my bf is paying his ex-wife child maintenance for their 17 year old son. The lad is on a 3 year college course and so my bf's payments will continue until he is 19. If my bf and I move in together what happens? will I have to pay maintenance for his son too? Not dated guy with kids before so I don't know what happens. My bf seems to have an amical and private arrangement with his ex and we all get along quite well..in an appropriate way.
2006-08-11 09:18:34 · 17 answers · asked by minerva 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are in the uk and i heard that both incomes are considered?
2006-08-11 09:32:23 · update #1
I'm not worried about what he pays but just that we won't have additional financial pressures. He's a good dad and I love that about him
2006-08-11 09:43:37 · update #2
No - you will not have to make payments to ex. The son is your bf responsibility not yours. If his payments are made through the csa and his ex wants to have her payments recalculated, then the fact you are assumed to be paying towards the household bills of your home with your bf means that he will have more disposable income and could potentially have more to pay. (just as if he was to get a promotion or better job with better pay). The state of the csa is such that any revisit to them would be useless. However, if your bf agrees to pay his ex more then that is his decision and should be coming out of his pocket.
My partner has 2 children and we keep separate bank accounts mainly because of this issue.
2006-08-11 09:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your boyfriend and his ex hated each other, you will never have to pay a dime for his child. You could marry him and you would not have yo pay anything cause you are not the parent of the child. Dating a guy with kids is hard so I tip my hat to you on being non judgemental about him having kids. I respect people who look beyond the children and see a great person with a great child. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-11 16:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_italia4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what laws are in the UK, but in the US, the boyfriend still has the obligation if you move in together or get married.
However, it's not YOUR judgment, so you don't pay anything.
And they can't go for more money b/c you are living together or married.
You are, in effect, paying it for him though if you have an income you share-You and he both work and you share a joint bank account. It's coming out of your new household, basically. (the two of you.). That might be what they mean.
2006-08-12 00:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are just moving in with him. The child payments are his responsibility not yours. Don't worry you want be charge anything. Now if you marry and he gets behind in his payments, they will take joint income tax but if you can prove what portion is yours they should send your part back to you. So just living together you are good to go.
2006-08-11 17:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, even in the UK, it would only change if you married. I don't think your income counts until that happens. You may want to make a written arrangement by which you agree to pay half the bills, just like any good roommate...or something similar.
Just in case it becomes...less amiciable.
2006-08-11 16:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His child support will not change just because you two move in together. His ex wife would have to go back to court and request a review in order for the amount to be increased.
2006-08-11 16:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure about UK laws, but i dont think you income would be considered unless you got married
but college is expensive, im sure that is where alot of it is going
if your bf doesnt seem to have issues with the payments, why should you? its not like he is borrowing from you to pay is he? if not, then it really isnt your business until you marry the man
2006-08-11 16:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to do with his payments. Even if you move in or get married. The only way you might get roped into the situation is if she asks for an increase then some states take into consideration the money you make if your married.
2006-08-11 16:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, they don't consider your income at all. What the courts do is add in the mothers income + the fathers income (as ifthey were together) and that is how they come up with the payment amount.
2006-08-11 16:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax hon. Your boyfriend will continue paying whatever has been arranged for him to. You won't be bothered in anyway for that. After all, the child isn't yours.
2006-08-11 16:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Linda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋