I'm a white guy who's considering dating outside my own race (not Exclusively though). ---BUT it's so hard believing that ALL black women are like the traditional BET persona shown in the media----You know,-the bad attitudes, promiscuity, thug-lovin' hoochie stuff.
Beauty can be found in all races-perhaps-----but I'm not just going for anything
What's your opinion?
2006-08-11 11:25:03 · 25 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Hello there.... I am a black woman that would like to comment on your question... I believe that in all races you are gonna come across the cream of the crop and the bottom of the barrel... It really just depends on what you are looking for and how you pursue it... i have been thinking about dating outside of my race as well and i find that your question is valid because, for the most part i see all types of men checking me out but most are not bold enough to approach me. my suggestion is.. if you come across a woman that interest you.. be bold be daring and strike up a conversation and see where it goes
2006-08-11 11:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by lucky1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have received some interesting answers that's what makes this new feature so great everyone is entitled to their own opinions. There is nothing wrong in dating outside of your race many people think if a white person man or woman dates a black person it is so taboo. Bottom line is all women are stereotyped and yes we as black women or more type casted into this box that were all loud, ghetto, big asses (not all of us), uneducated video vixens, terrible attitudes, gold diggers well the list goes on and on. Let me say this I truly believe it's how you are raised your environment your education level and they way you carry yourself. All women are not created the same. I'm a black women that spent half of her teen age years living in a suburban middle class all white area in long island then i moved to Orlando and lived there ever since I am very different from most of my friends from dialect to music but this all preference and but again its all about your environment. So if you want to try different venues go for it, don't assume you have us figured out because we're all different. As long as you find someone you connect with respect and admire then there shouldn't be any problems.
2006-08-11 12:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by felixbanks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, some of those stereotypes happen to be true about black women. But there are plenty of black women out there who definitely do not fit that mold. I will make an example of myself and some of my other black female friends. We are all in college, very articulate, not ghetto, and are not hoochie. I'm not at all interested in a guy's money, because my family has taught me to be independent and I never would personally want to rely on somebody else to make my life better. I want to make my own money because there's nothing like self-satisfaction. And attitudes come in all races. I personally don't take any bull from anyone but I'm very polite and open and can have great conversation. I am not at all unapproachable. Just open up your mind and your heart, because appearances can be very deceiving.
2006-08-11 11:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by msbhavinbrit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are stereotyping and it is stupid. The best reasons to date a black woman are the same as the best reasons for dating any women. Black women are WOMEN and there are more differences within women who are black, than there are differences between black women and white/hispanic/asian (etc) women. All these strengths that people are attributing to black women (attitude, strength, calling you on your b.s.) are qualities that I too posses, and I'm white. Some people have attitude, strength, fiestiness etc. and some don't - it doesn't automatically come with a certain ethnicity. Get over it - you already asked a question just like this.
2006-08-11 11:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all I find it incredibly creepy that you have made the conscious decision to date a woman of a particular race. Secondly, no group of people no matter what race are exactly the same. However, being an African American woman I would be very skeptical about dating you due to your already questionable notion about what "black women"appear to be. The truth is that ALL people are stereotyped on television. So why on Earth would any sane human being look to TV to guide them through things that are meant to be learned through human contact. Obviously you don't have any black female friends or you wouldn't be asking this question. So if you can't befriend them what makes you think that you can date them?
2006-08-11 13:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, not all black women are like that. But if you are not ready to take on society and the way black, and white people view this, don't get involved. Because this type of relationship is more than just hittin' the sheets. You have to deal with a lot of issues. And you have to be open minded about the other race, and not see everything your way. If you can deal with all of that, then go for it!
2006-08-11 11:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by keepingitreal 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The best reason is because you find the person attactive. Although its great that you are thinking about dating outside your race, I wouldnt reccommend it since you already seem like you have preconceived bias.
2006-08-11 12:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by hechicera_de_la_alma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...I'm a black girl, but it's just a curiousity factor as u say..Like I have been so curious about dating a white man just to see what it's like. Maybe one day.
2006-08-11 11:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by mstiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may find yourself in a situation if you have the express intent of going after a sister. You may a certain amount of obligation (or pride).
I would suggest biding your time, and wait until you happen to run across a young lady who ACTUALLY captures your attention and HAPPENS to be black,,,
2006-08-11 12:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by toyoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never taste all the colors of the rainbow you can never have a true appreciation for the variety that life brings to the table.
2006-08-11 11:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Richie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋