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Why do many lesbians claim to love women but then dress like guys and act like guys and date those who do the same?

Are they lying to themselves?

2006-08-11 09:10:15 · 19 answers · asked by hirschfanger 1 in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

THis is more related about the butch lesbians. What is the point of it? They can nearly pass as a guy but the gay guys don't wear dresses. "Transgendered" might but they claim they aren't gay just the wrong sex.

I know 11 lesbians I can name. 1 is girly the rest are as butch as are their partners. They have mullets wear t-shirts "wifebeaters" and long shorts.

2006-08-11 14:48:05 · update #1

But if you act and look like a guy or date a girl who acts the same. Then perhaps you are actually attract to guys.

Freud would say girls wanting butch women is their actually feeling of wanting a guy mixed with a vagina with narcissitic opinion of themself and wanting power they feel only men can have. Jung would say its a sign of inadequacy mixed with the desire to emasculate men.

Mask is shown because none of these avatars have the ability to look like me adn its fun to dress up.

2006-08-11 14:56:14 · update #2

19 answers

im a lesbian and dress like a girl and i dont act like a guy i act like a girl ok. but i ask myself the same question why do some so that they say they dont like guys but still they dress like them weird huh

2006-08-11 10:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0 0

OMG this question is getting soooo old! For some women it's about dominance and assertiveness, for some it's about how you feel you want to be, but for all of them, it's about being comfortable in your own skin! It's about doing and being what makes you happy. I'm a very femme lesbian, I typically don't date other femme women. Don't get me wrong, they are very attractive and I love all women, but I am pretty passive and have a tendency to be attracted to more dominant women. I have dated some femme looking women that were more dominant than me and that was ok. I just seem to be attracted to the more "butch" women cause I like a take charge kind of gal. Besides, I don't think a relationship could survive between me and someone who is as much of a princess as I am! LOL!! Most importantly though, no matter how a woman acts or dresses, the biggest factor is, no penis, no penis, NO PENIS!

2006-08-11 10:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by NoBoysAllowed! 3 · 0 0

"no, it's mainly about masculinity. alot of lesbians think that they should have been born a man instead of a woman. so they dress like that to compensate.

of course that's not always the case, but that's alot of it. "

This is a question for "forgive me",
where was THIS study conducted?

I'm a butch lesbain and wear mostly men's clothes for a few reasons...
1) I feel more comforatable in jeans, T's, button downs, slacks.
2) Men's clothes last longer.
3) Men's clothes are less expensive

I don't have a problem with how I dress, everyone else does!

2006-08-11 15:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0 0

This is a really stupid question. I'm a lesbian, and yes I dress like a guy most of the time. And I've heard the age-old argument "if you're a lesbian who likes women who dress like guys, why not just date a guy?" It's a stupid argument to boot.
I have no desire to date a man, because a man has a penis and I want nothing to do with one. I don't desire to become a man, either, because then I'd have to deal with a penis. I like having breasts, I like feeling soft-I love being a woman, nothing will ever change that. But I'm a woman who loves other women. So what if I dress like a man, it's what underneath-and inside-that counts more than what I wear.

2006-08-11 09:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 1 2

How many lesbians do you know? Give me a count...you sound as if you know every gay woman in the world as you make sweeping generalizations. I know lesbians who are more fem than any model you will ever know. I know women who are butcher than you will ever be...but then I know men who are butcher than you will ever be, and I know men who are more fem than anyone you will ever date. There is NO one type person in any catagory, so there are no answers to your question. And, why in the world would you give a damn in the first place? None of them are going to go out with you, no matter how you dress or act.

2006-08-11 09:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

oh, I'm growing weary of this same question again and again. that is a stereotype! we don't all "dress and act like guys." the same is true for straight women. not every women, straight or lesbian is a girly girl.
no one is lying to themself. lesbian are women who love women. some are femme, some are not.
you watch too much tv/movies!

2006-08-11 09:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1 1

They're still woman, no matter what they dress like, no matter what they act like, their gender is still female. They're still woman dispite gender rolls making you think you have to act a certain way.

It could also be that the lesbian stereotype is that weird dyke one, and people actually listen to sereotypes, but chances are people generally actually like acting like that.

Why do you like what turns YOU on? It should be the same answer you can't really judge people on what they like. Which means they arn't lying to themselves, hell they could be more open.

2006-08-11 09:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0 1

I wonder too....If I was to become a lesbian I'd fall for the girlie girls....not someone trying to immitate a man.If that was the case then Why not just go for the men.

2006-08-11 10:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mz Bee 3 · 1 0

for the same reason that gay guys act like women. Sometimes it's genetic, sometimes the upbringing, or a combination thereof. They feel the same way as the other sex.

2006-08-11 09:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by billysimas 3 · 0 0

Not all of us do!! My wife is very feminine and the guys are always stunned when they learn that she's gay. She is so beautiful, great body and brains, too. A real heartbreaker! You'd never know she's the wife of a woman unless you asked her.

2006-08-11 09:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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