my husban came out of work @ 2:30 pm it is now 5:56 pm and he is not home? i assume he might be at a bar. what should i do?
2006-08-11 13:52:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we dont use cell phone so i cant contact him!!
2006-08-11 13:57:34 · update #1
call his cell every ten minutes and call his buddies to see if they have seen them. also call his work to see if he is still there. good luck!
2006-08-11 13:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jesuslovesyou! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't beat yourself up. Don't ask silly questions that make you want to distrust him. If you need to know, use the I statements I often give for advice. I was worried. I can't make plans, I would like you to call, etc. Avoid the YOU statements: you always are late, you make me worried, you have no consideration, etc.
And it really is all about trust. If you have substantial reason to distrust him, then maybe you need out of the relationship. If you think he is just "forgetful" then go with that feeling and let it be.
But ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, express your feelings, and never apoligize for them. They are your feelings and they aren't right or wrong. Again, the I statements. I feel ....(threatened, betrayed, worried, anxious, even distrustful). And if he doesn't want to listen, ask when a better time to talk is.
Good luck. But remember you can only change you, not anyone else. If need be, change YOUR attitude toward what is happening.
2006-08-11 21:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by U-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but most men cheat, some are just better at it then others. Men are also stupid, find proof before you accuse him. If you find proof confront him about it. But also remember we are all human we all make mistakes. Forgive him but never forget. So when the opportunity comes for you to make a mistake, it's okay, your only human.
2006-08-11 21:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by sweetl8dyt24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop your mind and it wild imagination. There probably is a good reason for this so wait and hear him out. True, he should have called you but men dont always do things as expected. So be patient and he will show up soon
2006-08-11 20:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um. well you marired him, nothing wrong with him going to the bar after work, unless hes cheating but thats not what your asking. let him unwind, you dont need to be together all the time everyone needs there time alone it builds for a better relatioship, thast is unless you start nagging him when he gets home
2006-08-11 21:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by bambi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he gets home calmly suggest to him that if he is not going to come straight home from work to at least give you a call so that you know what is going on, this way you won't worry yourself. If it continues, you should check out this website: www.cheaters.com
2006-08-11 20:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe, just maybe, he had an accident on the way home...maybe you are jumping to conclusions here...maybe you should call him in as missing...call the hospitals...call his friends...call someone and find out if it is an innocent thing or what is going on...maybe next time he won't 'dally around' at some bar
2006-08-11 20:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that easy so baby what bar you going to when you leave work so i can meet you there for a drink and some quality time with my man smile and if he ain't doing nothing he will tell you smile
2006-08-11 21:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless u think he is the flirty type and still flirts with u even after marriage then there is nothin much to worry about, but if he really is the flirty type then alexander grahambell is ur saviour
2006-08-11 20:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do until he gets home. Then Ask him where he was and that it's important he call you if he's got plans.
2006-08-11 20:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋