Please give reasons why you do. My reason is because I have come to realize that I can't depend on anyone. It seems that when I try people always let you down. How do you deal with this and how do you get over it? My friends say that I'm too closed off and that I never let anyone in. I just don't want to be judged. Shouldn't we all go with our instincts? When do you consider it a problem?
2006-08-11 09:15:58 · 10 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I TRUST YOU GUYS MORE THAN I TRUST SOME PEOPLE THAT I KNOW.
2006-08-11 09:24:53 · update #1
SOME PEOPLE THINK THAT I AM STUCK UP BECAUSE OF THIS. BUT REALLY I'M NOT.
2006-08-11 09:32:28 · update #2
LITESPEED2RW: What's up dude?!!!!
2006-08-11 11:57:58 · update #3
This I now how you fell . I have some people say I was stuck p because I wouldn't talk to them that much . That's just me I use to not say mush for the same reasons you said ( fear of being judge stupid , dumb , or slow and on and on ). Then I was promoted at work to supervisor and did that change . I realized I'm just as good as any one else , and if you don't like what I say get the he!! out or stay away from me . Do what you feel is right and don't worry about any one else .
2006-08-11 11:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by litespeed2rw 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reality often is that people do let you down. You assume that most of the time they don't realize the did it and like them anyway. If you're a trustworthy person you tend to trust others more because we all tend to think people are like we are (whatever we are).
If you're happy not letting people in then don't let them in. Some day if you decide you feel like "letting someone in" then go ahead. Maybe your friends and you are all over-analyzing stuff too much.
Some people - especially young people who are trying to form their self-image - find it someone kind of more cool to be "damaged" and to "have issues" and be the one who "pushes people away". They'd rather see themselves as James Dean rather than Annie. Ask yourself if maybe there's not a little of that going on here. After all, it isn't cool to be an Annie.
Then either tell your friends to stop playing amateur psychologist and naval-contemplaters or else find new friends.
Just a note to all of you: There are children born into this world with horrible, horrible illness. There are people starving to death. There is war and people coming back from it without limbs. People should try to do some kind of something good for others in this world and stop spinning their wheels over their own "issues".
2006-08-11 16:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust issues, HAH, that is the understatement of the century. When i first got together with my now recent fiancee of 4 years, her ex would call all the time, right inappropriate letters, and send infuriating picures. At first i did not confront her about it, but i knew. We got engaged and were together for 4 years, a match made in heavan, everyone thought we were the perfect couple. Two weeks ago she left me for another man whom she slept with while she was away on a vacation that i paid for. Now she is running of with him and moving in. If you have trust issues in a relationship communicate about it right away and do not put it off. But if you feel that you cannot then leave, trust me it will only create real problems down the road for both people, i know this for certain. As for being closed off and never wanting to let anyone in, i can completely understand. That was another issues with my ex. Its hard because i know for myself that i have been burned by people in my past and that has had a huge impact on any relationship or friendship, the only advice i can give is that you try your best to let people in and talk about it, but dont let yourself be to vulnerable take it little by little. But at the end of the day you have to look out for number one, because no one else will. If they dont like you for who you are, thats there loss, and you move on, as difficult as it may seem sometimes.
2006-08-11 16:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because I've learned early on not to put any human being on a pedestal, because the minute you do, they are sure to fall off. Realize that to err is human and when they fall short, know that you have to pick up the slack. Trust and rely on yourself more, and if by chance you find someone that can meet your standards, God bless!
2006-08-11 16:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never fully rely on anyone bar yourself. Sure it's annoying, especially when you know that others can rely on you, but that's the status quo that we live in at the moment. Too much money and not enough foresight. It takes a lot of hard work, but I hope you can adjust and live with it.
CARPE DIEM
Tom
2006-08-11 16:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Johio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More people than not feel that way. I learned years ago not to trust anyone but yourself. I don't even trust my husband, he knows I don't, why I don't, and he's okay with that.
People do let you down. If it means it will benefit them, it's you who suffers.
2006-08-11 16:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no issue with the fact I trust no one implicitly. It's only when you dont trust yourself that you gotta worry, kiddo.
2006-08-11 16:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by otto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust no one.
2006-08-11 16:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by krodgibami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the grown-up world.
If you want something done, do it yourself, or keep checking on those who are doing it for you.
As for your friends, consider giving them a measured amount of drama.
2006-08-11 16:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i do but i'm not sure i can tell you about them
2006-08-11 16:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by uplate 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋