Why do people act like sex is bad?

Question

I understand that there are negative aspects. These, alas, can be negated. Why the attitude that folks should hide it, or pretend they don't want it? Why are we mad and surprised when our kids like/want it? Why would someone believe that god would want one to do it only for procreation? Why would god have made us deny ourselves something we enjoy? Why does everyone feel weird about what put all of us here?
Thanks in advance for your honest and insightful input.

Answer 1

If you can subvert a person's sexuality, the rest of them comes easy.

Answer 2

I think because overall people except the negative aspects of things rather than the positive.We are guilty of it including I .Also believe people act so outraged about the topic sex is beause many "religions" have a negative influence on this subjuect,so some will automatically look at it as though it's a sin.But you're absolutely right sex should be an enjoyable expericene after marriage has proceeded,but alot of people today will not follow the acceptable standard.Some will choose to have premarital or casual sex.Even then I don't consider that to be so bad unless the unprotected and the safe way of having sex is cancled out.Then that is when I consider it to be abusive sex.People are going to do there own thing no matter how risky the outcome maybe.Thats the beauty and "danger" of having a mind of your own.We are all free willed humans.But in the end I would hope people who choose to have numerous partners will ,also choose to have safe sex.

Answer 3

Of course, none of us can speak for "people" and "everyone"- but- generally speaking I think that the problem is the "In your face" attitude that is being pushed on us by the music and entertainment industry. Sex is 1. fun, 2. interesting, 3. sometimes usefull ( when one needs children) and 4. necessary to ease the boredom of marriage.
Sex is not dirty ,but having it thrown in your face -by people you don't know- is very offensive. I do not believe that God cares a fig if you have sex or not. I would like to think that God has more important things to do than worry about whos doing who!! I personally do not know anyone who thinks "wierd" about what put us here. As for us being wierd or surprised when our children want sex I can only say- I am damned glad my kids discovered sex- I would not have any grandchildren if they had not. And I must say- my children and grandchildren all turned out quite wonderful- thanks to alot of practice before doing the real thing!!!!!

Answer 4

to actual have sex needs to be a private thing for lovers. as far as open nudity people have no reason to get aroused just because they see an atractive looking person naked.sex would have no meaning for true Lovers, if sex was just an open activity. some people actually get turned on watching others even total strangers having sex. some people believe sex should be as casual as a hand shake is, while others be believe it something you save for your wedding night.as for my own point of view l'm asexual sex has no real meaning in a romance anymore. l think to many people express themselves sexually and still can't find sexual satifaction. So they keep trying and moving up to the next level becoming more open or more parters, differant position or anything they try to satify themself. Missing out on the true purpose of sex as a way for Lovers to express to each other when they are alone together.
l in the best relationship l've ever been in it is totally asexual and we are enjoying life for the first time.

Answer 5

I totally agree with you. And the more we make it seem "bad" and "FORBIDDEN!" the more teenagers are going to be drawn to it, and do it secretly. There is nothing wrong with sex, but people should be careful who they do it with (don't do it with EVERYONE of course, moderation is the key to EVERYTHING), and how we do it (always use protection!).

People make way too big of a deal out of sex. It should be enjoyed, and I believe it is good to enjoy it with different people before you get married, so that you don't end up curious while you are married, to the point that you cheat and have an affair to satisfy your curiosity. Everyone, even women, YES WOMEN need to "sew their wild oats". I was always a little restless in relationships, and now that I'm 28 and I've experienced quite a bit, I have piece of mind in the wonderful relationship I'm in. You can't buy that at church.

Answer 6

I think it's a combination of two things.
First, it's a leftover from the Puritanical ideology of 300 years ago.
But also, people confuse sexuality with immorality. Sex in marriage is a beautiful expression of love between 2 committed partners (M/F) Sex outside of marriage is a train wreck waiting to happen. With all the things that can go wrong, it really takes the above committment to be able to deal with the consequences of sex. It's too important to be casually indulged in by people who are not ready for it.

Answer 7

There is enough evidence out there to prove that "kids" who want and get sex are not emotionally mature enough to handle it. It has negative affect on them, life long sometimes that cannot be "negated" as you put it. It is normal to feel sexual feelings as a human, it is entirely different whether we should or shouldn't act on them.

Mature consenting adults that take proper precautions and are fully aware of what they are doing is different than teens going at it in the back of a car on a date.

God does not deny us something to enjoy, in fact, if you knew the Bible and God, you'd know what He says about sex. That it is good for a wife and husband. The Bible also is clear about sex outside of marriage. With good reason.

Answer 8

I think way back when, it was demonized by moral and social rules. Morally it was considered only for married adults looking to procreate by the church. Socially, sexuality is often considered vulgar. Sexual diseases and unplanned pregnancies played a large role in the "rules".

What is interesting is everyone want it and likes to talk about it (that why Springer was such a hit) but we still have these unofficial rules prohibiting it. I actually think the rules and the idea of breaking them make sex more appealing and exciting.

Answer 9

These are moral values passed down from generation after generation.
Parents get mad cos they care about you. Maybe you are too young to understand the consequences and taking sex too lightly. What if the gal is pregnant? Are you going to abort it and bear the regret in life? Are you ready to commit time and money to raise the child? Do you have that ability? What if you are HIV positive?
There's nothing wrong about having sex. Its the consequences that matters.
God didn't made us deny ourselves, its human values that was being instilled in the teachings.

Answer 10

I think the reason people think sex is bad is because you are not supost to have sex before your married. I don't know many people though that think it is ment only for procreation though. Sex makes people uncomfortable because it is a private thing between two people. Talking about the sex you had last night is like that person looking at you naked.

Answer 11

God does not deny us the pleasure of having sex. The only thing he asks is for us to be married before committing that act. Otherwise we are all good on the sex situation.