how do you tell your child were getting a divorce?

Answer 1

this is a long one

Answer 2

Both you Together if you can do it calmly and reasonably as friends. Also, the others advice about a Counselor or just some adult besides the parents, that is objective (not taking sides) and that the child can easily confide is a great idea, because your child is going to need someone to confide in, as you would never want them to hold the resentment, anger, guilt, unhappiness and even depression inside for too long or at all if it can be helped. Make sure the child understands that
you all as it's the parents who are divorcing each other and that the child is still going to have mom and dad.

Answer 3

Just be honest...he or she probably already knows that something big is up. Whether the child is 2 or 12, don't belittle the child by not giving him or her the whole picture. And make sure to never ever use the child in any way, either during the divorce or after. Good luck!

Answer 4

well telling a child (yours in this case) will be very difficult because the child might take it very bad because they feel that if they live with one parent then they will never get to see the other. so if you want to tell your child all you have to do is say..... "i am very sorry,but me and your father/mother will not be seeing each other for a long time" now if the child is much more older... then you just tell your child the real truth that you are having a divorce. after you say that then you say... "i am very sorry but that is how it is going to be you can visit father/mother on school breaks and holidays (some holidays). Then let the child choose whom it would prefer to stay with.

Answer 5

As soon as possible. Long as they know they will be looked after that's all that matters. They are smarter than you think and will play it to there advantage if you are feeling guilty. I was divorced when my boys were 3 and 7, now they are 21 and 25 and everybody is doing O.K. No blame No B.S. just the facts...

Answer 6

Not over the phone. My loser brother in law did it that way. WRONG. SIt them down at home and tell them, I would before school starts again. Make sure they know they are loved and that it isnt their fault. I am going through a divorce myself I have a 3 year old, he doesnt get it, but my daughter who is 13. I told her that we were getting a divorce. A week or two later we were in the car and I turned to her and said its not your fault in any way. I had to pull over and she just cried and said no one ever told her that. Make sure they know they are not to blame.

Answer 7

That's a very tough and sensitive issue. You know your child the best, so you'll know how to approach the initial subject. I think it's more important that you pay close attention to him AFTER he hears the news. Watch for depression and altered behaviour and talk to your child...all of the time. Even make special days just for the two of you....AND no matter what, don't talk trash about your ex to your child. That is the child's father and he relates himself to each parent, so in essence you are trashing your child himself..how horrible would that make him feel?

Best of luck through this trying time...you'll make it.

Answer 8

Sit them down and explain what is going on and be sure to let that child know that it is NOT their fault, because children tend to blame theme selves for a divorce. I thought it was all my fault when my parents divorced for years until someone at church told me other wise.

Answer 9

Set them down and tell them that you are seperating for a while because you can't get along. Ease them into the whole divorce. It is going to be hard on them either way.

Answer 10

if you are to the point of divorce ,your child probably already knows that you two are not happy, so just sit down with your child and explain what a divorce is.........make sure that the child knows it's not their fault and that you and the father still loves him/her very much....................

Answer 11

You both brought them into the world and you are both still their parents and need to work together in raising them and being civil to each other in front of them, they are hurting enough.

They still need you both, and you need to put your differences aside and both be there for them at all times when they need you.

And understanding of their feelings, alot of younger children tend to blame themselves for their parents divorcing, and you need to sit them down (both of you perferably) and let them know "WHY" this happened, and that it's not their fault. They know alot more than you think, it's best just to be honest with them.

Try and get along is the biggest thing, you may "hate" each other, but they are YOUR children and never bad mouth each other in front of them.