Has it turned out better than you'd expected, or worse? Have you accomplished what you wanted (or are you well on your way to doing so?) Have you exceeded your own expectations? Or are you just living day-to-day, feeling a bit trapped? Do you feel your peer group is happier and/or doing better than you?
2006-08-11 11:18:21 · 9 answers · asked by enchanted_dee 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm 42, and although I'm not in the profession I thought I'd be in, and am struggling a bit more financially than I had expected, life has turned out better than expected because my view of life has been in a continual state of flux. My husband and I do what we can to avoid getting into a rut, whether through routine or sexually, and we've had 8 strong years.
Whether a person meets his/her expectations is up to how much the person is willing to make adjustments for maturity, life changes, and the curve balls life throws at us without warning. There are of course fluctuations in these feelings due to the particular mood of the day, and even the happiest people have bad days.
I was a bit of a loner in high school - late bloomer. I hardly think at all about how the people then are doing now, and I doubt anybody is happier or better adjusted. I only hope, for their sake, that they've learned to forgo living strictly for the sake of material pleasure and that they are focusing their energies on their families and more humanitarian pursuits.
2006-08-11 11:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
> Has your life turned out the way you thought it would growing up?
No
> Has it turned out better than you'd expected, or worse?
Worse
> Have you accomplished what you wanted (or are you well on your way to doing so?)
No
> Have you exceeded your own expectations?
No
> Or are you just living day-to-day, feeling a bit trapped?
Yes
> Do you feel your peer group is happier and/or doing better than you?
Yes
2006-08-11 11:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was younger, I thought I'd change to whole world. I've now settled for a little piece of it. In some areas of my life I've far exceeded my expectations but I do have days I wish that I could do some things over. I guess I'm experienced enough to know that the grass is not always greener on the other side so I'm basically happy with my life. There's been a lot of pain but also a lot of happiness. I don't think I would like to trade with anyone.
2006-08-11 11:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My life is happier, though less satisfying than i was expecting.
My career and my education are marked by my general underachievement.
My income is considerably higher than I expected due to a work ethic I have always had, despite not consciously aware of.
My second wife is my soul mate, and my first wife made me appreciate her that much more.
But the most pleasent surprise has been the satisfaction of having 4 great children.
I win every time they do, I bleed when they hurt, and my life is is exponentially more satisfying than I expected.
Not bad considering we were all so worried about nuclear war back in the day that the modern terrorist troubles are a joke by comparison.
2006-08-11 12:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by aka DarthDad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my life is not what thought it would be, but I am happy and I guess that is all that counts, and no I do not feel my peer group is any happier than I am
2006-08-11 13:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by mitchec725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ho Ho
The ambitions you have when you are in your twenties are not the same as the ambitions you have in your 60s.
In your 20s 99% of your ambitions are to do with money.
Older people tell you "You'll find out when you are older that money isn't everything."
You think to yourself, "Good grief! Don't old people make you sick?"
So, when you reach your 60s - you must remember not to tell those in their 20s anything - because whatever you tell them - they think, "Silly old fart".
Now I am 64, when I hear young people's ambitions I just smile politely.
You'll find out - at least I hope you do - but there is one thing I really must tell you.
Don't be frightened about getting old.
It really isn't as bad as you imagine.
2006-08-11 11:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow like sooooooooooo not
bu tis a great life
i just didnt even think id be this old
2006-08-11 12:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a lot of expectations and none of them were reality....based on who i am....realistically looking at me, i am exactly where i should be, doing exactly what i should be doing.....and best of all i am finally happy....letting myself go, letting me make mistakes....and keeping it real.....
2006-08-11 11:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by free 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had no expectations, so I guess, yea.
2006-08-11 11:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋