What kind of parenting do you do? Are you stict, leniant or in between?

Question

My daughter is 15. I tend to be lenient because I can understand her point of view. It also helps keep communication open. What do you think?

Answer 1

Leniant is better. Thats how my mom was and our relationship was much better. Plus by that age most teens relize their parents can't really do anything but ground them and take things away...which just makes them rebel more.

Answer 2

You're type of parenting should depend on your child. If I was a parent I would be stricter to the child in younger years such as 3-13 years old than older years such as 14-18 years old gradually get much more leniant. I think if you have a good up-bringing will teach your child to respect you and what is expected, but keep in mind to always listen to your child, because it could back fire on you in later years. Then, in older years you can gradually be more leniant as the child get older and respects you and knows what is expected. (What I just said was an example not the only way of parenting.) Remember every child is different and may need a more strict, leniant, or in between parents at different stages of their life. Be understanding.

Answer 3

Lenient is much better.
Being too strict sucks.
I mean, the kid feels suffocated when a parent is too strict.
I moved out of my parents house and in with my oldest brother to attend the school where he lives. He was really strict with me...I mean, really strict. It's like I got grounded for a measly little D on my report card...and I had just came out of a 1.1 GPA average...so it wasn't easy to keep up a 3.6. He was going to ground me for a C, but it didn't happen. It was a struggle...and it suffocated me. It was like I had little freedom...
So yeah, being leniant is good. Very good. Be firm, but not too firm.

Answer 4

I'm a mother of 2 little girls so I'm still not in the teen age stage. I do however remember very well being a teen myself. Teen agers are still kids. Emotonaly and biologicaly (their brains are not fully developed yet) they are not mature enough to make decitions like adults are. My mom respected me as an individual yet she was strict. Sure like every teen I wished she would let me do whatever I wanted but I'm very greatful to her now that she didn't. The decitions I would have made with out her dicipline would have led me to a very tough path in life. However thanks to her wisdom in parenting I never did drugs, never had sex other than with my husband, I've never had to see a shrink, I've always felt secure and loved by my parents, I never had to seek love from a guy to feel whole, I've never had to get tested for STD's or had to be worried about getting pregnant when I wasn't ready to be a mother, and many other problems that kids face now a days because their parents are more worried about being their kids friends than about their kids well being! Even when I was tempted to rebel my mom's smart advise always stuck with me and caused me to not make stupid choices. She was never afraid to tell me that there is such a thing as good and bad and that when I did bad things the consequences would fall up on me and no body else. If I rebeled agaist her dicipline it would be very stupid to do since I would only be screwing up my own life, and not hers or anyone else!
Even though my mom and I clashed at times when I was a teen now we are best friends because now she doesn't have to raise me anymore and because I know that she loved me enough once to show me the right path even when I was too imature to notice!
I thank God for a mom who wasn't my best friend as a teen but was my LOVING PARENT above all.
I'll do the same with my kids when they are teens.

Answer 5

I was more strict than lenient. My daughter is 20, my son 25. The funny thing is, they are both critical of kids in public now. When they see one acting like a zoo animal and the parent(s) is(are) oblivious, one of them always says, "You never let us act like that when we were growing up" OR "If that was my kid I'd make them behave" OR "Why doesn't that mother do something with that kid" !!!! My daughter says she never wants children!

Answer 6

Pick and choose your battles carefully. A good disciplinarian must be well disciplined [ practise what they preach] or they loose credibility. Children respect discipline. It sets boundaries and constructs routine. The first 13 yeas of our lives we learn from everyone around us. The next 5 years are spent as understudies. These are the crucial years. This is the hard part; this is the time we as parents have to be assured we taught our children well, give them their wings [space], and watch em flock with the Buzzards, or soar with Eagles.

Answer 7

I'm not a parent but my mom is way to strict I think a parent should be lenient!!!!! or at lest alittle

Answer 8

Im not a parent but my mom is inbetween and my dad is very strict...so i stay away from my house as much as i can...thats how i got into sports and modeling thank god!!

Answer 9

I buy drugs for my 14 year old girl, and let her prostitute herself whenever she likes, and my son shoplifts, and is a pimp for his sister, but I had to by him a 9mm handgun to protect himself when he goes to buy drugs from bikie gang members, and my husband has 3 girlfreinds, and is a drug addicted alcoholic, and Im an old whore, who still walks the streets. and my other son has decided to have a sex change operation, so he can marry his male lover, (we have a beautiful family)

Answer 10

im not a parent but my dad is strict