to "silent" type guys... why...?

Question

what's on your mind, really, whenever you prefer to be silent (which is most of the time)?

and why do you prefer to keep silent most of the time?

come on... just this once, "talk".

thanks! =)

Answer 1

Honey, most of the time nothing goes on in their heads except how they might get their next lay.

Answer 2

I am one of the silent/shy type guys. Most of the time I am just contemplating why everyone else is so loud and feel a need to be noticed. That's in large group settings of course. Now in a small group of close friends or with an intimate female (now it is just my fiancee) I am a serious clown. I am an introvert with extroverted tendencies. So many simple things within my life have made me wary of being open. I prefer to get a good feel of what's going on before saying or doing much of anything. If we are quiet, we really are trying to figure out a good way to be noticed and accepted, without being ridiculed or rejected.

Heck I think the interesting part of this question were the answers. Thanks for the laughs guys/gals.

Answer 3

I've always been told I'm very quiet, and have never been much good at relationships. I often find myself thinking about all that could go wrong. That's what drives me away from people. In order to become close to someone you have to open up yourself to them, which removes your personal barriers leaving you with no defence against getting hurt. Perhaps he's been hurt in the past. What someone might be thinking depends on the person really, but don't just sit there and tell him how annoying it is that he doesn't talk, that will only make him close up more. Instead always be open with him yourself, tell him you're always willing to listen and sooner or later he'll open up. Or get him pissed. That works with me. If none of the above work then I would save yourself some grief and dump him! So there you go. Wanna go out for a drink?

Answer 4

I'm one of those 'silent' type guys. Why talk if I have nothing interesting to say?

A couple of years ago I was in a play... my main acting partner (the fellow who was playing my comic side kick)...had a very different way of working than I did. He would express every single idea he had to the director....no matter what it was. He constantly put himself out there..."How about this, how about that....what about this...or this...or like this...?" It was a little exhausting listening to him....but every once in a while he came up with something brilliant....about ten-percent of the time. The other ninety-percent was the director saying, "no,....no,...no,...no...no,...etc."
I, on the other hand, never put that much out there. I expressed probably ten percent of all the ideas I had...but usually the response I got from the director was "yes,...yes,...yes... etc".
There was no difference between the amount of good ideas we had.... we both had about ten good ideas out of a hundred....it's just that he expressed all his bad ideas, and I didn't.
The following year I was hired to play the lead role again but the other actor, despite the fact that we did equally good work the year before, wasn't hired again. The reason? He talked too much and the Director didn't like having to say "no".
If we have nothing valuable to say...why waste someone's time?

Answer 5

Some people just like to listen. To take everything in and contemplate the moment. Whether it is the ambience of the room, the beauty of the girl , the sound of the voice or just the pure interest of the topic being discussed. There is a certain beauty and satisfaction in the listening. On the other hand, the silence could be an act of boredom or stupidity.

Answer 6

This probably has to do with the whole confidence thing. Talking is just like anything else you do in life. If you are not confident about talking maybe thinking that people dont want to hear what you say, then a guy will be silent most of the time. Youve heard it before being said, " he's just shy" (transalted=lacks confidence)

Answer 7

I was just talking about this yesterday with a girl in the office. She asked if I was shy bcuz I don't talk all that much. Honestly, I just don't find chit chat that enjoyable. I'd rather talk when I have something to say and leave it at that. I'm not shy at all and have no problem striking up conversation if needed but meaningless conversation is just that, meaningless. I think it has to do with an intelligence level. Take that for what it's worth.

Answer 8

Some of us think that you should have something interesting or worthwhile to say before speaking. Silence is not a vacuum which must be filled by empty speech. Does this make us deep thinkers? Not necessarily. Sometimes just realists.

Answer 9

For me, it's not wanting to seem like someone who won't shut up. I have a lot of things going through my head and I'll gladly share them if someone asks, but I'm not all that willing to offer my thoughts without cause.

Plus, many times around people I don't know, I want to get to know them a little bit first. See what they're like and what kind of person they are.

Answer 10

well silency is the best policy at times
it works out on many occasion
its a sign of patience and not anger
well its more of a precaution rather than cure when we are silent
if we burst out then its difficult to control

i hope i talked a lot on it
thanks