What is the right age for a girl to marry, and how old should the guy be?
N.B. Both people are financially secure and independent.
2006-08-11 08:34:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sorry this is going to be a long one. I don't there is a "right" age...but I just received this the other day...I hope it helps you.
*A Soulful Relationship* by Reverend Ronald McFadden
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, a shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests.
Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
2006-08-11 08:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by THP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I believe marriage should be forever with very few exceptions, age doesn't matter nearly as much as maturity.
If you must have a number though... 26 for a woman and 30 for a man. Research has shown that people who wait until 26 to 28 years old to marry have a better chance of a long-term marriage.
2006-08-11 08:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl 20 to 25
boys 25 to 30
2006-08-11 08:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Azul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess there isn't a ''right'' age. I just guess if the two of them are financially secure and independent...they must be over 25 years old. Hope that covers your question!
2006-08-11 08:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by asimenia_psycho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The average is still 25 for women, 27 for men
2006-08-11 08:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say best to get your career grounded and rack up work and life experiences. Get married, in my outspoken opinion, in the early 30's. The very earliest is in late 20's (28 or 29). Same for the guy.
And save, save, save!!
2006-08-11 08:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in which age after 25, you feel this deep love, you can marry i think.
it could be a little bit later for guys.
but live how you feel, don't care what people's said on here..
2006-08-11 08:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by justforfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bout never, considering more than half the marriages today end in divorce.
2006-08-11 10:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jylsamynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 average for both seems okay.
2006-08-11 08:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Level 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋