How do you move on after a serious relationship of 4 years when she has cheated and left you?

Answer 1

talk to your family or friends about how you feel, or if you are not good at that and you don't want anybody thinking you a suck, which you wouldn't be because a relationship of any length can be hard on a person, i would try to find something that you like to do, volunteer, bike, go for walks, something and eventually you may find someone that makes you feel when you and your girlfriend used to be together, you probably will never completely get over her because 4 years is a good chunk of time. but over time you will find someone new, it may take a few weeks of sulking around or months but eventually you will be able to get on with your life.

Answer 2

Think back to before you were together... what things did you do then that you never got to do when you were with her? Did you have a poker night with your guy friends, or like to watch wrestling, pig out on pork rinds.... It really doesn't matter what you find happiness in as long as you find something. I don't suggest a new gf right now, because you will automatically carry all your hurt over to her. So hang out with your buddies or go out to a sports bar and meet new people. Just get off the couch and outside of the house. It will make you feel better.

Answer 3

I was in the same position as you were. It took me a long time to get over that man. But I eventually realized that what I had went through was a life experience. Plus there are so many interesting and good things out there that you can't dwell on something that happened to you. I didn't date anyone for a long time after that and I asserted myself, who I was, what a I wanted in l ife, and now I'm travelling down a very smooth road.

Answer 4

Lots of time dear one,lots of time.Try to remember not all women are that way and try not to become bitter towards other women because of her,for the simple fact the right one will come along one day and the bitterness will scare her off.Just remember there is someone out there who will love you and give you happiness you deserve.She may try to come back and as hard as it is..,dont back take her,she did it once she will do it again.Good luck.

Answer 5

You must rationalize to yourself.

1) It was a character-building experience to prepare you for the rest of your life.

2) It ended not a moment too soon.

3) Today is the first day of the rest of your life, and it's good to not have to consider her as part of it.

Whatever it takes. Plus, go and volunteer somewhere that people need your help; it will make you feel good. ;-)

Answer 6

I'M NOW GOING THROUGH SOMETHING SIMILAR TO YOUR SITUATION. THAT'S A WOUND THAT PRAYER AND TIME HEALS. I KNOW THE FEELING IS PHYSICALY GUT WRENCHING, YOU OFTEN WONDER WHAT SHE'S DOING AND WITH WHO ETC...... THE MAIN THING IS FOR YOU TO LEARN FROM THE SITUATION AND ONCE YOU STABALIZE YOURSELF IT WILL ONLY BE ANOTHER WOMAN THAT CAN MAKE YOU FORGET ABOUT THE EX ALL TOGETHER. JUST DO SOME SOUL SEARCHING AND MAKE SURE YOU'RE NOT TO BLAME AND PRAY. I KNOW IT HURTS NOW BUT NOT TOO LONG FROM NOW SHE WILL BE A FAINT MEMORY.

Answer 7

WELL THAT IS PRETTY TOUGH BUT U R A MAN AND U SHOULD LET HER GET OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM THINK ABOUT ALL THE GOOD TIMES U HAD WHEN U WERENT WITH HER AND AFTER A WHILE WHO KNOWS MAYBE YU WILL GET BACK OUT THERE AGAIN KEEP IT COOL MAN

Answer 8

Lots of will power. Force yourself not to think of her (good or bad) when she pops in your mind. Keep yourself busy with activities, hang around with your friends. An idle mind is your worst enemy.

Answer 9

follow Steve Holy's advice. get a brand new girlfriend.

Answer 10

Time will those wounds. But trusting someone again will be very hard.