So why is it people feel they can attack you and attack you like if you have no feelings! All I would like is a simple apology, some thing like “I f***ed up.” Then I will get over it. I am defiantly not going to stop down to their level and go off and scream and yell, for what? Some people are so selfish they do not care ‘bout anyone else but themselves! That is what kills me… then I feel awful for being so mean, cuz I am not a mean person. I am so frustrated I can not even tell you.
Thanks for letting me vent
;-)
2006-08-11 07:58:44 · 5 answers · asked by latina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some of the best advice I ever got was this:
If you are wrong, apologize...
If you are right, forgive.
It works every time. If someone wrongs you and it has you upset, forgive them, then move on. Don't let them make you a prisoner because you refuse to drop the grudge.
If you wrong someone else, own up to it, and apologize from your heart. Really mean it and try to make it better. Then move on. Do not be held prisoner by yourself by not just owning up and getting past something you may have done that is embarassing or whatever. Apologize and get on with your life. Plus it helps the other guy move on too (with the forgiving part).
Remember, there is no such thing as forgive and forget. Most of the time we do not have the ability to choose what sticks in our memory, though we can do the best we can to let it go. Frankly forgiving someone, whether you tell them or not, is for YOU. So is apologizing. They both help YOU get on with YOUR life.
This works for anyone, anywhere. It does not mean you lower your standards or just let people walk all over you. You still need to stand up for what you believe in and do what you feel is right, but if you try this, you will find your own heart is lighter and you carry less of a burden day to day.
I had a run-in with a teacher in one of my kid's schools. He was singling out the quiet, good students (my son) and letting the jocks and popular kids get away with murder. More than one parent went to talk to him, and he was beligerent and an *** about the whole thing. I stood my ground and demanded he apologize. Eventually he did, and then we got our son moved to another class (not long after this the guy was fired for sleeping with 15-year old girls in his class, the slime). I could have let that get to me for a long time. My son was very proud of his GPA (it was a perfect 4.0 up until that teacher) and he had a hard time not carrying a grudge. But one day we ran into that teacher in a store, and I cordially said hi and chatted for a minute while I was in line ahead of him. My son was flabbergasted, and jumped all over me when we left the store, but it helped me make my point. I told my son that I had forgiven the man, and that meant I could have a little chat, knowing in my heart that I did not have to keep those dark feelings in me any more. As an example I pointed out the fact that my son had not forgiven him and it bothered him enough that he yelled at his father (me) about it afterward in the car. He got it, and I think he has made those efforts from then on.
Remember, every minute you are mad (or upset or righteously indignant, or whatever), you lose 60 seconds of happiness.
2006-08-11 08:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by loggrad98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you'd be busy doing something else thursday without your cousin. deliver the message that her habit isn't suitable and that you wont tolerate her disrespecting your emotions. for sure you deserve an apology, even after being the bigger man or woman to apologize for hurling a racket at her. sounds like you go with a more effective acceptable impression to be round and that her recommendations-set is affecting you.
2016-11-24 20:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just take out their own personal problems on other people just cause they dont know how to communicate their REAL problems to the people who are actually making them mad. Does that make sense?? I hope so. Good luck.
2006-08-11 08:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some things ant as simple as just a little apology......some things you cant forgive or forget.... so a apology cant always make things better...
sorry if im off subject i didnt read ^_^"
2006-08-11 08:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by aliens? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was nothing. go ahead and vent all you want.
2006-08-11 08:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by delmore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋