Why do mothers have to leave their job immediately when a call from the babysitter comes? more details?

Question

I am not asking this question to anger any mothers, I just want to learn why they have to leave so suddenly. I work in a surgical facility and they just up and leave. Couldn;t they call their husband to go get the child?

There is no need to answer with Well, you must not have children, because you are right I don't, that is why I'm asking. So, please don't be rude, okee dokee?

I KNOW she is a good mother, my question is why leave a patient in the middle of a surgical case?

Answer 1

I suppose sometimes it's a genuine emergency. Maybe some of them don't have a "plan" or a support system in place in case their child becomes ill. I can totally see what you're saying, as I don't have children and I sometimes get a little annoyed with my co-workers coming late, leaving early, missing meetings, etc., because of their children. I just have to try to remind myself that I might do the same thing if I had kids. Yet, it seems a little irresponsible to me to CONSTANTLY be failing to meet your obligations in the work place because you chose to have children. (Again, I can see that there are times there are emergencies, babysitters falling through, etc.) I just start to feel a little "shafted" because there's the assumption I can stay for all of the meetings, can stay as late as necessary, etc., because I don't have kids. I just try to tell myself that someday the shoe may be on the other foot.

Answer 2

As a mother of four children ranging in the ages of 12 to 6 the last thing we want to get when we are at our jobs is a call from the babysitter be it daycare or a family friend. Sometimes it just can not be helped. I work a full time job and try to balance my family. When that call comes in the first thing you think of is I have to go right now the second thing is how do I break the news to the rest of the people who are relying on me to do my job. It really is a very stressfull situation. But when it comes down to it you have to make a choice and the children will always win out. In todays society where things are supposed to be split 50/50 in a marriage this is not always the case. Men's jobs are more important or so they seem to think anyway. It is perfectly acceptable for the mother to be called, but if it was the father then things are definately not seen the same way. Besides would you rather your associate at work stay and send her husband to pick up the child I can tell you from experience that she will not be thinking about her job any longer. No it will be has her child already been picked up? Are they ok? Is he taking care of him or her the same way that she would be? So I guess the answer to your question of why do mothers have to leave... because they are mothers and when push comes to shove that's their job and no one can do it like they can. Think back to the last time you were hurt or sick who is it you wanted most was it your mother or your father? I know it is hard for people who don't have children to understand what this is like all you see is they get to leave work early and you have to pick up the slack again. Try to put a little positive light on the subject . Yes you have to pick up the slack of your co-worker when she leaves, but at the end of the day you are off and she is still going to be working so enjoy your down time and try not to worry so much about the little things. I hope this sheds some light for you.

Answer 3

In some cases there is no father around to help out. When I leave my son in day care, if my son gets sick they will not allow him to stay with the other children, so I have no other choice but to pick him up right away. They make these rules so that his cold or whatever is coming down with doesn't spread around to all of the other kids at the day care, and also to the providers.

Answer 4

i honestly don't agree with the men have a higher paying position so it's imposible to leave, wow, insulting much. i think it's a natural instict to drop everything to go be with her child. it maybe that her husband has the attitude that his job is more important and would just let the child suffer till he could get a break. not sure of the circumstances in which she's leaving. have you ever asked her? perhaps her child has a severe illness she doesn't talk about.

Answer 5

I don't have kids either and sometimes I'd like to leave early on a Friday too! lol. Our office mgr. is on vacation & I swear I think I'm the only one left here (b/c I work the switchboard, so I'm stuck). Have you heard the commercial where this man puts up pictures of kids in his office (even though he doesn't have any) so he can leave whenever he wants. But in answer to your question (even though I don't have kids), I think women are just more nurturing so when "little Billy" is sick it's always mommy to the rescue, whereas Dad might tell him to tough it out at school for the rest of the day.

Answer 6

My daughter had a crisis in the middle of me sponge-bathing a client. I didn't know what to do. I finished up my 2-hour shift though and got home. I still feel guilty for not getting home sooner but I didn't know what to do. I am a home support worker.
The crisis was really really bad but I tried to tune it out and not let my elderly client know I was in distress. It was a very long shift. In retrospect I should have found a way to just leave her and go home to my daughter but I didn't know how to do it and I was too far out of town to have someone else replace me quickly if I called my office. I did cancel my evening shift though as soon as I got home.

Answer 7

My sitter will make me get her if she starts running a fever over 102 degrees, if she is seriously hurt or if they feel that I need to get her for any other reason.

I am closer to the sitter than my husband is, plus he cannot just leave his job. My back-up is my mother when I am just not able to leave to go get her. Most children want their mommy when they are not feeling and mommy is usually the one who drops the child off and picks them up.

Answer 8

Most times the husbands are the Higher paid people or have a job that they cannot leave so easily! I know that I run my own business and put in long hours and sometimes it is impossible to leave work or it could mean a large loss in our banking account!! So my wife takes care of family affairs!!

Answer 9

I hear ya! When my husband was in school this last time.............same thing. I was working FOUR jobs to put him through school... Only one was a 40 hour week....But still. They always called me! No one could ever reach my hubby. I think that everyone just calls the mom first...we are alway easy to reach, just our instincts. Annoying.... I know, but just the way it is. "Most" men that I know, just have not had to have the responsibility, so they just don't do it! If we don't do it, it won't get taken care of!

Answer 10

I think deep inside women still fell guilty for working and not taking care of there children, Men have it easier, they wouldn't no how to handle that anyway, also the woman makes less money than a man, or society thinks women are not important on the job..they wont be missed, we are still living in a sexist society, not much has changed.