what can i say, my dads sexist. i have an older brother, 16, and he doesnt do jack all. I get stuck with all the chores, while hes out partying or drinking (im not allowed out), yet he gets treated like a god. We are getting an extension so we are temporalily sharing a room, and i get the blame if its a state. Its not fair. "dad" has a go at me if i dont help my mom cook, because maybe im watching tv. And i dont get as much pocket money as my brother. He goes "what u need it for, your just a girl" My brother can work, if he liked... but he doesnt. Im not allowed to get a job. The exuses are that im "needed around the house" or " i dont need to work, i just have to find a good husband" hello is this 2006 or 1986. and my moms no help either. she just goes along with my dad. I just cant take it any more. what do i do? im 14.
2006-08-11 09:24:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
personal i would run away and then maybe he would see that you are sick and tired of him being sexist or talk to your counsellor or some one you trust.i hope everything works out for you but maybe this mite help you out in the future,i dont know
2006-08-11 09:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kappy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are stuck. You are young and living at home so you have to respect the house rules, no matter how unfair they are.
Talk to your mom when nobody else is around. If she doesn't see how you feel, talk to a trusted adult. Grandparent, counselor, clergy, whoever. It wouldn't change anything, but you might feel better.
Suffer with it for a few more years, then go to college. You'll only be home once in awhile and you'll never have to go back when you are done if you don't want to.
In the meantime, try your best to follow the unfair rules of your father. Help with the cooking and cleaning, you'd have to anyway even if you didn't have a brother or if he cleaned. Then talk to people in your neighborhood about small jobs you could do for them to earn extra money. Babysitting, mowing their yard, shoveling snow, running small errands, helping them clean, gardening, etc... You're too young to have a regular job, but the on the side stuff is something you could easily do.
Stop comparing yourself and the rules to what your brother has to do. You will only make yourself miserable. It's hard, next to impossible, but try. Think about what you can do to change things. Start helping out without being told. Don't backtalk when your dad gets chauvinistic. As much as it sucks, clean the room you are sharing. Pick up his clothes off the floor and dump them on his bed to clean around them. Then your dad will only have one messy bed to look at. If your dad gets mad at you for this, point out that you cleaned the room, just not your brother's bed.
2006-08-11 09:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 04:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible!! You should definitly think about talking to a counselor about this and maybe talk to your parents about this. You have just as much rights as your older brother. Girls have power now. If you ever need to talk just send me an email.
2006-08-11 09:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by meshaangel2004 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone about it.
That's not fair.
Then there's always fighting..and leaving for a night.
I'd try to gather up proof of how he does this and present it to someone. Then they can do something about it.
2006-08-11 15:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kylie<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel RLY bad for you!!!! u should talk to a trusted adult about this...its serious. u might get hurt even worse if u don't get help. u deserve to have a life too. good luck!
2006-08-14 18:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
live with another, kinder, relative. that'll give your parents a clue that ur in control of yourlife, and they are just the guiderails
2006-08-11 09:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jake 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
man...thats bad...u need to tell ur dad or some counselor about this and its gotta stop...
2006-08-11 09:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
file for emanicipation, and then live with one of your relatives.
2006-08-12 06:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by aznbuddy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents, make them understand. this is REALLY unfair.
2006-08-11 09:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Muffin Girl on Dreary Lane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋