my husband has been stealing things from me.i dont know why. is he giving it to someone else? or is he just trying to keep me from having my nice thins.shoes,jewelry,dresses and my weed stash what do i do??
2006-08-11 12:40:59 · 14 answers · asked by angie devine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
like he wears my jewelry or shoes lol, I buy my own clothes and things and he is taking my stuff
2006-08-11 12:47:04 · update #1
Try this, tell him someone is breaking into your house and stealing your things so youre going to notify the police and file a report. This is going to be the last thing hes going to want because hes not going to want to get arrested and go to jail. This should scare the hell out of him. If he says you should, then you got another problem and it sint him because he should know the police will fingerprint the house. Just one thing if you do notify the police, I wouldnt say anything about the weed or else. Good luck
2006-08-11 12:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have good rapport with him? There is a remote possibilty that he may be a closet cross-dresser. I am not saying that this is the case, but I have heard of this before, and disappearing items is a telltale sign.
I wouldn't assume he is cheating....if he was, you would be finding unexplained purchases on a credit card....things you have never seen. most guys wouldn't give mistresses used gifts..
If he IS a cross dresser, don't freak out. Sometimes guys are ashamed of this even though it has nothing to do with their sex drive or being heterosexual. Lots of hetero guys like to do this just because it turns them on, not because they actually want to be women or gay.
If this is it, then be calm and accepting, and gad that he can trust you with it, then make it a game......shop with him and buy matching lingerie. No one has to know but you two.
There is a possibility that he is on harder drugs, and that he is jonesing and trading your stuff for them. He would have to be really hard up if he's doing that. You would also notice other signs....
Play dumb. Ask if he has seen your (item). Ask if he knows where it went. Ask if he wants to tell you something. Tell him you already know, but you want to give him a chance to explain it from his perspective. Don't be accusing or judgmental. Tell him you love him unconditionally and if this is something he needs help with, then you're there for him.
If he's on drugs.....you might just be dealing with the drug., Drugs have a way of taking over a person's personality.
If he's a cross dresser, he might just feel releived that he doesn't have to hide it anymore, and that you're ok with him and his little kinky ways.
Good luck and have fun!
2006-08-11 19:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know it's your husband? Do you have kids, a daughter perhaps. Any who, your his wife, he is your husband, if you can't communicate to him about everything your feeling, what's the point. Talk to him, find out why he's doing the things he's doing before it's to late to help him if necessary.
2006-08-11 20:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by sweetl8dyt24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons. He could be giving it to someone else or could be selling it for money or drugs. The best thing to do is ask.
2006-08-11 19:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think Cali Girl has got the answer....he is selling your weed stash and other items for crack....
2006-08-11 19:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's just plain suspicious. Forget that your stuff is my stuff jazz-- there's no reason he needs your jewelry or clothes. I wonder, did he know about the drugs? Maybe he found that and got mad and threw your stuff way to make himself feel better? I dunno
2006-08-11 19:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i'd be soooooo pist off that i would walk out of that relationship... but it also depends how long you been with him, because if its been a long time, i know you get used to them and in this case it would be much harder.
damn, i would be soo pist...dont even want to think about it but another thing i would have in mind is "is he on crack"
2006-08-11 19:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him ask him why he's taking your stuff. If you don't say nothing he's going to continue doing it and wouldn't you want to know what the hell he's been up to.
2006-08-11 19:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by D!me D!va 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him why do not sit back and let this keep happening i bet if was his stuff being taken by you he would confort you right away
2006-08-11 19:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Vicki B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your home work very well, find out where and what he is doing with those tnings, your findings will determined your next line of action.
2006-08-11 19:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋