how do i get my wife back after trying to cheat on her using my kid as an advantagein 3 days?

Question

while my wife was gone i went down the street to ask a woman to watch my kid while i took a shower after i took a shower i tried to give her a massage she refused left and then told my wife the next day. i made a terrible mistake and let temptation get the best of me i have learned my lesson and i need her back how do i get her and my kids back?any information would be helpful.if u feel the need to be mean and not help then please move on

Answer 1

Well you just need to sit down and talk it through with her. Have remorse, and tell her you are willing to do whatever it takes. Come to a mutual understanding for now, and then build from there. Just say you never meant it to happen, but you take full responsibility for what did happen. Perhaps invite your wife to a nice dinner, and make it clear there is no obligation for anything just dinner and you would like to talk. Try and give her more attention, and keep mentioning that you are sorry for what happened but wished you could have changed things in the past. Also keep saying that you love her. Keep the communication lines open.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, there probably isnt much youre going to be able to do. You have knocked the trust right out of your marriage, and no matter how much you apologize and whatever lesson you learned is going to put that trust back into her especially in a few days. Adultery forgiveness takes alot of time which most wives dont have. Men make more mistakes in marriage and pay the biggest price for them. TV soaps show this scene day after day and women learn from those shows what happens. Women just dont let their spouse make mistakes like this and get away with it. Look at it the other way around, would/could you forgive and forget her in the same scenario? Now all you can do is be patient and wait and see what happens because there is nothing else you can do to change it or make it better. Youve already done enough. Good luck

Answer 3

I think you had better give her time to cool off and then try to talk. If you really are sincere and it was a mistake, then you need to show her you are truly sorry. Take her to a public place, like a coffee shop, sit across from her and look her in the eye and tell her how you feel. Then, you need to be willing to hear her side- and recognize that these are her feelings whether you agree with them or not. DO NOT disagree with her or you will be right back in the doghouse.
I would also recommend counseling. For yourself. Tell her you are going- show her the appointment card- and then go. Don't do this to "make up" and then forget to go. This shows a woman that you are sincere and are willing to work on the things that are an obstacle to your relationship. Good Luck.....

Answer 4

Wait a minute, is the crime that you asked another woman for a massage and she refused and then told your wife about the proposition? Wow, let's get some perspective here. Yeah that is bad, but not horrible and certainly doesn't warrant your children to be away from you. If for no other reason, you should talk to your wife and offer to go to couseling for your children. If she refuses, than there is something more going on than just a massage proposition.

Answer 5

What your wife needs is time to sort her anger out so give her more time, maybe a few days, to a week then talk to her. If she is willing to talk to you then, let her express her anger and hurt. Learn how to listen when she does. Chances are she's extremely angry with you right now and there's nothing you can do about it right away. If she doesn't want to talk and decides to leave you for good, there's probably nothing you can do. And next time, exercise your right of choice so you wouldn't end up on this board again, asking the same question.

Answer 6

well, you made a horrible mistake...one that you say you are sorry for and have learned your lesson...that is good that you can see your mistake, you are sorry and you have learned your lesson...
you should relay all this information to your wife...you should tell her that you love her and that you will never do it again...but, the trick here is to really mean that...and to tolerate her skepticism whenever it arises...don't get mad at her for hating what you did to her (or in this case what you WOULD have done to her)...remind her that you didn't actually cheat on her...that your intentions were to cheat, but it didn't happen...
maybe, just maybe, if you seek some kind of councelling, she will take you seriously and take you back...
i know it is hard to see right now, but the woman did you a favor...had she not told your wife, where would you be right now? in her bed? in someone else's...man, you gotta love what you have, when you have it, not later, after you lose it!

Answer 7

well if you are wanting to cheat on her maybe you dont deserve to get her back, she dosent need a partner like you, its bad enough when its a person you dont know BUT right on the door step, the people were you live will never forget that, there is NO such words as mistake or temptation if you are in a relationship then you shouldnt even look at someone else with that intent, all you can do is BEG & make her understand it will NEVER happen again,

Answer 8

Dang, you screwed up man, but you know that already. The balls in her court. Pray to God to help you become more of a man. This world shoves down our throat glamourous images of what "men" are supposed to be like. Being a dog doesn't bring happiness. Prayer is where I'd start. You show God that you want to make this right and He'll provide a way for you. With God sincerity is everything.

Answer 9

You need thank your neighbor for having the sense to stop you from being a total loser. You need to throw yourself on your wife's mercy and hope she will relent. Chances are you are now solo. What part of the man training did you miss that says DO NOT SH1T WHERE YOU SLEEP.

Answer 10

You need to let your wife get over being angry first. She probably doesn't want to talk to you right now. Give her a couple of days and then try talking to her. If you are sincere she might forgive you.