my boyfriend just asked me to have sex?

Question

i said yes but im only 13. he is commin over now he got the condoms im scared i dont want to but he been askin 4 a long time now. im afraid if say no he'll break up wit me wat should i do

how bout if just let him see me naked or let him finger me

Answer 1

If you are scared then why would you do it? That's just stupid!!! And besides you are too young anyone. How old is your boyfriend cause if he was smart he would know better than to ask a 13 year old that. If I was you I wouldn't do it
why can't you just wait don't let him see you naked or finger or that's still bad

Answer 2

First off you said "im scared i dont want to" umm... in a relationship what happens is that each of you set ground rules or w/e to make YOU more comfortable in the relationship. If your not comfortable then forget it. I know that this guy may mean the world to you, but do you mean the world to him? He should respect you enough to back off and let you decided when YOU are ready to have sex. You know even if you get all naked or w/e its still your right at any point of the whole thing to say that you changed your mind. Thats your right. If he doesn't stop in the act after you say no he violated that right. Then it goes to rape but thats not really the issue right here. He's obviously had sex already and feels comfortable doing it, your not so just say no. When you say no if he breaks up with you you'll know two things.

1. He doesn't respect you enought to wait
2. He only wanted sex NOT you.

A relationship can be fun and exciting without sex. You can cuddle up watch movies, tickle each other, kiss, hold hands and walk and stuff. A relationship should be full of fun. Its companionship just enjoying to be in someone's company, but if he's nagging you and making you do something you don't wanna do thats not really enjoyment. Feelings should be mutual. Enjoy your relationship don't let it go in directions you don't want to. Plus I hear the first time sex is painful, its rumored but i'm not really sure. Anyways I hope this helped you out.

Answer 3

Don't do it.
1. You're way to young to have sex, because if you got pregnant you couldn't support the child.
2. Condoms don't always work.
3. You're parents will be pissed off at you if you got pregnant.
4. If you got pregnant you would have a bad reputation of being a teenage parent.
5. If you are afraid don't do.
6. If he breaks up with you, because you didn't want to have sex, he obvisiously doesn't respect you.
7. I think he is trying to take advantage of you if since you are 13 years old and he's been asking you to have sex for a long time.
8. If you aren't ready to marry him you shouldn't have sex with him.
9. If you have sex you will lose your virginity.
10. If you have sex now and then you all break up in three months and you go on to another guy to have sex with you could get a sexually transmitted disease such of HIV, AIDS, or STD.
Please don't have sex with this guy.

Answer 4

don`t do it condoms are only 90% effective and Ur too young just Say no and there are plenty of other guy who will like you the way you are what if you end up pregnant are you ready for that wait till you are at 15 or 16 I'm 14 and I'm still a virgin

Answer 5

Darling, the truth of the matter is he'll probably break up with you anyway even if you do. You are a precious jewel and this is a mistake you could regret for the rest of your life. Condoms aren't foolproof and you could get pregnant or get a disease. If this guy really loved you, he wouldn't be pressuring you. Stand up for your heart and say NO, I changed my mind!!

There's nothing wrong with boys, but they have more hormones than brains until they are much older, so they try to get sex like starving people try to get food. But they won't die without it! This boy is NOT worth your self-respect.

Believe me, it'll be better for this boy to break up with you than for you to get pregnant, or lose your self-respect, or lose your virginity and then feel like trash when he dumps you later on. Please take it from an adult -- it's not worth it!!!

Answer 6

please please please do NOT have sex with him. If your heart isn't in it, don't do it. Listen to yourself. He may break up with you if you don't but then that just shows he's a jerk and doesn't care about you. Personally I think you are too young to handle such an emotional thing. Having sex, especially the first time, should mean something. I was 15 going on 16 when I did it for the first time and I REALLY regret the situation because the person I gave my virginity to wasn't worth it. You can only give it once, remember that. I hope you make the right decision. :)

Answer 7

no you say no and if he breaks up with you then that tells you or should tell you that he is not the one for you because he will not accept you answer and if he keeps on presuring you then you need to break up with him and find someone who will accept your decision as his girlfriend and a woman.even if then tell your parents or someone older who can stop this from happening and if not see if you can talk to him and persuade him to do something else don't let him see you naked then he will want more and will probably rape you or something and do not let him finger you either stay away from him.don't do it it is not worth ityou can get annother boyfriend but not another feeling it will haunt you forever.

Answer 8

DONT DO IT!!!!!!!let him dump u if that is the case u will be very sorry!!!! u r too young and u will be sorry and wat if the condom breaks or falls off and then u get pregnant trust me sex probably wont feel good at yr age anyways it is for wen u r older!!! save yrself if u can for the person u r gonna marry someday wen u r older please!!!!! and dont let anyone tell u it is ok cuz its not there is alot of time for wen u r older and wen u r ready ok if u were my daughter id kick his butt and not let him bak!!!

Answer 9

Don't do it! You're the same age as me and that is WAAAY too young! If he breaks up with you just because you wouldn't have sex with them then he wouldn't've been a real boyfriend to begin with. If he was a true boyfriend, he would respect your feelings and wait till' you're reading in a couple years. If he does break up with you then you will know that he only wants to get in your pants.

Answer 10

Break up with him.

You don't need the pressure. i mean he is not the only guy in the world and when you are ready there are hundreds of guys that will jump at the chance to have sex. And if he doesn't like it just remember your only 13 you are going to have plenty of guys in your life.

Be strong don't give in if you don't wanna.

If your still scared act like your not home.