I Need Help Spying On A cheater?

Question

See I have this friend and I know her husband is cheating on her and she won't do anything about it unless she has proof I need help spying on him but I don't know how can anyone help me ?

Answer 1

Mind your own business. I know you're doing this because you care about your friend but in the end, she'll turn this around and be mad at YOU! He will lie and she will believe him because it's what she wants to believe.

Answer 2

Well it's good you want to help out your friend, sounds like she knows you're going to spy on him. I wouldn't do it without telling her, and I'd be careful, so she doesn't shoot the messenger. It's tricky getting involved with other peoples' marriages.
But if you're going through with it...figure out what his routine is. I assume you know where he lives, hopefully his wife would cooperate and give you the details of what his daily routine is supposed to be like. Stake out his work would be the best place, see where he goes after work. Keep in touch with his wife, so you know what he's telling her he's doing. Stay a safe distance away, have a video camera and digital camera handy (just watch out for the flash), and see what he does. Maybe if you had a friend who he didn't know, if he was inside a bar or something you could send her in to take some discreet pictures. It might be good to check his computer too, see what his online activity is, if you think that's where it might come from. Maybe install a program that would record everything he did.
Watch Cheaters and Alias for inspiration, and good luck! Hopefully you can get the proof and she'll have the courage to leave him, if he really is cheating.

Answer 3

Ahhh a cheater, these are fun to catch. When he leaves the house for some reason....and he will come up with some excuse if he is in fact cheating, follow him. Stay far enough behind and in a car he isnt going to recognize. If this is not possible, tap the phone, hire an investigator, suggest getting gps. All cheaters slip up eventually.

Answer 4

There's a website I got from askjeeves.com that for a fee you can get his last month's cel.phone statement. That's how I found out about an ex-boyfriend. What's sad was that some of the women he was cheating on me with didn't care. How desperate is that?! Anyway, I dumped him so fast he didn't know what was happening. You just have to be very creative ... and when you're strong like me you won't let any man play you like a fool. Girl, if you suspect he's cheating likely he is. Besides, there are too many deceases out there for you to be subjected to. (Hello?!)

Answer 5

If you know your friend's husband is cheating. She probably knows it deep down too. Chances are even if you can present her with proof she won't do anything. It sounds like your friend doesn't want to deal with the reality of her husbands alleged fidelity. Don't take it upon yourself to do the dirty work. You could end up losing a friend. But if your friend wants to investigate you can go along for the ride. Let her make the decision to spy. You can find proof on infidelity in many ways. Here are few.
1. She can check his credit card statement or bank statement for suspicious charges.
2. Look for irregular work hours on his paycheck stub. (N/A if salary or self employed)
3. Go over cell phone bill for repeat numbers you don't recognize.
4. Hack into voice-mail & email.
5. If you choose to follow him around town use a friends car that he won't recognize

Answer 6

Short of following him with a camera everywhere he goes or hiring someone to there is not much you can do.

If your friend won't believe you it would be a good idea that you drop this until you do have proof. Your friend will believe her husband first and then you. Push this too far and you could loose a friend.

Plan what you will do and only after you have proof bring this back up with your friend.

Remember....this is really none of your business to start with. I know you love your friend and want to protect her but think about what you are doing.
You get proof and you will devastate her.
No one wants to believe their spouse will cheat. And when you find out they are it is a very big loss.....believe me....I know.
I had to see a crisis counselor to get over mine.

Answer 7

First of all I would stay out of it because it isn't your problem they are married and if things are going to get even worse then you don't want to be in the middle of it. If they get a divorce because of you spying on him cheating then you will be brought in the middle of it. That is not what you wan ttrust me. they are married and they are adults if they can't worjk this out on there own then they have bigger problems. It isn't your problem. If she can't handle it herself then she needs to figure something else out. Don't get involved. Trust me you will be thankful later. Divorce can be vey lenghty and dramatic. Your better off supprting your friend through this hard time and listen to her so she doesn't feel alone. but other then that I would stay out of it.

Answer 8

Go to Radio Shack and buy a recorder that hooks into the phone line and records whats being said without the user knowing it. Thats how I caught my cheating wife.

Answer 9

if u are a good friend u will help her by getting a private detectives because she met need Ur help with out Noni how to tell u but be car full husband and wife is not to be interfered

Answer 10

Look in your local yellow pages and I am sure there will be a private eye listing if not I will do the work but it will cost travel plus expenses.. Get intouch if you need me..