is it time for me to get a divorce,even though i'm a chrisitian woman?

Question

my husband and i have been married for yrs with three kids. Just 6 monthss ago,he left ot go overseas for sea duty(his military) and to be with his girlfriend.He left me and the kids here in the states where we only knows one person that cna be trust and he 's been a friend for yrs too.He just email me maybe three wks ago and now the girl is asking for things he can't or want give her. I have nay good days and bad days,but im still here. He's a good provider. I'm so scared to move on.Give me honest feed backs

Answer 1

This is a tough one. As a christian we are to forgive each other. Is he sorry for what he did? Does he still love you? And you he? Does he treat you well? It is very hard to forgive someone who cheated.
I was once married and my husband cheated on me. I decided no man was going to cheat on me. He was sorry for what happened but I wouldn't hear it. I divorced him over 20 years ago. Had I stayed with him and endured and forgave we would be together today. I still love him. I made those vows for better or worse and I failed. I see him today and I think had I stayed with him what a better man he would be. I was only married to him 3 years.
Ask yourself do you love him?
Does he treat you and the children well?
Have faith and pray for him.
If all else fails and you feel the same...then let me set your mind to rest...infidelity is just cause for divorce.
Matthew 5:32 But I tell you if anyone who divorces his wife on any grounds, "except unfaithfulness", makes her commit adultery.....

Answer 2

I think even Christians are allowed to divorce their spouse when that spouse has violated the marriage vows, so don't worry about that.

You need to worry about yourself and the kids. Do you think it is a good idea to raise the kids with daddy having a girl friend? What will that teach them about marriage?

What you need to do is kick that husband in the behind and tell him to shape up or take off for good. You should not have to share your husband!!!

Talk to the friend you have there and ask him to tell you the name of a good lawyer. Many lawyers will allow you a 30 minute consultation before starting to charge you. That will allow you to find out answers to a lot of questions you may have.

Get some courage. Demand to be treated the way you should be. Don't sit back and allow him to treat you this way!!

Answer 3

You have to grow a spine and leave him! Are you willing to put up with sharing him with someone else just because you're afraid to move on? This is the reason why some people stay in bad marriages...because they're so afraid of being alone. You need to ask yourself why you don't have the courage to leave and work on those issues. If it's a self esteem issue, get out there and do something to better yourself. If it's money issues, get a job. At any rate, don't stay in a bad marriage. It's not worth it!

Answer 4

Sweetie, your husband isn't allowed to have a girlfriend. If you are a Christian woman, you should know that God doesnt' expect you to stay in a marriage where one of you is unfaithful.

There is nothing to be afraid of. You will be fine on your own, you need some planning. You have raised 3 children.......if you ask me that is a pretty difficult thing to accomplish, so I am certain you could survive.......THRIVE.....without this man. We dont' need men to support us. Being a good provider is not equal to being a good husband. Have some self respect and get out.

Answer 5

being christian doesn't mean u have to let someone treat u badly.... =T if he was a good husband to you and took care of all ur needs, then tha'ts a different story. but he totally abused his vows! this is not a marriage any longer. if u feel something is wrong in ur heart and that things are not positive, it is not good. u need to always seek what is Good, positive, loving, and righteous. being faithful to an unfaithful man is not a righteous thing..it is just suffering for you. pray, but i think u know the answer. u married into this thinking u would love and serve him, and that he would respect and honor you. this is not a real marriage.

Answer 6

Did you marry him for money? Whether he is a good provider or not has nothing to do with whether it's a good marriage or not. Either you love him or you don't. Sounds like he needs to get rid of his greedy girlfirend, and you can tell him I said so. I WENT OVERSEAS WITH THE MILITARY ALSO - and people get lonely over there but that does not mean it is love.

Answer 7

I think you need to sit down and talk to your husband. It is nor normal for him to expect you to be ok with him having a girlfriend. If it were me, I would have divorced him already. If the finances are whats keeping you there, then start saving so you can afford to leave.

Answer 8

I see why you use that nickname now.

He left you to be with his girlfriend and you are still wondering if you should move on?.............. Move On ? ................. Move On?

You were given the green light to move on when he left you for his girlfriend.
If you don't "move something", you'll just be standing there by yourself like you are now.

Why do you girls want a guy that has treated you so badly, til now you feel you don't deserve better?

Answer 9

It is up to you --but know that the day he cheated on you, you were released from your marriage vows in God's eyes. You can stay or go with a clean conscience.

Answer 10

Start with a good education.
Learn how to speak, read and write coherently.

Once you are educated, you will realize what a dope you've been and you'll move on.