20 yr old female and 30 yr old male, I don't see the problem, any interesting thoughs?
2006-08-11 14:08:38 · 27 answers · asked by colombianita709 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband is nearly 25 years older than I am, so when we got together, I asked myself that question a lot.
Love knows no boundaries such as age. But to deny that it will never bring issues is unrealistic. I worried about becoming a young widow. Then, I realized that all couples fact that risk. Granted, my risk was higher, but having a few years married to the man I love meant more than avoiding the relationship to begin with. Once in a while down the road (say you are 40 & he is 50) you may still have a little more go power in life, where he is becoming sedentiary. Thats really ok. Everybody is constantly changing & its a testament to love to work through any issue.
Trust me, with all that you deal with in a relationship, age will become the last thing anyone worries about. Dont let anyone tell you different.
Good luck!
2006-08-11 14:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by emvannattan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i have a problem with it. The 20 year old has some growing up to do. Like being able to travel with friends and going to bars once she turns 21 and the list goes on. What about college? He's done all that by age 30.
She needs to concentrate on her career and just having fun! If the 30 yr old can handle this than fine! But.....is the 30 year old willing to wait?
what about music etc. and how do your friends relate to him? Right now I just think your at different points in your lives. I am not trying to be mean and i wish you the best!
2006-08-11 21:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number. it would have been a problem if you were under 18 and then he was 30. So u have nothing to worry about. Age is a funny thing though. im going on 16 and my bf just turned 19 and people seem to have a problem with that but im not worried. we aren't doing anything wrong, so as long as you are confortable with the person u are with then go ahead and date him. what other people think really shouldn't and doesn't matter. Your happiness should be and always be your main concern.
best of luck!
2006-08-11 21:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you're just looking for fun. When it comes to settling down, you may want to wait a while. If you are still with this guy in 6 years- then you have my permission to get married. In the meantime, you have lots of things to explore and college fun to
have. Definitely go to college. Maybe for a graduation present he'll
spring a beautiful ring.
When you are older- if you were 30 and he were 40, I'd say that you are right and that it's nothing but a number. My ex-husband was 8 years older than I am. And now my boyfriend is 6 years younger than I am. (Yea, I divorced the 1st)
But, between 20-26 you do so much "sowing of your oats" that is probably necessary before you settle down and have kids. Ask your parents what they think of him. If they like him and approve, then I guess he's okay.
2006-08-11 21:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting Thoughts
When you are 22-25 you will want to be married he will be 32-35
When you are 28-30 you will want kids he will be 38-40
When your child is 10 and wants to play football with dad he will be 48-50... so he won't be able to help
On your 25th anniversary you will be 47-50 and he will be 57-60...
You will be alone for 10-15 years after he dies... he will get tired, and turn into a grumpy old men when you reach your sexual hype in your 40s...
Good luck if you want that.
2006-08-11 21:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 20 year old is old enough to choose her her mate. 10 years is not too much of an age difference. If you love each other and are committed to making your relationship work, I say go for it! I was 32 when I married my husband. He was 57. We've been married over 20 years and are happier than ever. Just remember, falling in love is the easy part. Staying in love takes work, every day. God Bless!
2006-08-11 21:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say the relationship CAN'T work, but it wont be easy
You're in different stages of life...he's approaching mid-life crisis, you're approaching legal age to drink; you're just becoming an adult, he's been one for a decade (with the dating experience to show for it, I'll bet); he remembers records, you've only known CDs....
my point is that you're at very different ages; I know when you're 70, he'll be 80, and you'll both be old, but NOW you're 20 and he's 30, and that's a difference
it can work only if you both work at it
2006-08-11 21:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right in your thinking. What if you were 40 going out with a 30 year old.Numbers are irrelevent when love and companionship are concerned. Best of luck to you. By the way I'm 44 and my wife is 60.
2006-08-11 21:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the 2 people involved and the things they have in common.I am married to a woman who is 10 years older than me and we have a great relationship. We are best friends and have a great time together. We've been together 5 years and married for 2!/2. It's what's in your heart and mind, not the numbers.
2006-08-11 21:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard worse. But as for your question no not all the time. Sorry. There are times when you have draw the line like would you want your 14 year old little girl (and that is what she is a little girl) going out with a 22 year old man. Who dose take things from her that she can never get back which lives to regret it forever.(No the 14 year was not me but a friend) You get my point.
2006-08-11 21:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋