he thinks that he cannot be hurt by anything emotionally
i would never physically try to so i must get him where it hurts,however i so love him very much and i am not leaving him
2006-08-11 12:23:51 · 19 answers · asked by R J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you don't want to lose him, but you want to get back at him,................. move on!
2006-08-11 12:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 20:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, revenge is incompatible with a true and healty loving relationship. You cannot love someone and get back at them unless you are truely psychotic.
As a general rule, you should either dump the dirtbag, or learn to forgive and forget through counselling.
Some men find counselling to be extremely painful, so that might be considered payback... but don't think of it that way if you want to keep the relationship going, because you'll just get sucked into a whirlpool of revenge and double revenge, and you'll end your days as a bitter and hollow old woman, having sucked the life out of every living thing that ever tried to love you... and the nursing home staff would gladly use poison to avoid having to care for you another day.
If it's revenge you want, do it right. Get pregnant by him, have him buy all the baby stuff, and when he starts whistling nursery rhymes, have an abortion, start a tempestuous relationship with one, or all of his trusted friends, and move in with him/them to have a loving, and lifelong relationship. Invite him to all your parties, offer him coctails, and say "no hard feelings" until he wants to scream and smashes his head through a window before leaving in front of all his business associates.
or if he's a more physical type, it might be safer to get revenge by just moving out and never contacting him again.
2006-08-11 13:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way of getting even without someone getting hurt. Marriage is not a game or a race. Why waste your time asking that question?? Since you indicated that you are not leaving him, you need to figure out how to save your marriage by getting professional help (marriage counseling). By the way, why are you allowing your spouse to cheat anyway?
2006-08-11 13:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get even, get going!! If you get involved in games, you will end up getting hurt more and more in the end. If you want to work things out, you can't be thinking about revenge. And if you are thinking about revenge, you are still feeling bitter - which is completely understandable. The best way to get even, is to breakit off, and find someone new. When he sees you happy, and he's the one left alone, that will be sweet revenge. :)
2006-08-11 12:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by ~♥Sasha♥~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a inmature question is this??? Like a little kid or something. Its like punching someone in the back as hard as you can, knocking them down so they can't see you and running like hell. If he cheated, then either dump him or work on your relationship so he does not do that again. This type of revenge aspect your asking about is just totally DUMB!!! Sorry, but thats how I feel.
2006-08-11 12:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by cruedude1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, get a picture of you riding his best friend, with the caption, "He's WAY bigger than you!" Even better revenge is a pic of you on your knees in front of a hung black guy. For some reason this drives most guys crazy!!
2006-08-11 12:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you let him do it and get away with it, he is going to keep doing it. In a way you are telling him its ok. Revenge is bitter sweet, and Karma is a b*tch....don't know what advise to give you to get back at him, but maybe killing him with kindness would work! Good luck
2006-08-11 12:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lovey if you love him so much & your not going to leave him . then there is only one thing you can do. LIE BACK DOWN ON THE FLOOR LIKE A GOOD MAT SHOULD. THEN YOU DONT TRIP HIM UP.OH & GET THE PHONE NUMBER OF THE NEAREST CLINIC AS YOU MAY NEED IT.
2006-08-11 12:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not leaving him then do NOT get back at him. This is YOUR choice to stay so live with it. You decided to stay with him so put what he does out of your mind. Also protect yourself from transmitted diseases..
2006-08-11 12:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF IT'S A GAME THAT U LIKE BEEN IN THAN IT DON'T MATTER IF AND WHEN HE STEP OUT ON U. BUT I WOULD SAY LET GO LIFE DO GO ON. IF THAT PERSON CARE'S THAN THAT COULD BE YOUR WAY IN PAYING HIM BACK. MY MOTHER ALWAYS TOLD ME NEVER TO LET MY RIGHT HAND KNOW WHAT MY LEFT HAND WAS DOING.TRY IT AND SEE WHERE IT TAKES U.
2006-08-11 12:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by LOOKING HARD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋