While going through my boyfriends drawer for something to wear, I came across a card/letter... and my curiousity would not allow me to pass it without reading... What I read was not terribly awful, but did have an affect on me... I then angerly confronted my boyfriend about the letter.. Was I wrong for initially being nosy?
2006-08-11 14:01:53 · 15 answers · asked by T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you were probing, you obviously had a feeling your boyfriend is interested in someone else. That's usually the biggest reason some girlfriends search through their boyfriends' stuff.
Were you wrong? Only if he never gave you a reason not to trust him.
2006-08-11 14:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U werent being nosey...u were being a girlfriend...dont bang urself up for seeing what u saw. If u didnt just go through his drawer to look for stuff then it shouldnt matter....hey if I saw something like that in my boyfriend's drawer I would have did the same thing. Think about this...if it was from another girl...so I dont think that u were wrong. If u would have asked him then he probably would have gotten an attitude. Dont take it out on urself...because u were just looking for something to wear.
2006-08-11 14:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told a long time ago that if you go looking for trouble you are going to find it...My daughters father had a card sitting on his table and God knows I wanted to read it but I didn't. I was still upset that there is another woman that has feelings for him. You just have to be secure in your relationship, and know where you stand. Everybody else is irrelevant.
2006-08-11 14:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter if you were probing or not. We are all naturally somewhat nosy because face it.....everyone I know wouldn't pass the opportunity of reading something that they're clearly not supposed to. If he didn't want you to find it, he shouldn't have it in the first place.
2006-08-11 14:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really you did not intentionally find something read get mad. it just happened however don't make it a habit or the only drawers you will be going though might be your own. and The only person in your bed is you.
2006-08-11 14:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frequently, it replaced into incorrect of you. If he had the letter/card till now being with you, then it rather is none of you employer in any know . on the different hand, if he have been given after being with you... if replaced into not extraordinarily damaging (damaging as in unfavorable your relationship), then why carry it up? As not hardship-free as that's, you need to have confidence the different interior the relationship, till there are consistant instantances that questions the reliabilty of your companion. I say if it rather is not a huge subject, then show regret on your b/f.
2016-10-01 23:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with him? If not then you don't have the right to go through his things....He has the right to his privacy....now if you live together then there should be no reason for him to have letters from someone else....Talk to him, maybe there's a really good reason for it....
2006-08-11 14:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by pepenbuffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
curiousity isnt really bad, but I think you went about it all wrong confronting your bf. you could have simply asked him about it, then made the call whether or not to be angry about it. if it was in his past, its probably something he'd like to keep and means something to him. i know girls do it, cuz i keep things from my past bf's, but my hubby knows i love him more. dont judge on something that was past...you werent with him then. some memories we just can kill!
2006-08-11 14:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah it was wrong of you to be nosy. But if there was something incriminating in the card then you had every right to be angry.
2006-08-11 14:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i would do the same thing. bc its obvious it was hidden, it was hidden and not told to you for some reason. but you didnt mention what it was about, so how can we tell you if u have the right to be mad at him or not? see? but id b a bit mad depending on what was in the letter, when it was written, and who it was from! oh yeah, and why it was hidden from me!
2006-08-11 14:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by kkaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋