Why does he do this to me!?

Question

My boyfriend was spending a lot of time on the computer and i put a keylogger and spyware on the computer to map what he is doing. Well he hasnt been talking to any girls but he goes to porn sites and browses at the movies and watches them on the computer. When I confronted him and told him how it made me feel he promised he wouldnt do it anymore! He doesnt like it if i watch male strippers or if a read a playgirl.......so i quit because he is enough for me and i dont want to hurt him. long story short i have confronted him on this three other times after our first incident and today i found out he did it again! He doesnt know about the spyware he tried deleting his temp internet files and i have been able to tell him that the privacy service maps his web sites and i have showed it to him as proof. two things.....what should i do and What does this mean.......I am not trying to be conceited, but I am a goodlooking woman with an awesome body! please help!

Answer 1

Girlfriend if anyone on this planet understands what you are going and have been through it is me. My husband and I were friends first. I knew he looked at porn and I was cool. He said it was something he did in the past. When he was single. I have no problem with porn, movies, mags, etc.
Anyway he hadn't seemed to have any interest in porn anymore. Then He lost his first job. Because he had stolen packages of professional pictures. He told the cop it was for cr*tch shots. I knew the cop wasn't lying because that was my husbands thing.
Any way I didn't want to end up on a talk show and someone asking me. "How could you not know he had a problem/" So I asked him to leave it alone for three months. Show me he had a natural appetite for it. I thought he was leaving it alone. Only to find it hidden everywhere. His car, computer even the dresser in our bedroom.
I am attractive, can wear all the outfits he likes. By him obsessing I started to feel insecure and unattractive. I realized when he lost his second job. That he had a problem. That he lost two jobs, hurting me and damaging our marriage and he couldn't help himself.
I tried joining him allowing porn in the house. He still snuck it and he still wanted more. I tried everything. But when I realized I couldn't help him, I let him go. I could teel you more but it would fill the whole page. Good luck. I am sorry. Really

Answer 2

Obviously he is addicted to porn, that doesn't mean you're not enough for him, he just enjoys the high he gets see other naked women. I would rather have my boyfriend looking on the computer then going out and finding it with another woman. You said you gave up watching male strippers because he doesn't like it. If I were you, I'd do just that so he sees how you feel when he does it.

Answer 3

So what if he looks at p*rn? All guys do- it's normal! Instead of making him feel bad about it you should participate. Watch it together and have fun with it! You know the only reason he's doing it behind your back is b/c you won't allow him to. Don't make him feel guilty about it either, all you do is putting yourself in a pedestal & your man will start looking at you like you're "hollier than thou" and make him feel like he's the loser- soon enough he won't even be able to get it up for you- how would you feel about that?

Honestly, p*rn can be a great s*x tool for a couple- instead of condemning it like it's sin blablabla, use it to enhance your relship w/ your guy. Girl, lighten up.

Btw, guys looking at p*rn doesn't have anything to do w/ how goodlooking his girlfriend is- it's the variety he wants. You're lucky he's only checking out girls in p*rn & not actually hooking up w/ a real girl.

My advice? Relax & drink beer with your man while you guys watch p*rn together! Or better yet, go down on him while he's watching it, oh, he's gonna love you for that!

Answer 4

well uhh if hes looking at porn then uh i guess hes not um you kno entertained as much when you two you know. Im not trying to say you cant entertain him well you know. hmmmm i kno mayb you should watch a guy on girl porn thing and then if you two you kno do what the girl did ware him down and hell stop looking at porn.

Answer 5

Well the fact that you put spyware shows your a crazy B*ITCH who needs a hobby..would you rather him actually cheat on you...
looks isnt everything a bad attitude can make you the uglyiest women on earth grow up....

Answer 6

first of all your not his mother or paster..so why do you fell the need to track his ever move.and be honest with us..you also follow him around in your car to check up on him. dont you?i bet you call him no less then 5 times in a day.and he better answer before the 3rd ring or you want to know what took him so long.....2NDwhy do you care if he looks at other women close on or close off. i have been married for 15 years.he can look at all the women he wants to look at.hell when we are in public i point out pretty he might have missed seeing.he he wants to waist his time look at pron well then its his free time. what do i care.like hes ever going to get one of those women. (lmao)3rd ... this is to the boyfriend.............RUN FAST....NO FASTER. THATS NOT FAST ENOUGH.. BOYFRIEND IF YOU STAY WITH THIS WOMAN LIFE AS A MAN IS OVER. SHE WILL PUT YOUR BALLS IN A PLACE YOU WILL NEVER FIND THEM. YOU THINK SHE TRACKS YOUR MOVMENT NOW JUST MARRY HER. YOU WILL BE NUTINT LESS THEN HER DOG ON A LEASH AND THAT IS NO WAY FOR A MAN TO LIVE.(OR WOMAN).....................AND YES THIS IS COMING FROM A WOMAN............THERE IS STILL SECURE WOMEN LEFT IN THE WORLD. PLEASE GO FIND YOU ONE......THIS LADY IS CRAZY AND BOUND TO GET WORSE WITH MARRAGE..............I BET YOU DONT SHOW HIM ANY OF THESE ANSWERS. WE ARE CLEARLEY NOT ON YOU SIDE......BETTER LUCK WITH YOUR NEW GIRLFRIEND

Answer 7

Well, it sounds like the whole situation is pretty messed up...but could you tell me where you got the keylogger?

Answer 8

I would have dumped your *** on the spot.... Put a key logger on the computer, and software to spy on him. How low. Did you even inform him that you were doing it?

Answer 9

what he does in private is his business, same with you.
you don't own him, you have no right to watch every move he makes....you'll turn psychotic....