I just had my heart basically broken.....I went out with an awsome girl who just got out of a bad relashtionship.....she was being beat up and all that bad stuff.....so I was going slow with her and treating her to dinner and movies and very romantic stuff....I was treating her like a girl wants to be treated by a guy....Im in shape and all that........And all of a sudden she wanted to break up and now she is going back out with that jerk....I really dont understand....she said the problem was I was perfect....That makes no sence at all......Please help me out on this
2006-08-11 13:31:57 · 12 answers · asked by Thaddeus M 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ohh and if this might be the problem my d!ck is almost 7 inches and Im 5\4 I jog and I lift wieghts everyday
2006-08-11 13:35:58 · update #1
well i was in a relationship with a jerk once too, and i went out with him like 3 times. don't ask me why, looking back i see it was stupid. girls are confusing, i thought guys understood that! but you sound like a really nice guy, and im sorry your heart was broken, it happens to the best people it seems. if i were you, i would just focus on finding someone who wants to be treated well, and treat her that way, you'll both be happy. just make sure you are over your recent breakup first, no one likes baggage!
2006-08-11 14:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the problem is obviously NOT YOU, the problem is that she still has some issues she needs to resolve with her last relationship, and I think that in order for her to move on and really get over her previous boyfriend, she needs to go back to him until she realizes that it's not good for her. I said, you should be happy for her (even though you do not agree with her decision) and think that things happen for a reason, and I'm sure she would not be able to make you happy unless she gets over her previous situation completely... hang in there, I'm sure there's somebody out there that deserve somebody as perfect as you! All the best in the future!
2006-08-11 13:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by sandal_wood_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay we aren't purfect. Some of us tend to go for the "bad" boy. I have broken off many of relationships because the guy was TOO NICE. Can you believe it? Chased the bad boys who treated me awful and came running back for more. It isnt right but sometimes it just how it is. Move on...act like you just dont care. This may draw her back to you if she doesnt realize you are at her beck and call. Her other relationship will NEVER work out..she just thinks it will. Hang in there..she may be back and it is up to you whether she stays..
2006-08-11 13:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people who have been constantly "put down" - ill treated etc; dont know how to cope when someone new starts treating them well. It has a lot to do with self esteem issues & NOT feeling that they deserve to be treated well.
It sounds as though you were doing the right things - BUT as the actions were not something she was used to she couldn't handle it. the lady is the one with the problem here & needs to recognize that & get some help
2006-08-11 13:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, Sweetie! Some gals just can't seem to break away from abusive relationships. It doesn't make any sense, I know. Maybe it's fear..... of being alone, commitment issues,etc. Then again, maybe they get some sort of pleasure, excitement, thrill,etc. even if they don't realize it or are willing to acknowledge it. Find yourself a nice girl who will appreciate being treated well.... you'll both have a rewarding relationship.... if it's meant to be.
2006-08-11 13:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by kathy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry this had to happen to you
you sound like a sweet enough guy.
its all psychological.
females form emotional bonds with every person they meet.
the stronger the bond the harder it is to break.
take this for example:
A guy beats his wife
but afterwards tells her he only hits her cuz he loves her.
this continues for a period of time and someone outside the relationship realizes whats going on and calls the cops.
when the police come to take the guy away the girl will be fighting with the cops for trying to take him away from her.
if she didnt get out the first time he hit her she never will. her bond with that person is too strong. girls will stay in horribe relationships for long periods of time becouse they feel they are too strongly connected to that person to be away from them.
especially if she lost her virginity to that guy.
sorry for everything that has happened.
we usually dont know whats best for us.
we look blindly at the negative things in a relationship if we feel like that person cares for us enough.
i hope everything thing gets better.
=]
2006-08-11 13:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by libralexi89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who have been abused are like fragile porcelain dolls...BUT they also will feel afraid if someone is treating them well. The reason for this is because they feel that they don't deserve to be treated fairly because their self esteem is low. I know it sounds like it makes no sense at all, but really they can't help it. It's all they have known.
2006-08-11 13:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by vhcsmamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not used to be treated in a right way and all she knows is what she left behind before she went back. there may have been some pressure from her ex to get back with him, she may still love him and believed all his b.s. lies to get her back. she is carrying a lot of emotional and mental baggage she needs to get rid of it all once and for all before she gets involved with anyone especially you
2006-08-11 13:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's too in love with the other guy.. and not ready for u yet.. but dont be sad, such a nice guy like u will have many chance ahead.. take care..
2006-08-12 00:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth, its not even you. its just that shes probably still in love with him. even though she was going through all these bad things with him she probably feels like he will be able to hurt her more if shes not with him.
2006-08-11 13:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋