to have some fun.It will i believe it will take a little bit to get thing ok .Talk to her and see if you two can spent a day or nite away from home to get some time along to talk and maybe be have sex the way you can both enjoy it.Good luck

Answer 9

I think it's too late now to leave her... but you need to talk with her. I'm sure you have already tried that so maybe seek outside help from a marriage councelor or sex therapist. If she's on birth control that can lower her drive considerably. Maybe try bringing in some toys or romancing her with flowers and chocolates.

Answer 10

sounds like youre the one making the effort in this relationship and as for the orgasms shes probably faking it i get the feeling shes a bit frigid, and most frigid people dont enjoy sex enough to have an orgasm seek help maybe a marriage counselor and join one of those sex seminars no offense but its women like her that always end up wondering why their men cheat!! hmm!!!!!

Answer 11

2 weeks?! You're Lucky!

Wait until it's in the teens!!! It gets Real sad!