after the way he's reacting, would you think my husband wanted out in our less than a year marriage?

Question

sex been low, he watches porn everyday, he beat himself when you're at work, when you get home from work he still on the computer and very sneaky on watching his porn, u always the one who initiate in making love but he rejected you and his excuse = not now! I'm not in the mood...... then he tells you that he doesn't have friends and would like to meet new friends.

Answer 1

Just make sure your meeting the new friends also.. Every couple has to adjust to just being with eachother and every marriage has dry sexual spells...just try spicing things up and when he tells you he is to tired get yourself a toy masterbate in the same bed with him if that doesn't put him in the mood then somthing is seriously wrong

Answer 2

Obviously he is into very spicey sex. I would advice watching some porn with him, and maybe mimic the actors. Try to catch him off guard like meeting him at the door with nothing on, or giving him a BJ while he watches TV. In fact, a BJ is always a good way to get a guy in the mood, so if you don't or don't know how I suggest watching porn and taking notes.

Sorry, I just wanted to add a bit more. I see a lot of responses telling you to dump him or "find a man that doesn't watch porn". Look, all men watch porn in some form or another. We are men, sex is our nature. Just talk to your man, and try to spice up your sex life. If it doesn't work, then I would suggest counseling to see if there isn't something else that is bothering him. I know this sounds shallow, but has your body changed much since the sexual days? Perhaps getting your figure back and teasing him would get him back in the mood.

Answer 3

Darling I think it may be time for cansouling. If you don't want to do that then have a sit down talk with him about this stuff. You need to get things worked out. HIm watching porn all the time instead of pleasing you and wanting to have sex with you is not good and not healthy. Tell him you need to work it out and it is important. Don't let it off as devorce that quickly. He married you and must have reasons why he can't have forgotten them that quickly. I personaly would put blocks on the computer so he con't look at porn and or unplug the computer. TV porn like on DVD or viedo I would break every one with a hammer and put it in a box and on his side of the bed if he has paper back porn I would shred it and also put it in a box on his side of the bed. And leave a note we need to talk and NOW!

Answer 4

It sounds to me that he wants out. I dont know any man who would rather watch porn or jack-off than to have sex with his own wife! Either he wasn't ready for marriage in the first place or he's having an affair....he might be getting pleasure from else where (porn isn't gonna do the job..at least not the WHOLE job!) My best advice is to sit down and talk to your husband first. Tell him how you feel unwanted and invisible...maybe he'll listen and understand. If not, you might want to consider other options b/c a vibrator isn't gonna do the WHOLE job for u either! Good luck.

Answer 5

Does he have a job, or is he home all day? He could be suffering from depression. Porn can be addictive to someone who is already feeling bad about something.

Lack of sex also sounds like depression. He will probably deny he is depressed. He will probably refuse to see a doctor, but that is what he really needs. A doctor will decide if there is a physical problem or not.

Answer 6

Hmm, well..it certainly doesn't sound too good does it? You know what I thought of first thing though?? Maybe he is addicted to porn. When you think about it, just about everything you mentioned had to do with sex. He is into the whole porn thing, but not into you. I would start letting him know exactly how you feel about things. Personally, I think it is disrespectful of him to look at those sort of things when you are right there to witness it( not that you would want it hidden either). I especially think it is rude and disrespectful since he isn't finding time for you in that way.

I would tell him that one of three things is going to have to happen....either he starts devoting more time to you and less to the porn, or you both go to marital therapy( they can help with these sort of things), or he leaves...because this isn't fair to you and it is emotional neglect for him to abandon you in that way. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

well you no what, you need a man that does not watch porn, a man who listens and communicates with you rather then that computer, a man who aint sad enough to ful fill his fantasies from porn although he has something much more beautifal and sexy then that at home ( i aint lesbian, just trying to make you realise something) you should be the one rejecting him after the way he carries on. why dont you try not to give a **** at what he does for a few weeks, then watch the way he changes, he will start to realise what he is loosing, if not then do me a favour,put one of his favourite porn vids on and glue his face to the TV screen LOL

good luck

Answer 8

Girl. Go out and find yourself someone that WANTS to do it with you. Divorce your husband, and just make yourself happy. Then, when you are at the point that you could not care less about a man, you will probably find the right guy. Seems like guys never want girls that want them. Guys always want to do it, there are tons of guys out there...girls can always get some, even if you don't want a serious relationship. You should feel good about yourself, you don't need him - you can do tons of stuff: bowling, aerobics, sunbathing at the park - do what you enjoy, and the rest will fall in to place.

Answer 9

I think it is time to sit the hubby down and ask him what is going on. I think his interest in the computer rather that you is very telling. Is he having an internet romance?? Sounds like it may be time to pack up and move along.

Answer 10

hes a porn addict. he would rather live in his fantasy world then have real sex. he needs to get help and you deserve better than him!!! move on hes not the one for you. things will just get worse with him. once an addict always an addict.