If you finally found someone you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, but you were torn between your children and this person. Would you leave this relationship and raise the children on your own and make them happy or send them to their father and live your life?
2006-08-11 12:38:37 · 9 answers · asked by fairyjin1971 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i hope ur not serious about this.... first: why cant u have both, that guy and ur kids? if he doesnt like ur kids, or doesnt take u with ur kids, then he isnt the right person! second: YOU NEVER LEAVE UR KIDS!!!!! u cant just give them away as u wish..... i got really mad when i read ur question!!!! ur their mother and responsible for them and their life... god i cant believe u even thought about giving them away.... only because of a guy...whats going on in your brain???if u give them away, u will regret it one day! i hope u were not serious about ur question...because you are talking about your kids, not about some toys...good luck, i hope u do the right thing
2006-08-11 12:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by simi1808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHILDREN COME FIRST ---- NEVER EVER LEAVE THEM. YOU WILL BE SO SO SORRY LATER. Why do you HAVE to chose? You didn't say that part......maybe we can help you figure out how to get out of the "situation" at hand rather than make a choice between the two. Remember, your heart may break and time WILL take care of that but OMG --- CHILDREN ALWAYS COME FIRST. When you decide to have those babies - your life changes forever and you have to accept that.
2006-08-11 19:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only responsibility in you life after you have children is the children. You are their life. That you could ever even consider a man over you children places you very low on the evolutionary scale.
2006-08-11 19:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by thebushman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your children have to come first they did not ask to be put in this world. Since your asking this question I guess he does not like the Idea of you having children already. Email me and we'll talk about it. Maybe I can help
2006-08-11 19:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Desperate Housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they would be better off with the father even if you don't continue the lesbian relationship.
You are obviously confused and are not a good role model to the children.
2006-08-11 19:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who won't accept your children? Doesn't that cause some kind of alarm to sound? What else won't he accept? Stay with your children and give them the love and guidance they deserve.
2006-08-11 19:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships come and go, fire today and ice tomorrow. Absolutely nothing in this world is more important than your children, if you can't see that then give your children to your ex or someone that will truly love them.
2006-08-11 19:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant find a happy medium between your kids & the one you love... you need to think about whos gonna be there in the long run...another concideration is .. wouldnt you be letting your kids down to abandon them for a love interest? do you feel their father can raise them adequately? will they be happier with him? or you? whats best for the kids is my 1st thoughts...
2006-08-11 19:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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that sounds like such hard desion.
it really depends on how old your children are. they should understand that you need your happiness. they shouldnt win and the guy should win eatiher
2006-08-11 19:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋