my motherin law has a 16 year old that has not gone to school for 1 1/2 years and this kid is now hanging around the bad kids, his friends have just gor shot last week he is always getting high , plus tells mom its ok to get high aslong as its weed.she is a working mother but people aroun her are so naive that they consentrate on the " poor mom she works hard" but forget about her son . what do i do?
2006-08-11 09:51:26 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think I would. If you want to do it anonymously, do it from a pay phone at least 20 miles from your home. Wear gloves and disguise your voice. If you don't care, just go see a cop, a truant officer, or some child welfare worker.
Good Luck. I hope you are aware, it may already be too late for the kid but we can hope.
2006-08-11 09:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...this is a hard one. I had to report my own mother for abusing my brother who has down's. Is there anyway you can talk to her first? Maybe you could start out with "You know, I was wondering why doesn't so and so go to school?" Then you can work into the rest. There are a lot of working mothers in this world, that's not an excuse for neglect. And that's what this is. It's neglect. I guess if all else fails you could report it but trust me, not much will come from it. I've recently been through something similar with my boy who lives with his dad. If the kid doesn't complain about it-and he's probably not going to-they usually don't do much. At least not in my state. You could also call the school district and tell them. They could call in the truancy officers. The boy needs to be in school and off drugs. I know it must pain you to think of having to report her, but I don't see what else can be done other than talking to her. But if she's not willing to listen, then it won't do good. Don't let her use the fact that she's a working mom be a excuse. Plenty of women work and raise damn good and responible people. I know because my MIL was a single mom and she did a great job.
2006-08-11 16:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that since it's your mother-in-laws kid that it's your husband's brother...yes? If so, what does he say about it all? And yes, I think you should contact someone. I don't know if Child Protection Services can do anything but if you don't get involved then this kid could end up being another statistic which would be sad.
Sit down with your mother-in-law and talk with her. Tell her your concerns. The sad reality is there is only so much you can do. Do whatever you can and if you know he's doing something illegal it's better for him to get caught now instead of when he's a legal adult because then he's screwed.
Best to you.
2006-08-11 16:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he getting away with not going to school? She should be getting fined, huge amounts and regularly. Yes I would report it, it will cause some ugliness for a while but someone needs to kick this woman in the butt and make her realize that her primary JOB is being a parent, which she is obviously not doing! This is bigger than any hurt feelings, this is about the rest of this kids life, if he gets lost now (sounds like he already is) he will most likely never find his way back and will struggle just to survive his entire life. Not to mention the kid has to feel like nobody gives a darn anyway so why shouldn't he give up on himself. My parents got divorced when I was around this age, they were so hung up on their hatred for each other nobody was paying attention and I'm still paying for that to this day. I got married and pregnant at 17 and spent the rest of my life struggling to feed my kids. Now they are grown, I wish I had been equipped to do a better job for them and I'm still nowhere. Its too late for me but not this kid!
2006-08-11 16:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really a sad but common situation. Teenagers can be very difficult to deal with, especially when you're a single parent. The mom is probably just worn out emotionally and really doesn't know what to do? She probably works hard just to keep her sanity and provide for her family the only way she knows how. Maybe instead of reporting her you might want to be a friend by being there for support and as the friendship grows, you can help her find ways to be a better parent. (RAISING TEENAGERS CAN BE A *****!!!)
2006-08-11 17:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is neglecting her son. Yes she may be a single mother working but she also has responsiblities as a mother to be there for her son as well. He is just going to get worse. Try talking to her first and tell her that you are concerned about him. Open her eyes and tell her what is going on she might be in denile. If this does not work then talk to your husband and tell him that you want to report her because you do not want to start chaos in your home as well. If he agrees then report her and do it confidentially.
2006-08-11 16:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her first. I am also thinking her son isn't willing to go to school. It's not like he is a kid anymore and he should know his responsibilities. I would talk to her and her son too. He should go to school!
2006-08-11 16:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by tuffbrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd report it...the "poor mom" bit is a lame excuse to ignore that going on.
2006-08-11 16:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by mtngrl7500 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah u should becuz the boy gone be dumb azz hell if he don't go to school and weed is not gonna help him.. yeah u should report it
2006-08-11 16:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either turn her into CPS or leave it completely alone. Once you open this Pandora's box, you will never get it closed again. Use caution.
2006-08-11 16:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋