Getting a divorce, do you think i will get full custody?

Question

I am currently seperated from my wife of 7 years. We have two young girls together. My question is do you think i will get full custody. Here is my reasoning, she has left us a total of 8 times with the last time being where she left for a different state. She has attempted suicide a total of two times in the past two months, both times in which my childrent were also home. My oldest daughter found her cheating on me when she found her kissing another man at a friends party. She suffers from depression is on meedication, spends hardly anytime with her kids, sleeps most of the day and watches tv/plays on the computer the rest. I did all the housework, cleaning, laundry, yardwork, take the girls to gymnastics........What do you think, do you think i can get full custody, i know i need to speak to a lawyer, but i am just curious what other people think.

Answer 1

If you don't have any documented reports of the suicide attempts (visits to the emergency room or 911 calls) ---it's pretty much up to the judge, usually it's joint custody...... (you work ).
Don't be surprised if she's in top form for the judge --- I have seen that happened --- the so called depressed, uncaring wife is suddenly smart, very congenial and can render tears and agonizing testimony to how she's battled depression and loves her children and provides for them. Don't count on the kids speaking against their mom ---I have seen this fail too--- the best thing you can do is get enough evidence and reliable witnesses written statements that have been notarized.... to booster your case .

Answer 2

The odds seem stacked against her, so yes, you have a great shot of getting custody, here are some suggestions, go to your local court house and file papers immediately. Get your children into some type of counseling, I'm sure their mother's behavior has affected them profoundly. Read up on the laws of your state. Do ot let her take the children away from your house. If you have to get an emergency custody order with custody to you until the trial. When you go to court, Good Luck, I hope this helps. I said a prayer for you and your little ones...

Answer 3

There is a good chance you will get them Usually the 2 reasons the court wont award them to the mother is provable drug or child abuse. You might have a hard time doing it but I think you can get her under the drug abuse with mental instability. You will need all the medical records you can obtain and a atty can do so by a subpaoena if necessary. The cheating and laziness are inmaterial in divorce custody hearings, but I definitely think you are the exception to all custody rules. Like I said you just need to be able to provide the court with concrete evidence of the above and youll have no problems. If I can help in any way, please feel free to email me and good luck

Answer 4

Absoutly i think you cna get full custody. If she has attempted sucide twice and can prove it then yes you can get full custody, there is no doubt in my mind at all. The thing you need to know that getting full custody is a 24/7 job plus the job you hold now. they will wanna know excatly what you day care opotions are if you have to work during the day, and what yuor plans are should the kids get sick, i men they wanna know that you can do your job like amother can, my father was 22 when he got full custody of us 3 kids, i think it has made him the person he is today and with that being said he proved my mother to unfitl, got people to follow her, reported everything to his attorny, i mean just with her being unstable and moving in and out 8 times that is crazy she is abandoning yall, and legally she cant do that, she cannot just get up and go everytime she needs to thats for sure , if she is gone now and has been gone for sometime then you need to report that to the police and make a report of it so you can take that to court with you, any medical bills that she has from seeing therepaist or whatever, but the thing is to have everything documentaed that you have all the neccessary papers to file against her, if she takes meciations everyday, then that needs to be on file to, every little thing that can benefit you is a plus in your corner, doin this will be very tring you and your daughters, and no matter how bad things may get for you, always tell your kids that there mother does love them but she is having a rough time right now, and they might not understand everything but you have to remeber these girls will forever you need you no matter what and for that you need to be the sane one, and always try to talk good about your x in front og them, that way they dont hate you and think that you were just tring tio hurt her, becuase as kids grow they get wiser and smarter and girls more so becuasae we mature faster than guys, try to postive at all times, have alot of patience and good will, it will rub off on them, but more than anything no matter how bad things get if they take care of number one which is you o that your girls have amuch more stable enivorment good luck and best wishes need to talk send me email [e-mail]

Answer 5

I believe that most states now are recognizing joint custody with a designated primary custodian; and there is an excellent chance that you will be awarded that based on the fact, from what you provided, you have been the primary caregiver of the children during the course of the marriage. Immediately seek the services of an attorney.

Answer 6

It is quite likely you will get full physical placement. She may get joint legal custody with alternate physical placement. Meaning your children will live with you, but she will get visitation periods. You will need to hire a good attorney though. It's always best to hire a good attorney when you are seeking custody. She will most likely fight you for placement seeing as she doesn't work. She will want placement so that she can get child support. I'm sure she loves her children, but I also don't think she should have placement as she isn't mentally or financially stable enough to have the children in her care for extended periods of time. Good Luck to you!

Answer 7

She left 8-times, you must like footprints on your back.

You reasoning is sound if the courts truely cared about what is best for the children, I've been through this and eventually I gave up custody because it was all to much, she got to fight for free and I had to pay everybodyioes bills.

Best advice, MOVE as far away as POSSIBLE and get the court to give you temp custody. Your local court will only care about her rights and it sounds like she deserves none.

Answer 8

Yes you have a good chance of that...depending on the state your in, you might consider indicating divorce by reason of insanity...here in California there are only two options that can be listed one is irreconcilable differences and the other is mental stability related...this will lead to your reasoning for full custody...good luck.

Answer 9

talk to a lawyer. File the papers and get the thing in the works. File paper for custody based on the evidence, if you have evidence of suicidal ideation (ie hospitalization) or recent attempt getting her in the ER in all likelihood the judge might weigh in your favor..

Proving fitness as a parent is part of the "game"..

Answer 10

the only way you will get finished custody of your little ones is to instruct that the mummy is an not worth mom. as a result, if she doesnt care with regard to the little ones progression, makes use of medicine, and so on. The courts superb purpose is to have the little ones 50/50 with the mother and dad, yet their considerable concern is for the wellness of the little ones. in simple terms an FYI - there will be a lot of courtroom hearings for this to be desperate as they might have a courtroom appointed therapist try to evaluate the area and in all probability monitored visitations.