AFRICAN-AMERICANS..... What's up with our women's attitude regarding men willing to raise their children?

Question

My daughters mother will not let me be there for her and all she wants is money....

I WANT to be there, but she told me she didnt need nothing by my money right now. My daughter is now 5

Isnt this going to cause my daugther to think men are only good for sperm donations and child support ?

What the HELL is my daughter's mother thinking ?

Answer 1

As another African American male, without children, I know what you are saying. My sister is just like your child's mother. She says that she doesn't want to put up with the child's fathers bullcrap so she just wants the child support.

However, that just reinforces the cycle because when my neice or your daughter grows up, there will already be a resentment towards black males in their mind.

Honestly, I have no psychological reasoning behind the motives of the black woman, except that maybe they guard themselves too much because of what they may fear.

I hope for the best for you and I will pray for your situation man.

Answer 2

1. I don't know the whole story.

2. Call legal aid for advice on whether you should seek legal action to have visitation rights.

3. Are you, or were you married to her? That may make a big difference in why she does not want you around. She may not want her daughter to think that all men are incapable of marriage committments.

4. More info needed.

Good luck and warm regards.

Answer 3

fortunately not every black woman is like that.she may still be holding a grudge for things that went on in your relationship in the past.have you always been so willing to donate your time since day 1 or did you just start wanting to be a part of your daughters life? or like jeezy said maybe your babys mother is just a "money hungry b*@#h" and thats the only thing shes thinking about.either way if you wanna see your daughter you could always go to court to get half custody.so you must not want her that bad.things to make you go hmmmmm......

Answer 4

A lot of women do this. Do you have a visitation order? If not, get one. That will also mean you have a support order. You need to protect yourself and your child's right to be with her father. If you have a visitation order and she is denying you contact, you need to get back into court and have her held in contempt. Then, she goes to jail, or gives up custody, or allows your visitation. See an attorney. It will cost you, but should be money well spent.

Answer 5

First, you should be seeing your daughter and letting her know how much she means to you. Hopefully, you are a good example of a male. If not, best to not be in her life too much.
Second, why is it men always blame women, where was your condom the night this little girl was conceived? Hmmm? Where is YOUR sense of responsiblilty?

Answer 6

You should tell her that if she does not allow you to see your child then you will stop payment.Your child's mother should be thanking God you want to be apart of her life. Because I know this lady her kids don't even know there dad. tell her she needs to look around for a man that will take care of their kids.

Answer 7

if you're paying child support you can get visitaion right's, thru the courts, that's good you want to be thier it's the right thing to do good luck with that situation

Answer 8

I don't know, but I think you need to resolve the issue with her. She may be hurting, unforgiving about something.

Answer 9

Not sure --but this has nothing to do with race --that woman is just being a b****. Good luck to you!!

Answer 10

first of all it has nothing to do with color!!!! it depends on the women. im so sick of black men acting like white women are such a ******* prize!!!there are alot of golddigging white women to!!!!!!