Does Anyone out there feel like me??

Question

Just wondering if there are other people out there who are also dissatisfied with their life?At my age(32) I have no boyfriend,few friends,and not where i want to be or even near financially.Would like to hear what you think.Please only serious replies,thanks

Answer 1

I learned a valuable lesson in life.. I went through a bitter divorce. I wasn't bitter she was. She was into drugs and went paranoid. Using lies turned every one against me when I suggested rehab..I was even willing to go WITH HER!.. But it was all to no avail..

I lost everything, friends, family.. even personal things I had long before I ever met her..She burned, sold and gave away everything against court order and they did nothing to her over it..She was caught lying, using false documantation.. you name it contempt city..
WHen the smoke cleared I had the clothes on my back.. There was no one to help me back up.. and therein is the lesson..I was far from satisfied sweetie.. I was completely destroyed in fact.. But I had to depend on my own self.. I discovered strengths and abilities I never knew I possessed. I came to a point in my life where I didn't need anything from anyone..
All my life I thought I needed some one in my life to complete me...I can tell you that NO ONE does..NO one can MAKE you happy.. Only you can do that alone.. To find what you need in life you need to know yourself..Go after what YOU want. Do what you want and like to do.. forget about everyone else and be totally selfish... if you get that lonely... go dig up a piece o'leg some where and toss him out in the morning..lol. Keep nothing and NO ONE until you get where you want to be and don't let anyone scam you into thinking they'll help..most of them won't.. they'll just use your dreams against you.. You do this on your own.. you don't need anyone to get there.. in each of us there is everything we need to "make it"... so you go, get leather tough honey..go in both guns blazing and get what you want, don't settle, don't comprimise and never give up.

And when you get there... guess what.. there will be others (including really cute guys) that love the same things you do..wait and pick one of them if you MUST have some one in your life..I call them power people.. They dream, they act, they create and get what they want.. Be a move and a shaker darlin.. you can have it all if you really want it bad enough

Answer 2

Enjoy your freedom, get happy through accomplishments and mastering a skill, and you will run into someone with similar interests along the way.
Sounds easy doesn't it. It's not. What do you like to do? Where do you like to go? Try something new. Make a list of 10 interesting things give yourself a month to check them off....
You might try things like get involved in some volunteer work. There are people that need your help and appreciate your selflessness, and will give you the boost that you need. You will feel good about helping people. Take some online classes and finish your degree, or get certified in something new.
Sign up for balroom dancing classes, karate, cooking, or yoga. Join a gym, or hang out at Borders to people watch.
As far as the financial thing goes, check out some finance tips at www.oprah.com.
If this isn't working for you, even after you give it a fair chance, go to a college and talk to a life coach.
You don't need a boyfriend to be happy (but you already know that). You only need a few good friends. And a new financial plan.
You could also go to www.drphil.com to get some ideas.
Yes, many people feel like you. We just do different things to cope with it.
Good luck, take care!

Answer 3

Everyone feels that way at some point or another. The way you feel is completely normal.

People get ahead in life sooner, and some later. It may have to do with you, choices you have made. Or, not. It could be circumstantual, and beyond your control. The important thing is that you have an idea of where you want to be in life. You have goals, and never let go of them. Keep your goals in sight, and work torward them. Don't let life get you down.

I was recently searching old classmates at myspace . com, and it seems that just about everyone I went to school with is so far ahead of where I am. Most talk about their vacations, out of the country. Their nice homes and cars. Their careers, families. I could let it get me down that I am just now starting college, and am years away from reaching my goals, but I don't. I made decisions, I was "too busy" for college right out of school, partying was too important to me. But, ya know, that's alright. Life isn't a competition. So long as I stay focused, and strive for what I want, I will reach my life goals. And so will YOU!

32 is young. You still have time, try to stop worrying so much, and spend more time enjoying all the great things you DO have.

No boyfriend? So. That's good... That just means that you don't just settle for any man who asks you out. Picky is good. You will meet a good guy, in time.

Few friends? The number of friends you have is FAR less important than the quality of friends in your life.

You're just feeling down right now, you'll pick back up. :)

Answer 4

I know what you mean. I never thought that at 35 I would be where I am today. 35 seemed unimaginable when I was little and daydreaming about what life would be like when I got older. I was not prepared for how tough things would get as I got older. I have found myself being very frustrated with my life lately. The rational side of my brain keeps telling me that only I can make the changes necessary to achieve my goals. The irrational side wonders where all the fairytale endings went that where promised me as a child. I have learned I can't be anything I want. Isn't that the illusion adults create for us? All I can do about the disappointment in my life is stick out my tongue and blow a big raspberry and believe in tomorrow.

Answer 5

It took me a while to get to someplace I was happy. At age 35, I'm on my second marriage. I've had a hand in raising six children. I've been doing a job that I both love and hate for 17 years. I've been directionless, not knowing exactly what I wanted to do with my life. And my first marriage left me horribly in debt.

It was only in the past couple of years that I found a woman to truly love (my second wife), got my finances not only under control, but am close to being financially comfortable, and have figured out exactly what I wanted to do for the rest of my work days.

It was a long hard road, and sometimes I thought I would never make it. But I kept my head up, I didn't quit, and I didn't let anyone or anything keep me down. You just have to keep at it. Don't wait for things to happen to you, go make them happen. If you decide that you don't like the path you are heading down, change course...

Good luck.

Answer 6

Hey is 32 old ...I must be a dinosaur soo....seriously ..what do you really really want ....cause haveing no friends that I could count on till I was 40 ...I know how that is ..sometimes it means your different than others ...oh you may think you want the same things but be honest if you had them would you be happy ????....you sound a lot like me at that age ...you are intelligent and motivated ...I think you know what you want ...you start by only doing what makes sense to you and makes you happy ..then all else will fall in place...trust fate and destiny ..not every one is the average statistic type person

Answer 7

Serious replies? Ok u r only 32 so probably have a job which should keep you going at least, unless u still sponging off parents ... tsk tsk tsk!! A job will help you find people to socialise with at least, and very likely lead to more serious friends and ultimately, steady boyfriend. Or question your own expectations and c if they r realistic - if not, change. Be assured, NOBODY is totally satisfied at least at some point in their life, and rite now u may be at this point??

Answer 8

I can tell you what is wrong you are thinking negative instead of positive. Think of the good things in life. Nobody really likes there job. There is someone for everyone. Go someplace where you can make new friend. Money is not everything (it is nice to have though). Try something that makes you happy. Find a hobby. Smell the flowers. Look at the beautiful sky. Thank God for your health. Think of the things you do have in life instead of the things you do not have.

Answer 9

I was there probably about 6 months ago. I just moved to a new area about a year ago where I knew no one, and it was hard to adjust. But I decided to start building my first house, it closes in a week and a half. I starting hanging out with more friends. I find I am really starting to enjoy my job. I have started seeing someone new. So right now life is going really well for me. So there is definitely hope! We all have times when things feel like they are in a rut, you just have to get out there. If you can find ways to make yourself happy with your own life first you will attract other people.

Answer 10

I think we're twins! I'm 30, broke yet I work all the time, have no boyfriend, and seem to be isolated from my friends. (that's just the tip of the iceberg). Why do I choose to go on? I'm still trying to figure that out...and I guess there's still a spark of hope in me that things will one day get better. I wish I had faith to rely on, because then I would know that all my tribulations are just a test by God, but I still haven't found him, and am not sure I will.