How do you know he is cheating on you or love someone else?

Question

I was just wondering how do you know if your husband or partner is having an affair, what are the signs? If he's not having an affair but in love with someone else, what are the signs? How do you know that he will end the marriage or relationship because of someone else - what are the signs?

Answer 1

Read some tips and articles on how to catch a cheating lover on this site

Answer 2

People who have no secrets have nothing to hide. Is he open with you? Does he share everything? I have my husband's passwords to absolutely everything. Is where he says is when he says is? Does come home about the time he says he will (I can always count on my husband to underestimate how long it takes him to get somewhere, so I always add at least 15 minutes to what he tells me. lol)? Does he go places or do things without telling you and then jump down your throat when you ask him about it (in a "just curious where you were" kind of way, nothing suspicious)? Does he jump out of his skin when, say, he's on the computer emailing someone and you walk quietly into the room behind him? Things like that. People who ARE guilty...ACT guilty.

Oh, thought of a few others....does the same man who was only yesterday complaining about the lack of sex....suddenly stop asking? Same for emotional stuff, does he stop complaining that you never spend time together? Or vice versa....does he suddenly want a lot of sex when previously he didn't? Is a once emotionally distant man suddenly your best friend again?

Answer 3

Some signs of an affair is a change in the sex drive. This change is significant toward having more often sex or non at all. Another tell tell sign is affection. This is where your radar will have to be in full force. It would be easy if he is not giving you affection but if he is you would need to be able to tell if it is sincere or out of guilt. One way to tell is to ask yourself "is it the norm". There is not a certain way to know if he will end the relationship. That would all be in his mind but if there is something going on and it is not stopped the certainty of the relationship flourishing is unlikely.

Answer 4

Some statistics say that 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct and 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. If you have suspicions, consider some of th following and be as impartial as possible:

Have you noticed a
Sudden increase in time away from home
Decreased sexual interest with you
Cheating spouse is often distracted and day dreaming
Cheating husband or wife is often “unavailable” while at work
Cheating spouse attends new functions outside of work and wants to go without you
Cell phone calls from you are not returned in timely fashion
Cheating spouse leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone
Cheating spouse uses computer alone and secretly
Cheating spouse asks about your schedule more often than usual
Mileage on car is high yet he / she reports only short distance errands
Clothes smell of perfume or cologne
Cheating spouse gets his / her laundry done independently
Unexplained payments on bank statements
Cheating spouse has more cash on hand without accountability
Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration
Cheating spouse now has a phone card but never used one before
Cheating wife or husband has unexplained receipts in wallet or purse
Cheating spouse has suspicious phone voice-mail messages
Cheating spouse has suspicious cell phone numbers stored or dialed
Internet web browser history list (this is a record of web sites visited) contains unusual sites
Cheating spouse begins to use new or free e-mail account
Cheating spouse is suddenly deleting e-mail messages

Answer 5

the very best sign is your own heart if you have been in a relationship with this person for awhile you dont need someone else to tell you what the signs are they are right there in your face and if he is in love with someone else you cant stop his feelings so as mush as it might hurt be prepared because you all ready have a clue that he wont be there much longer and no matter how much you love him let him go because if you dont he will only winding up Hating YOU

Answer 6

Girl! you could ask this question till God himself comes down and you will never understand why they do it.... i found out on my own though deep down feelings that you have when you know something is wrong...... they don't want to spend time any more, they spend more time out at night... they tell you that there hanging around with that one friend that you don't like, because you know he's got your man out there doing what he shouldn't yes girl keep your eyes on that one friend... listen when he talks about what goes on in his life... you'll see and hear new people come in and the old friends are no longer there any more...

The hours just seems so much long and you become loney and you start wondering what's going on....

I could spend hours telling you things that you already know...

All in all you know what's going on and you know who your man is and what he is capable of doing...

1.
NEVER LET A MAN KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM
BELIEVE ME NEVER! ]

2.
NEVER LOVE A MAN MORE THAN HE LOVES YOU!

if you learn anything about love remember those things that i just told you.....

Mscaramelow

Answer 7

Married wondering the same thing; I compare most marriage today to the ole cliche Russian roulette (no offense nor slang intent to any one or culture)You will never know unless he's honest enough to admit it to himself then you.

Look to the hill where all your help come from and bet your dollar on his pattern; if there were no change in job, health, family 9 out of 10 there's a woman......cheating applies pressure to meet a difference in demands, personalities, expectations and values this reflects in his/her attitude, behavior, and view and become irritable/cold towards the spouse..... however I agree with Chona 1)Trust your intuition, give him enough rope and he surely to hang also do not rule out: 2) Too Shy/Quite; today mean pleading the 5th 'sneaky, 3)Private...cell phone, workplace, family, and friends

Of course if he not man enough to admit he's cheating he definite not going to give you head up he's leaving. Position yourself to strengthen your inner spirit...to take a stance for yourself and not be responsible for his action and deceitfulness nor the blame; picking up the pieces... remember you are accountable and responsible for you, your happiness, joy, disappointments and accomplishments. Position yourself on a solid rock no matter which direction the wind blows you will standing.

Answer 8

Everybody has given you some pretty good advice. I am going through the same thing. I found some text messages and confronted him. He admitted a relationship, but back-tracked the next day on the sex part. The thing is when you confront them - they will lie and swear to God Himself, just to save their butts. So, before you confront him and accuse - try to have some solid evidence, like some of these others have told you about. Write me if you want to vent and compare notes!

Answer 9

First of all the rules to the game isn't fair but you play smart about it now in order to confirm you assumtions I am going to give you some of my game from how to catch yo man up and how to make him payand yes he will PAY! My rules to the game and it's ALL FAIR IN LOVE. RULE #1 He starts arguements to get a low key way of getting out the house you havin't done S##T to cause him to be angry at all I mean they will just will start some S##T for no apparent reason to avoid all that NONSENSE DRAMA let him gone ahead and just spin-off because you will not win the argument reason why he is going to feel that he is the man and can't no one tell him S##T so he will use his muscle to bully his way out I'm not saying muscle as in physical abuse just starting S##T. RULE#2 if he has a cell and some men will be bold to text message some will be on the phone say a couple straight forward words then suddenly hang up the phone then starts a OUT THE BLUE conversation with you if you suddenly walk up. you play it cool don't say nothing because that FOOL is going to start telling on hiself expecting you to hold a argument (notice ARGUMENT IS THE KEY WORD THEY ALWAYS START A B#LLS##T A## ARGUMENT TO LET SAY MAKE AN EXCUSE TO LEAVE) ladies they think or revenge is what SLEEP WITH ANOTHER GUY hell no! WE ARE LADIES AND WE JUST ARE NOT HAVING IT PEEP LADIES WHEN WE GET A MAN LIKE THAT OUR MOTIVE IS TO GET MONEY IF YOU CAN PEEP GAME IN THE BEGINING WHAT YOU DO TO FIGURE A MAN OUT IS SEE HOW FAR IS HE WILLING TO GO TO BE WITH YOU OF COURSE HE IS GOING TO WINE AND DINE YOU BUT LET'S SEE IF HE LISTEN BE CONSIDERATE THAT AND DON;T MIND SHARING YOUR WORLD WITH HIS LADIES IF HE OPEN UP TO YOU AND WANT TO SHARE HIS WORLD WITH YOU HE'S A KEEPER HOWEVER WATCH HIM BECAUSE HE MAY TURN INTO SOMETHING THAT YOU DIDN'T KNOW TRY TO KEEP IN MIND LOOK TO SEE IF HE HAS SOME OLD FASHION WAYS YOU MUST TAKE THAT INTO CONSIDERATION AND HE MAY TREAT YOU RIGHT DON'T BE INSECURE LADIES WE ALL ARE SEXY AND WINNERS IF HE CAN'T MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE FULL OF LIGHT AIR JUST ON CLOUDS WHEN HE IS AROUND THEN HE IS A KEEPER LADIES WE MUST NOT BE INSECURE BECAUSE THERE IS SOMEBODY FOR EVERYBODY

Answer 10

I hope your not following him around the house accusing him of things he hasn't done.That's a nagging wife and she will turn your love to hate.Is he staying out all night without a good reason?He would have to fall out of love with you and do a lot of skirt chasing to fall for someone else.We never know how long things will last,If you don't trust him then he will know it and will start being paranoid although he has done nothing.If your not leaving something out of the story then you better love him and be happy for yourself.and don't listen to other women's loss.You have your man now live and love.God bless.