i am no sure what to tell both guys
2006-08-11 08:55:14 · 24 answers · asked by First Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i had had sex with my x-boyfriend will i was asked to marrie my fucture husban. whta ahould i do
2006-08-11 08:57:23 · update #1
same thing here If you don't actually love the one who proposed don't do it it will be a mistake if your ex is going to want to be in your childs life he wants to be in yours too even if you don't quite think. so don't make any decisions until you figure out exactly what you want and know that you deserve everything even the things that men can't provide
2006-08-11 09:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by krisforre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is hell to read. First of, you should be ashamed of yourself for sleeping around knowing you will be married soon! Secondly, tell both men the truth now. Would you rather your fiance find out later when you're both married? Get the lies out in the open and out of the way. If your soon to be husband is very understanding about this..great! At least the truth is out. If your fiance decides to leave you because of this, well,,,you just have to face the consequences of your actions. It's called being a responsible adult.
2006-08-11 16:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically just be honest about the whole thing. Lies and procrastination will only make the situation get out of hand with time. So sit each guy down, probably seperately, and tell them the truth. If you want to get married to your future husband and he still wants to marry you, that's fine...but also keep in mind that your ex may want to keep in contact with his baby as well, and you should allow that for your baby's and your ex's sake. But beware of anger and jealousy from either guy, because your future husband may decide not to marry you or your ex may decide to try and win his child back, so be cautious in whatever you decide...Good Luck!
2006-08-11 16:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tell.Me.Sweetly. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth and deal with whatever consequences follow. You were unfaithful and careless (ever heard of birth control?) and you need to clean up the mess you have made of your life. At least by telling the truth now, you can go on from here free of any fear the real story will come out later. That is no way to live. And your child deserves to know who it's father is.
2006-08-11 16:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never work without you telling the truth. This is a mess and you need to straighten it out. Before you get married I'm not sure if you even love any of these two or if you love both it is a mess work it out don't make a bigger mess out of it. Good Luck
2006-08-11 16:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your future husband, and the babies dad... it is not fair or RIGHT if you don't.... sure it may hurt the guy you plan to marry that you cheated on him, but it would hurt a hell of a lot more for HIM if he gets attached to this kid thinking its his and find out its not...also if there are medical problems with the baby or on the dads side of the family you need to know... Also for the husband if he has a medical condition and needs a donation he needs to kno the kid is not a canadit probably...
and lastly if the husband is marrying because he thinks he is the dad to the baby it is not fair or right to do that to him.
tell him and hope he understands and respect your honesty.
be honest...
2006-08-11 16:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, it would be wrong for him to have to raise a child thinking that it is his, the past has a way of catching up with us, plus you'll all end up on jerry springer! What happens when they find out? They;ll be so hurt, the fathers and the child - come clean
2006-08-11 16:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you take this information to your grave or the best choice is to tell the truth....If he loves you then he will be with you forever. Then there is the simple fact that is it really fair to deny the father...Use your best judgement, seek professional help or if you are involved in any kind of Christian Church seek advise from people who will not miss guide you.
2006-08-11 16:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by faith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, learn to spell and enunciate properly. Grammatical errors are not the way to bring a child into this world. Secondly, you need to be honest with yourself and with the men in your life. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems. You have bigger fish to fry it seems to me.
2006-08-11 16:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the Maury Show. They deal in things like this all the time. They even pay for the paternity test.
2006-08-11 16:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋