How do you take out aggression positively?

Answer 1

walk hard and fast..... keep walking till you dont feel so angry.... then walk some more.... and then turn around and walk back...

Answer 2

By walking it off. I have also used journaling. Later when I've gone back to read what I had written things would not seem so bad.

Figure out what it is you need. Some people need more of a physical thing like going to a batting cage and smacking a few balls. And sometimes it's good to just go give yourself a time out away from what is upsetting you.

Yelling is a not a positive thing but I am positive I felt better after doing it in some cases. I would not recommend doing that to your boss though.

Answer 3

Suggestions:
1. Sit still or walk slowly, and let the emotions pass. Breathe out the frustration.
2. Stop and think it out rationally. What is the most effective, non-destructive course of action?
3. Smile, or put on a calm face, focus on creating a calm exterior. Believe it or not, the external manifestations of calmness permeate into what you actually feel.

4. the cathartic method, for example, ranting, bellowing out, hitting things, vigorous exercise, etc. Can be suggested, but it's effective only to the extent that it tires you out. Really acting out aggression, blowing off steam, etc. can actually intensify powerful emotions like anger.
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Whatever you do, do not take it out on other people. Whenever you have a strong impulse to do so, get away from every possible victim.

Answer 4

In addition to the above answers, learning what it is and in reaction to what helps. A suggested book: Ego, Hunger and Aggression by F.S. Perls, 1947 and several reprints after that. I seem to remember Random House as the publisher, but more after that. I think it mostly in relation to negation of validity for others, inexplicable and inconveniencing acts, acts that force us to wonder 'why' or 'how am I to ...when'

Be sure not to become addicted to anger.

Answer 5

Take a walk, work out, write down what you are so frustrated about...get it out of your head and onto paper. Punch a boxing bag, chop wood, do push ups, run as fast as you can down the street to wear yourself out. Remove yourself from the situation, so you can look at it in a different perspective. Deep breathing, listen to your favorite heavy metal music. These are some of the things that work for me. Try them! Call someone you trust and talk it out...it's never as bad as it seems at first. Calm down...life is too short.

Answer 6

We raised a hard to place child that we adopted at an older age, and we made him run! We would take him to the track and tell him to run. It gave him time to think of why he was so mad to Begin with and let him find a solution to his problem!! Plus today, he has outstanding legs!! And to this day, he will go for a walk or lift weights.

Answer 7

I my self do carpenter work on the house.... Or sew.... or even paint....I will do any thing I can with my hands so my brain doesn't have to think about it and when I sleep that night I usually get a dream that will help with it or make me more angry about it...But that is what I do to get out my aggression...

Answer 8

Not always. But I'm working on that. I try not to make things about me. If I feel upset towards someone, I stop and ask myself why I'm upset and why I feel they wronged me. Then I ask if my anger is valid. "was that person trying to be malicious, or was it a mistake?" and then "Does it matter either way?" And then I question why they did what they did, and why it doesn't have anything to do with me. People make everything about them, that's why they're hurting all the time.

Answer 9

I found running, boxing (hitting bag), jiu jitsu, martial arts, gardening (like chopping trees, bushes...) helps. Once the endorphins kick in then you feel good. Martial arts works because you are aggressive but in a respectful way.

Answer 10

Kicking the cat is not a good idea - kicking a terrorist is much better. If you can't get hold of your friendly neighbourhood terrorist then exercise and using a punchbag are positive and these also improve your health. Of course kicking a terrorist improves everybodies health.

Answer 11

Get a hobby (like gardening). Hum a tune in your head. Try boxing. Or go for a run. You feel good afterwards, and the agression goes away.