i had a abortion last august and he pushed me into it said if i wanted to keep the child id have to feck off out of his house ....he said i gotta have a abortion dont get me wrong at that point i thought abortion was best but belive me its really ****** me up so bad....i think about that day all the while i tried to talk to him but he was not interested the day i told him i was pregnant he said oh you can just get an abortion..i wish i would of kept the child....but im scared if i get pregnant again he will make me have a abortion i cant do that ever again what if i get pregnant>?>?>?and he says the same shite over again??my mom said she would disown me if i have his baby but she would except anyone elses she hates him for that im still with him though 5 years........we was beins silly thogh but now he never cums up me ever...i kinda hate that....what can i do>?>???so i doh feel so scared???
2006-08-11 09:32:29 · 14 answers · asked by skinnyminniekitten 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I CAN NEVER LEAVE THIS MAN I FEEL TO ATTACHED ....I WENT THROUGH ALOT OF **** TO GET HIM....
2006-08-12 13:08:48 · update #1
You can dump him because he's a controlling d***head and find somebody who actually cares about -you-. You don't have to put up with that. If you're not happy in a relationship, it's not worth it. Love should make you flutter with joy, not swirl into the depths of despair. Come on. Take a stand! You don't need the loser. Don't do that to yourself.
2006-08-11 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try trusting your instincts? You wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't already know he doesn't want a baby wth you and you know a baby would be a mistake too. Why are you with this person? Are you so low that you can't think straight anymore. You sound lost & depressed & even your mum doesn't seem to be able to help. Go to your doctors & arrange for a good counsellor to help you sort out your feelings & help with how guilty you feel. Things will work out in the end if you don't make anymore silly mistakes now. It may take a long time it may not, but if you get help now you are on your way to a better life. Make an appointment with your doctor & make sure he puts you in touch with counselling, not just fobbing you off with anti-depressants, print this answer and take it with you if it helps.
2006-08-11 09:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by freckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad five year investment of your time in my opinion. A real MAN would never tell a woman to get an abortion of his child. Abortion is not birth control, a condom is! There is alway adoption if you do not feel you are ready for a child in your life. I'm pro choice, but I feel abortion is not birth control. If he can't take some responsibility be using a condom, and he sound like he treat you very badly by saying those things to you. Please find another guy! One that is not emotionally abusive.
2006-08-11 09:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is a child what you want in your future? If so then its time to move on. If a guy doesn't want children you can't force it on him. And thinking that he may come around is a BIG gamble if you are not prepared to care for a child by yourself.
You need to do some serious soul searching and figure out what you want out of life, and whatever it is, will it be something the two of you can have together? Though, I've been there -- done that, those kinds of guys don't easily change their minds and certainly no one can persuade them. Its called selfishness.
2006-08-11 09:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm tempted to snap back yelling: "Why are you still with him?" But I sense that this might be easier to say than to do because it seems as if you need someone to protect you, someone you can feel attached to.
However, this relationship is not building you up. Whenever fear takes over love, what we have is an abusive relationship. Is there any practical chance for you to put physical and actual distance between the two of you so that you can go out and ask for support?
2006-08-11 09:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple-use birth control. Preferably condoms to protect you from STDs too. Just because he doesn't ejaculate inside you doesn't mean you wont get pregnant or AIDS, or Hepatitis B, or Syphilis, or Gonorrhea, or, Chlamydia. A guy who forces you to abort your child does not care about you and puts your well-being at risk.
Take care of yourself. Protect your health, body, and spirit. Go the Planned Parenthood or your local health department.
2006-08-11 09:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by tallmochagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still having sex with him? Even with protection there is always a chance of pregnancy and even if he doesn't *** inside you there is still a little that comes out before so if your not using protection you could def. get pregnant again. So the only way to be 100% sure you won't get pregnant is to not have sex, (not preaching abstinince...its just the only 100% method.)
2006-08-11 10:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by PediRN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF is the matter with you? If I had a guy tell me to abort my baby my *** would of been saying buy bye b****..
That crap about him making you have an abortion oh please who the hellare you fooling? None can make you have an abortion NONE.
I was raped at like 14 and got pregnant and a cop investigating it actually reccomended abortion and I looked at my mothers cousin who was also a cop and investigating and I was like you need to get this guy away from me before I take his gun and shoot him for reccomending I kill a innocent child.
2006-08-11 10:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy_Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you on contraception? I think that is the most important thing right now. Secondly, you need to leave this guy. You seem to be in a very controlling relationship. Regardless, you need to protect yourself until you are ready to have children.
2006-08-11 09:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by tarap_mcw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard of taking birth control that could help use condoms, spermicides, female condoms, anything it is your problem not to get pregnant again if you do not want to and it sounds like you do not need to be with him if he cannot take responsibility for you and the child that he helped to create
2006-08-11 09:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋