i know, i never forget him. but tell me how i can try to forget him?
plz reply... I want to hate her. is there any possibility to forget him?
2006-08-11 16:29:13 · 13 answers · asked by jas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They say there's a thin line between love and hate. It will take TIME. It won't happen right away, but it will. Be patient. You are going through a mourning process. Eventually things will look good again. It's up to you if you care enough about yourself to go through the process and be stronger for it.
2006-08-11 16:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never aim to be someone's enemy or hate a person. Truly, would you rather be friends with someone or enemies with someone? Isn't it easier to just be kind to someone and not have to deal with the bitterness, the discomfort, and the expectation of unkindness from the other person? The fact that you are having resistance means that you have doubts about this and you see good in this other person. This is because people are not evil. People act and think in particular ways because of specific experiences that they have.
Just consider this proposition: just about everybody thinks that they are right in their opinions, thoughts, actions, everything that they do. They may not be able to support them against other people, but at the moment that they do or say something, they think that they are doing the right thing. This is a common quality among all people, something that you and this person that you want to hate have in common: you both think that you're right. And people are very stubborn when they think that they are right, to the extent that they are willing to hurt others. People do bad things to each other for what they think to be good reasons.
Try your very best to see things from this other person's perspective. And look at what you're saying- you really want to internalize hatred and focus your mind on everything that is bad about a particular person. What good does this do you to focus on something that is not only negative but also false? If it turns out that you're partially wrong and that you had some participation in this falling-out because of your own faults, then these same qualities will turn up in the future and hurt you again and again, and you'll continue blaming other people.
Just think about how damaging hate is. People have killed each other, tortured and maimed each other in the past for no reason at all but that they wanted to justify labeling another person as evil. Whatever positive feelings friendship gives you, hatred will only give you the opposite.
Think about your own mistakes in the past where you knew you were wrong, and think about how badly you wanted others to forgive you and to accept you again as an imperfect human being, but one worthy of positive regard and empathy. Just about all people react in this manner, including the object of your hatred. I hope you are able to settle this in a positive manner.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-12 00:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Clueless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hating someone takes up too much of your time & energy. and it weighs too heavily on you emotionally. i would say forget him. get a good cry first then keep your distance. stop communicating with that non-entity ;p.
not just physical distance but also "mental" distance. what i mean is, you got to keep him out of your thoughts:
keep your mind busy on other things. go out more. try new things and meet new people. every time you catch yourself thinking about him, push the thought away and do something else that will need your full concentration.
and you know what,? one day, you'll find out you're having the time of your life and you don't need him to be there to make you happy. you just plain don't care about him anymore.
2006-08-11 23:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by mhackey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont, hates way to strong, and besides i couldnt explain it to you even if i wanted to, i cant hate anyone, i dislike some people and are always argueing with a coupl of my simi friends, but im always there for them even if theyre not for me, im never able to hate anyone,
you just have to forget, and if not forget, then forgive but remember, everything happens for a reson, so what ever happened there was a reason, in 10 years, go back and check on whoever wronged you, you'll find, that things always come back to haunt you......
2006-08-12 00:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Leesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i am having to get over my ex. well just dont think about him( i know its hard) but start search for a new guy and maybe it can be one of this guys friends and then he probably will get jealous and want you back ?
2006-08-11 23:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Deslane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a quote: " Never mind those persons who are not important to you."
2006-08-11 23:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by James F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here are a few playground quotes:
"don't hate the player, hate game"
"don't hate, appreciate"
2006-08-11 23:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be like I hate you.
2006-08-11 23:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by razorblade_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sososososo simple just hate them
2006-08-11 23:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by anie_is_cool2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT HATE..............DELETE HER FROM YOUR MIND, THINK OF THE GOOD TIMES..
2006-08-11 23:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by BUD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋