What advice to you have for shy people to help them open up more to people?

Answer 1

Keep doing just what you did when you sat down at your computer and typed in this question to be answered: reach out and communicate with other people. If all you can manage is a friendly wave to someone, then wave. Move an arm. If you can pick up the phone and call a friend, do it. In other words, the key to overcoming shyness is being who you really are inside and not being artificial to get attention. Everybody does that sometimes, but to overcome shyness look around you closely. You will eventually see someone you can say hello to. Not everybody, mind you, but just one new person. Shyness is overcome by communication. Reaching out. Like reading this answer. I help overcome my own natural shyness by writing this for you to read. This is my way of reaching out and communicating with you. And you just keep extending yourself in little ways like this with other people, and fairly soon it gets easier to actually do it. I smile a lot. People respond to a smile almost immediately; instinctively. Sometimes, if you feel something strongly, you will just suddenly say something to a complete stranger, and most strangers can sense you may be uncomfortable afterwards if you do that, so they will pick up the ball and say something back to you to make you feel okay again. The whole trick is to find that back and forth communication with others. Some people make it so difficult! Move right on by them. Be polite, but do not engage your time nor energies with them. Seek out and be with people who are pleasant. That is 95% of the battle. Finding something that interests you enough to speak about is the other 5%. I am sending this to you this evening with good energies and my name is Chris and I am in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)

Answer 2

When You are going out somewhere get as much information as possible. If you know what to expect and are dressed appropriately it will give you less to be worried about. If you can identify your comfort zone that would help. ie: big crowds get you uncomfortable, comedy shows with a sexual content etc.. If possible avoid leaving your comfort zone without preparing yourself for it. Bring a friend whenever possible. Most importantly take the time to prepare for where your going and what you will be doing. If your going to a work party ask a coworker a question on something you know they have an interest in. People love to talk about themselves. Remember it goes both ways and make eye contact with people you are listening to or talking to. Believe in yourself. Good Luck

Answer 3

Make friends with people who are just as shy. Maybe, after some time, both will be more open (not as shy). Then, they could go around and make more friends.

Answer 4

Shyness is an insecurity... you can't tell someone "be more outgoing..." You have to get to the bottom of the insecurity... is it fear of rejection based on appearance? An STD? A past? Level of intelligence?

My adivice is that there are all kinds of people in the world, and some will be more friendly than others... learn to recognize the characters that exploit your insecurities and avoid them... the people you find yourself around will invariably be better people for you...

Answer 5

People are shy because they are unsure of themselves. Just keep telling yourself that you are the best, you can do this, the difference between a shy person and one not so shy person is the ego. Everybody is shy but the ones that are brave and not afraid of failure try. You fail automatically if you don't even try.

Answer 6

they need to realize that everyone is essentually the same, we all feel the same emotions, and think some of the same thoughts, no one is any better than anyone else, despite the way some people make it seem. also, shy people will always be shy, unless they learn to be tolerant and accepting of themselves, when you learn to love yourself entirely then you caan really open to others.

Answer 7

This is my field of expertise. Shyness is caused by an internal conflict between 2 desires: 1. the desire for social acceptance; to be 'mixed' in to others, and 2. the desire to be separate and defined.

A true loner is not shy, because they do not care whether others accept them or not.

SSRIs (which are said to eliminate 'social anxiety disorder', a synonym of shyness) resolve the internal conflict by eliminating the desire for defined loneness. However, the conflict may be resolved by eliminating EITHER desire. It is better for society to eliminate the desire for social mixing, because said desire causes people to be fanatical and illogical.

Answer 8

not an easy question as I could write a book here but it helps to become as active as you can be in your life.... focus on helping others and less of your own shyness believe me that alone does wonders. Getting a job and/or volunter work is instrumental in slowly overcoming social anxiety or as you call it shyness. I could go on but didn't want to lelave a book. Best of wishes.

Answer 9

I was very shy growing up and would only talk to my family on occasion.
Now I am not shy.
I took a job where I had to talk. I had to ask questions in order to assess situations.
Very gradually my shyness left and although I am quiet...I am no longer shy.
Fight your fears....little by little...and one day your shyness will be gone.

Answer 10

The way I over came that was that i didn't care what people thought of me if they wanted to hang out with me then they could if they didn't screw them I also had to have something in my hands to play with I also picture them as a famous movie star that want to see you have to try what works for you