sign* me and my classmate has this chemistry with each other.. and some of my friends say that we really look cute together.. and i thought that he is my soulmate, coz some people says that he admires me not only that he always texts me and he is very sweet with me.... but then it all changed.. we had a school group called peer facilitators group and then all of a sudden i heard that he is courting this girl also a member of pfg.. i was really shocked!! but i misunderstood all his actions towards me.. he is just simply friendly and sweet.. and he only wants me as friends,, just friends.. i know that its my fault but what should i do? i really love him so much and i dont want to be his friend only, i want to be more than that.. and i tried not to text him and etc. but i get conscience coz he considers me as a bestfriend and he also said to me that he can get over to a loveone but not to his bestfriend just like me... whoooaaahh!! help me.. what should i do??
2006-08-11 13:06:26 · 24 answers · asked by _-rei-_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Feeling happy because of someone else is a wonderful experience; however, it is important that you take the other person's viewpoint into consideration. You can't have a relationship with someone who doesn't want it back, so try to control your emotions before you run your hopes up too high again.
Unfortunately, you're just not the one right now. It's not the end of the world, so just try to revere him as a very good friend as well. It is crucial that you understand his emotions as well, and if you care so much about him, you should give him his space and peace. Try your best to control your emotions, as they can complicate his perception of you and your actions may have a negative impact on him. Please be careful and try to move on peacefully, your emotions can hurt him and you to a certain degree.
There are other fish in the sea, after all.
2006-08-11 13:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by olea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though this is awfully painful for you; you will have to face the fact that he obviously is not interested in THAT direction about you. One way love is just not good enough; and unfortunately, that IS the situation here. And though it might seem impossible right now [you're sitting right in the middle of bad feelings] believe me, there will be a time not so far off, that you will wonder what all the fuss was about! And you and your wonderful bf will be having a great time, and being THERE for one another - just give it time; it's inevitable!
2006-08-11 20:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is way to short here to lose a good friend because they don't want to move it to a romatic relationship. It will be sad for a minute but after a while you'll be glad that you retained a friendship with someone you respect and trust. This is a decision that you need to make.. be careful because remember he's always been a good friends it's up to you whether you can handle him being with someone else and just keeping what you have a platonic friendship. Choose wisely cause you can't always go back and do things over. Good luck.
2006-08-11 20:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by kitkool 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is be his friend. Maybe someday that'll change, but for now you may as well try and move on. If you still have a classmate, chances are you still have plenty of time to meet your soulmate.
2006-08-11 21:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, you can't be more than friends if he doesn't want it. Be his friend. I ended up marrying my best friend. Sometimes it takes guys a while to figure it all out but in the end, by being his friend, you will have a relationship with him no matter what. He may want more than friendship some day. Meantime, be happy he wants you as his friend.
2006-08-11 20:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by waney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to ask yourself why you think it is your fault that he doesn't like you. Have you done something that would have changed his feelings? If he's the type that changes his feelings so quickly I would think twice about getting involved with him. You're probably better off just being his best friend.
2006-08-11 20:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are still in H.S chances are it's just a crush and you will get over it and besides you got plenty of time to meet other guys who are into you. Some guys are just jerks and go with other girls who know that they can get something out of.....You know like those easy girls...anyways Just forget about him and if he does like you trust me he will do anything do have you back....good luck
2006-08-11 20:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Miss_G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you want to be in a relationship, both girl and boy has to like each other, and since he just wants to be your friend only it doesn't mean he doesn't like you, it just means that he doesn't want to go to that level with you. Will here's the question that you have to ask yourself: Would you rather be his friend or do something he doesn't like and become enemies?
2006-08-11 20:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by sherry_pucca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept the fact that he wants to be friends with u. maybe later things can get better and the both of u get to know each other better and start dating. don't rush the situation because u could be wanting something that is not good for u.
2006-08-11 20:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by hotgurl 04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i now how u feel b'cuz i have this bffl who i really like he invited me to his party and i went but i couldn't get him anything so i sat at 1 one of the tables whiles he opened his gifts then he came and we talked i said i can't help to say this but i have a friend who wants to b more than friends but can't tell you he found out it was me he said i like u but not in that way and he said he didn't care that didn't give him anything but we skated and talked and we'r still good friends I still have feelings but i try to keep them down wat u can do is see if maybe another guy likes and is waiting to ask u out u never know til u find out just don't go around and ask like i do
2006-08-11 20:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy 'bout Bryan Lifford!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋