What type of come-on can you do --words, touches, etc. to get a married man to have an affair or even just one night. This man and I are insanely attracted to each other and have admitted it to each other, but alas we're both married. I have fallen in love with him, and will risk it all if he will. No lectures on the sanctity of marriage. I know...
2006-08-11 15:56:52 · 36 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry no response to your direct question and I know you said you don't want a lecture so I'm not going to give one BUT why are you married if you can't remain faithful to your vows. Perhaps you should divorce and do what you please.
2006-08-11 16:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you honestly believe that two marriages that end in infidelity will really work out. You obviously cant stay faithful to the ones you are married to and I bet in the beginning of your relationhsip with your husband you felt that same chemistry. I am not talking about the sanctity of marriage I am talking about how LAZY both of you got to not communicate with your spouse and find happiness again. Somewhere along the way you both gave up and if thats all you want to do is give up on ones you vowed to love, you will be married and divorced all your life. Love is a commitment. Lust is a one night stand. Your tempted by lust not love.
2006-08-11 16:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this ain't a lecture. But you need to re-examine your definition of Love...there is no way you are in love with this guy, you don't know him. And IF you were, where would it go? Why would you want to screw up what you have over a fling with a married guy. Even IF he and you were to make it together, how would you ever have peace of mind, knowing the next fling will be at your expense? What goes round does come round....no ifs, ands, or buts. Purely on a sanity level, there is no way you could ever trust him. IF he does it with you, he will do it to you. Simple as that. Good luck OH, and by the way, there is NOTHING you can do to get a guy in bed who is not going to end up there anyway. MEN are not stupid, do have control, find NOTHING that irresistable, regardless of what you have heard or think.
2006-08-11 16:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know? Obviously you don't know or you wouldn't be asking this question.
If you want this other man then something is missing in your marriage. Either try to fix it or hit the road. If this guy you want is willing to have an affair then there is something missing in his marriage. He needs to fix it or hit the road. Why don't you be adult about it and be up front with your partner.
I'm not just dishing out of judgement here. I speak from experience. It may seem great and exciting now. But soon you'll find yourself at the point of no return and you'll realize that you've hurt a lot of people. Is it worth that?
2006-08-11 16:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Amelia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you really think you would go through your whole marriage, 50 or more years without have any sexual feelings for anyone other than your husband? You did not avoid the temptation like you promised. You just don't know what little touches, tender words or seductive looks to use to ruin two marriages. You are such a lady. How your head up high and call your parents with the wonderful news.
2006-08-11 16:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing that you can or should do to try and get a married man to be unloyal to his wife, even if it's just one night. There is no justification for that one, he's the one that is being rihgt in regards to resisting you and being loyal to his wife. Don't try to push someoen into doing somethign that is wrong. If you have fallen in love with this man and are willing to cheat on your marriage, I reccomend you take a look at whats going on in your marriage. It's one thing to be attracted to someone while commited to another and it's another thing to act on that attraction. One is acceptable and the other is not.
2006-08-11 16:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is this:
If you know the sanctity of marriage, why are you looking elsewhere?
You are heading for a DEEP fall. This scenario:
If both of you leave your current spouses for "love," what makes you think this won't happen again to another?
Is this worth the effort to hurt both your spouses for your benefit?
Once the thrill is gone, carry a parachute, you both will fall fast.
2006-08-11 16:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should do this. even if his wife and your husband never found out, you have to realize that you will more than likely feel guilty for the rest of your life. if your marriage is so bad that you would be looking to cheat, consider working out your marriage. go to counseling etc and then if it doesn't work, get a divorce. same goes for the guy you want to cheat with. if you know it is bad, then don't do it. would you want your husband to cheat on you with another woman? if the answer is no, there you have it. it's not worth it.
2006-08-11 16:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by crazedchipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about sanctity of marriage. What about your family? Do you have kids? Hopefully you don't because if you have kids then you should think about how they will be affected if anything ever developed from this and you got a divorce as a result.
2006-08-11 16:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by anonfuture 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want lectures, why are you even asking this question to thousands of strangers, knowing you'll get one? Gimme a break! Here's my advice, get a freaking divorce and ask that he does the same before you both screw each other, in that way, innocent people don't get hurt. Sorry, I have no respect for people like you! Thanks for the pts though!
2006-08-11 16:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honeslty if you both are married and have already gone over the consequences of it all and you are this insainly attracted to each other it should just happen naturally maybe you want it to happen and hes just flirting if thats not the case then pull a sharon stone on him you know basic instincts no panties once you go that route he wont turn back if he does hes wants to be faithful to his wife and maybe then you should stop pursuing him
2006-08-11 16:20:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋