well my best friend has liked me for awhile now but i never really took it seriously until i started seeing another guy and he stopped talkign to me and we ended up fighting..i guess u could say he was jelous.. and we almost stopped being friends over it as stupid as it sounds then i stopped seeing the other guy and it took some time but we started talkign again..and my best friend started likign another girl so i thoguth everything was good but now i like another guy and he likes me too and i kno our relationship would last a long time but awhile ago my best friend told me he still had feelings for me and now im scared of gettign involed because of hurting him knowing our friendship might end because of it. ..soo what to doo?
2006-08-11 15:12:57 · 27 answers · asked by xoMiss_Aguiarxo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend is confused with best friend and boyfriend.....best friends are not your significant others, they are friends. Where along the line did he become confused? Your best friend just needs to know that no matter who is in your life that he will remain your best friend as long as he allows it and expects nothing other than that. Sounds to me like he was hoping to be your boyfriend and not just your best friend.....clear the air and tell him exactly how you feel. You are hurting him more by leading him on to think that there could be something more than him being your best friend. Know your feelings and be honest with him about them.....it wouldn't be fair to you if you felt obligated to make him feel better.
2006-08-11 15:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend kind of lost his window of opportunity to tell you that he like you in that kind of way. So- you found youself a boyfriend and now he's jealous. He can't have everything. He should have moved in on his feelings while you were available.
So, for now he should find his own girlfriend. Down the line, should both of you find yourselves free, then talk about you becoming an "us" then. Until then, you have an obligation to your
b/f. Don't even try to make your b/f jealous over this. It's mean.
Seriously though. You guys were best friends. You found a
boyfriend. Are you really interested in the first best friend in a
boyfriend/sexual kind of way. OR would it feel like you are kissing
your brother. It just seems to me that you would have asked him about his intentions with you before you got the b/f- if his feelings for you were reciprocated.
You can't have everything and that includes 2 boyfriends. Just like
you can't have 2 best friends. You can have 2 good friends... it's
all complicated. Tell your best friend that you have a boyfriend and it that's hurtful to him, you'll have to just talk on the phone or have an occasional coffee with him to catch up.
You can't have it both ways, apparently. He lost his seat on the
bus and he'll just have to wait until it frees up again. (You know what I mean.)
Good luck.
2006-08-11 22:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your friend you don't feel that way and you just feel more of a friend vibe. Be as nice as possible. If he decides not to talk to you because you have feelings for someone else, that isnt your fault. He should understand if he is really your best friend.
2006-08-11 22:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Serena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, being in a relationship is nice thing...but when the right thing happen in the wrong time it is a wrong things.. befriended with them first and it is not wrong to dating with more than 1 guys. keep your option open.. it is a journey.. to know and understand more about yourself and what you really want in a relationship.. at the end of the day then you will know he is the one for you
2006-08-11 22:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by trudie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell the truth if you want to get over it!!if you think your friend will understand you then expect the best!! but be ready for the worst.. he might have feelings for you and you don't have feelings for him... well as for me, thers nothing wrong in loving some1 who loved some1. always tell the truth.. no lies! if you don't tell the truth to your friend that you don't like him and you keep this problem with your friend long you'll just give him a chance to love you more. sometimes hurting some1 is not bad but is good..you need to hurt your friend for good.like wat i say, if you keep this problem and don't confess that you don't have feelings for your friend he must have a chance in loving you more and in the last he is the one who will be hurt more than you expected.. maybe he will say that you just play with him or make him a toy.. so its better to hurt your friend in good so in the last he will not be hurt too much!
2006-08-11 22:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by p!nk_f@iry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a female best friend. Guys need guy pals and girls need girl friends. There is no such thing as a guy/girl bestfriend thing. When a guy and a girl spend a lot of time together, there will be sex thoughts coming through.......
2006-08-11 22:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see thats how my friendship ended with this girl I knew but see I ended up her she ended up chooseing the other guy then me.See I would try telling your friend that we got just be friends for now.
2006-08-11 22:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by rfrandy2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try dating your friend. There is a reason you are friends with him...that bond is already there. Besides, it doesn't sound like you would be "ruining" much because he's already having trouble coping and can't handle being just friends.
2006-08-11 22:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not leading on other guys is a GREAT idea. Your fault from the start, if a guy says he likes you and you keep talking to him.. you're leading him on.
Show some desency and leave him alone to wallow in his own self pitty and anguish
2006-08-11 22:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by tank20760 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know from experience because this what happen to me lately. if he is like me then he would back off and hide his feelings for you then find someone else. but again he might freak out. so just go out with the guy you like. secretly of course.
2006-08-11 22:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by misunderstood_teen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋