How can I get my wife to intiate sex??

Answer 1

Communication... Communication... Communication.

Tell her what you really like. Start by saying "I really like it when you... (name a particular thing).... Whisper it in her ear in a very very slow sexy manner. It's important to first make sure the mood and ambiance is set. OR ... do it spontaneously when you've noticed she's in a great mood. Also, be sure to find out what her love language is.. For example, she may be the kind of wife who appreciates a touchy and feeley husband or a husband that verbalizes love, compliments her on how she looks, how she handles the home, work etc. Or she may be a person who appreciates when certain actions are completed by you without her asking (ie working on a project at home, taking control of some household stuff, seeing you handling business with finances or the children, if applicable) or she may be a person who likes gifts of love (flowers, perfume, candy, dinner, etc, walks in the park, romantic getaways.)

When you got that going on and you see she's in a great relaxed mood (open for receiving affection) turn on all your charm and sexiness.. whisper, caress, foundle, tease, then gently.. tell her you get really turned-on "by her" when she takes control. If she reponds and says she feels awkward or doesn't know how... then you might need to give her direction or do a mini roll reversal. Get inside her head and find out what turns her on then tell her to act on it. Or tell her that for one night you'll do whatever she commands you to do to her in bed (or where ever) Give her total permission to have power over you. Your delivery is key!

That should get it going for you. Glad to help anyone who's interested in keeping their marriage healthy, alive and intact. Because Marriage is a BEAUTIFUL Thing!

Answer 2

Don't make advances. Give her some space. Allow her to come to you. When she does, appreciate it and don't jump all over her - go slow and let her do what she wants to do. If she wants you to take the lead after she makes the advance, be the man and take it. And do things for her that don't involve sex at all. Give her a back rub, initiate kissing WITHOUT SEX, give her a hug, don't grab just her **** or her *** - caress all her skin, smell her hair, take part in all of her not just the erotic parts. Make her a nice meal and then lead her into the a bubble bath and leave her alone.

She will initiate sex when she feels that her needs are being met.

Answer 3

You can't by definition. If you tell her to initiate sex it's really you initiating.

I don't like sex as much as my husband does but I have taken the time to learn about a guy's needs. For instance, men think about sex at a rate of something like every 16 seconds??? Also when a man says he is drop-dead exhausted it means EXCEPT FOR SEX! I personally don't initiate much and my husband has learned to accept that, but I have learned to say YES more often so we're both learning.

I can tell you that there are some songs that turn me on like crazy and if I'm listening to them he won't have to initiate because I'll turn it on for him. If she has anything that turns her on try just having it in the background but not approaching her upfront, maybe she'll get in the mood.

Also for a woman, sex starts in the kitchen in the morning. That is, you should be wooing her all day long if you want to have sex that night. Just stroking her on her hair or arm, surprise phone calls, a rose at dinner, cleaning up after dinner, etc. Yes it sounds mushy but lots of women fall all over it. Make her laugh and be tender.

Answer 4

The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to back off from initiating it for a spell. It might take awhile, but, give her some time and see how long it will take her to need it. Having the time to actually develop a need for it, made me jump all over him. And then once she does, make it amazing sex... and then talk about it incessantly for awhile. Let her know what it did to you to know she needed you...

Answer 5

Every do the dishes? Ever get a sitter for the kids and take her out on a date? Ever tell her you love her? Ever take a shower together?

Answer 6

Make her feel like the sexiest dang woman on earth, let her know she's wanted and when she builds up enough confidence she will initiate it all on her own.

Answer 7

ha..my bf keeps telling me to do the same thing..but if i get turned down i really get upset or feel not good enough or that i don't turn him on, which he tell s me i am crazy because i do it for him..(TURN HIM ON). maybe keep telling her that it is a turn on and that you would really like it if she would initiate sex some times. but if you have turned he down before that is prob why she has her breaks on...good luck...

Answer 8

Tell her:

Hon, it ould be realy special if you take the initiative too. I want to feel that you are atracted to me as I am atracted to you. I love you and it would be wonderful to feel that you need me close to you.

Good luck

Answer 9

surely if you get her to initiate it, then she isn't technically initiating it?!

withhold from initiating it and see how long it takes for her to jump you
or accept the fact that some women prefer men to take the lead

Answer 10

Make her feel comfortable enough to initiate it. But have you talked to her about it? You need to know why she doesn't initiate it and she needs to know that you'd like her to do it sometimes.