well here it goes...i know there are some mean people out there and leave rude comments...anyways...i slept with 2 diffrent guys and now im pregnant...i know what you thinking whore....no i dont think so...i told them both and 1 of them dont want me to have this baby...i want this baby more than anything in the world...the guy that dont want the baby is married..i know that is bad i slept with a married man..u dont have to tell me..i have learned from my mistakes...when i went to the doctor today i lost almost 5 pounds and blood pressure was high....should i tell her what is going on??
2006-08-11 10:25:23 · 14 answers · asked by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am going to have this baby no matter what..this could be my little girl
2006-08-11 10:26:22 · update #1
i cry everyday i know i messed up....
2006-08-11 10:27:41 · update #2
I GOT A 2 YR OLD BOY THAYS WHY I AM HOPING FOR A GIRL..I WILL LOVE IT THE SAME NO MATTER THE SEX....
2006-08-11 11:15:29 · update #3
If you are asking if you should tell the wife... I wouldn't. It seems you are already stressed out and hurting and you don't need any more emotional pain. Everyone makes mistakes. Don't stree over the past. I firmly believe one parent can love a child enough for both the mother and father. Just focus on this wonderful life growing inside of you. Remember your baby know nothing of your past and once your child is born try to live your life to be an example to your child. Also keep in mind, everything you say or feel, every emotion, your baby feels too. Try to be calm and happy for your baby. Good luck. P.S. Don't call yourself a whore..it is not nice. :)
2006-08-11 10:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Summer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could also be your little boy as well. Hope you will love whatever you get.
You should tell your doctor that you feel under a lot of stress. If she asks you why, tell her what you told us. It might help to get some exercise -- is it possible for you to walk some every day?
Be sure to continue prenatal care. And, unless you are independently wealthy, you should start saving for a DNA test, have the baby and two potential fathers tested at birth, and get the father into court for child support. He also slept with you with no protection so he needs to help you. Tell them now that you are going to do this. Find out how much one costs in your area -- maybe ask your doc to find out. If either of them says they won't consent, then do it the other way around. Take them both to court for child support, if the court trustee will let you, and let the court say you need a DNA test. Then they should be subpoenaed to be there and will have to do it.
I wish you luck. I know you will love your baby and do fine. And, yes, remember this lesson well.
2006-08-11 17:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, regardless of what either of the guys want ultimatly it's your decision. It seems that you've already made the choice to raise this baby and for that I give you kudos. People make mistakes and you need to stop beating yourself up over it. As far as the married guy, he's the one who cheated on his wife and may have gotten you pregnant. It seems like you're perhaps making that out to be more your fault as well. Explain to your doctor that you're stressed out and that you're not sure who the baby's father is. Once the baby is born you can do a DNA test to be sure. No matter who it is they will just have to deal with it. If they run away from it then you need to go after them for child support to make sure your baby is well taken care of. Try to calm yourself down and not let yourself get upset. You will end up making yourself sick or even maybe having a miscarriage as a result (or you could from the stress). Try to take it day by day and remember that being pregnant is one of the best things you can experiance in life and you should try to enjoy it while you can. Best of luck and take care of yourself!
2006-08-11 18:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your blood pressure is higher than normal, it may be an early warning sign of pre eclampsyia, a very dangerous condition that can lead to strokes, brain damage and death for the mother.
You should most definatly tell your doctor about the whole situation.
I know its hard to admit to something like this to a total stranger,
but your doctor needs to find out if it is stress causing the high blood pressure or pre eclampsyia.
If you dont tell your doctor, who will look out for the baby once your gone?
Worry about the other stuff later, DNA tests will prove who the dad is, regardless of if the one is married or if its the other guy, it doesn't matter right now.
Your main concern at the moment should be to look out for you and your baby.
Best of luck.
2006-08-11 17:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by kathi m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you made a mistake so move on from that and focus on having a healthy pregnancy since you've decided to keep the baby. I am guessing that since you did not tell your dr that you have not been getting prenatal care (which is really important for you and the baby) and that may make her more concerned about the blood pressure being high which can and for some people does cause serious complications during pregnancy.
2006-08-11 17:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by PediRN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not hold anything from your doctor as she will be able to give you the best care!!! If you know that you want the baby then don't stress and think about the other 2 guys, enjoy your baby, your growing belly, the 1st kick, your morning sickness, your cravings! This is the most beautiful time for you and you need to bond with your baby, the stress that you feel you pass it on to the baby and she doesn't need that.
Raise your baby to be strong and independent and show this men that you don't need them to be a good parent. Good luck to you and your new baby!!
2006-08-11 17:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by ~Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, stop stressing over the situation. You are going to keep the baby so enjoy your pregnancy w/out the input of the sperm donor. Once the baby is born have a paternity test and ensure he pays child support (even if it's just to save the money until the child turns 18).
You said you realized your mistake -- so move on.
2006-08-11 17:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Starr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you need to get a dna test and do tell the doctor it helps because something might happen to the baby quit being stressed because you getting a gift and a blessing from god. you know you made a mistake and now its time to take care of buisness if the married one doesnt want the baby and it turns out to be his you better file for child support fast and the wife will find out eventually. other than that god bless you
2006-08-11 17:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by applejack80@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor needs to know everything so she can test you and the baby better for problems. Since you dont know who the father is, you need to have the amniocentisis and all the tests like that so you know if the baby has any problems and you can be prepared. You should tell your doctor about everything. Good Luck!!
2006-08-11 17:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by HCW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely tell your doctor... she may be able to further help you by refferring you to specialist so you can talk things out and get some relief. As far as that child that your nurturing in your womb, **** everyone else, do prenatal yoga to relax and eat healthy. Remember EVERYTHING you do affects that delicate soul. Your baby is number one and those men with time will have to help you anyways. (child support) The married one is just worried about himself. If he doesnt care about you, dont let him impact your life with negativity!
2006-08-11 17:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by muuuua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋