I'm supposed to look after my father-in-law because I'm married to my wife. But if my best friend is equally suffering I'd much rather look after him. Forget my intuitive feelings.Am I right or wrong?
2006-08-11 09:08:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is there a compromise possible here? While your friend is important, your wife's father is also important. See if you can divide the time up somehow, or bring them both together.
Pray for a solution which will leave everyone feeling that at least you're doing your best, and you all can share a joy for life and the hardships of living it. Talk this over with everyone involved. Be gentle and honest. Be brave.
2006-08-11 09:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think it is a question of rather, I have family that I wouldnt give lift across the street for. However, most of my family (which includes my wifes family) are among people I consider close personal friends. They have been with with me and supported me. The people would be the first group I would turn to in a time of need. I suspect that your wife feels this way about her father but not this way about your friend. Has nothing to do with being relation and everything to do with you and your wife reaching a understanding.
2006-08-11 16:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Looking4Help727 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father-in-law is not blood. It's really not your responsibility to look after him. If you want to, that would be nice, but your not responsible for doing it. It would be about the same situation as your bestfriend. You will be doing it for the kindness and caring, not because you have to. If you would rather take care of your bestfriend, I would let your wife's family take care of him. It's their responsiblity anyway. If you are doing it for your wife, that is a different story. If your wife is the only one left in her family and she can't do it and she asked you to help, that's okay. But if there are other family members that can help out, I would tell them to.
2006-08-11 16:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really a matter of opinion.. some people don't believe blood relationships are bette rthen life time friendships.. but i totally see where your coming from.. you can;t be in two places at once, completely understandable, annd you are completely right but at the same time just let your wife and father in law know that you're thinkign about him and that he is in your prayers and you are there if he needs you.. but you have someone else just as important to you in need that needs you too. they'll both understand you are only doing your best. it's hard i'm sure..
2006-08-11 16:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by .:*BeAuTiFuL*:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer; blood relationships last forever and cannot be broken by time or anything and life time friendships can and have broken apart with the test of time. Thats not to say which one is better or stronger or cannot survive together, but what you have to decide is totally upto you because you are the one who has to live with your decisions right or wrong! Good luck
2006-08-11 16:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You choose your friends and you are stuck with your family. But the choice in friendship also allows for the choice in leaving your friendship. Blood relationships involve duty and loyalty, important factors when you need help in life: the choice factor is eliminated and you give and receive the help so badly needed.
2006-08-11 16:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong you will not be looking after your father in law you will be looking out for your wife's welfare. Help your friend when you can, take care of what is at home first
2006-08-11 16:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by gobobgo55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you must...look after your father in law because you have to and look after your friend becasue you want to...family is family and you do love your wife right? do it because of her and because it is the 'right' thing to do...i know it can be hard!!!! my grandmother and i don't get along very well..i think she is a b**** (even though i do love her i really don't like her) but i still call her on holidays and wish her a happy birthday...sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do....
2006-08-11 16:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships are built and strong ones have been through a lot - we just inherit relations and have no say in the matter
Friendship everytime
2006-08-11 17:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by LifeChange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id go wit u but ya father in law isnt classed as a blood relation
2006-08-11 16:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋