help what do i do?

Question

my husband told me i couldnt talk to any male unless it was his friends and well..... today i looked up my ex on messanger and started talking to him becuase we are friends and now i realize that my marriege is in a heep of trouble becuase he's telling me what to to all the time. my ex knows i still love him and he asked for my address and i gave it to him, should i be worried? and also i feel like my marriage is a mistake. i got married when i was 17 now i m 18 and he's 19

Answer 1

How would you feel if he di the same with his ex? It sounds to me like you're looking for a way out...but it's a bad way to go. Get some counseling before you end up in divorce court and regret it. It sounds like you haven't given your marriage a fair chance. The first year is the hardest because there is alot of adjustments to make and compromises with you partner. Think before you go too far.

Answer 2

O.K. I am in a very similar place as you are. I got married at 19 and have hung on for 4 years trying to make things work. Marriage is HARD. Much harder than I thought it would be. If you and your husband are not happy together then maybe you should consider counseling. If there is anything you could do that would make you fear your spouse it sounds like an unhealthy relationship. My husband became more and more aggressive over the years. We now have a baby together and I had to get out of there. Good luck to you. Follow your heart. If you have the slightest feeling you made a mistake you might really have something to think about. Take care,

Answer 3

Hi, I hate to sound like other criticising people but I think that you got married way to young. You should have waited and got all your party days and dating out of the way. If you still have feelings for your ex or love your ex, why did you marry. Because girl you are looking are trouble if you are talking with your ex and gave him your address. If he wanted your address then he is gonna show up. What happens if he shows up and your husband is at home. I for one don't believe in cheating on a spouse and if you don't love your husband or have decided that you want to be with someone else then you should let the husband go and then date the ex. Just my opinion and later down the line you will regret cheating. Don't be tempted, stay out of temtations way cause it gets you in trouble.

Answer 4

You took vows to be together. No one ever tells you that marraiges arent perfect. Ask some aunts and uncles or older married friends for advice. Your husband is right on not talking to other guys. It sounds like you are looking for greener grasses. Take the advice the grass is the same color everywhere. Your not happy in your marraige. What would you do if your ex became interested in you. That isnt cool. You might think its inocenent, Its not, its wrong!! Marraige is a rollercoaster. You will love your husband like crazy one week you will think of him as alright the next and the week after you might even hate him and the trust me you will love him like crazy again. No one ever says that when your married your not in total love all the time. If you want your husband to treat you like he did when you were first together. Compliment him, stroke his ego and oh yeah rule the bedroom. He will be everything you will ever need in a husband. Good luck.

Answer 5

Trouble

Answer 6

Your husband sounds controlling, so it's probably not a good place to be. If your marriage is a mistake, then get out of it, before something bad happens.

Answer 7

Mistake yes bad mistake. Young and stupid mistake. And see, he couldn't trust you. Not that I agree with him telling you who you can or cannot talk to. Obviously he knew you were not in love with him so he wanted to cage you. SOMEBODY must have told you that it was a stupid idea to get married at your age and I bet it's the same somebody you are going to go live with and ask for divorce money too.

Answer 8

You need to have time to grow up. Married at 17? Wow. You saying you still love your ex, doesn't say much for your husband. Get divorced and stay single awhile.......grow up on your own before you make such adult decisions.

Answer 9

17!!!! =( there was your first mistake...don't make another by staying in a relationship like this...you are so young, you have so many options in life! If you start making the right ones now, you will find greater happiness later!

Answer 10

ok, first off, you are too young to be worried about what you husband thinks. why not talk to your ex, have fun and see where it goes? and think about your relationship with your husband. why did he get so possessive? has he always been that way? you need to do some soul searching. and wake-up, you are too you to deal with the green eyed monster we all know is jealousy..lots of life out there!